Friends are the worst!

[crazyBoyjJ]

I've been reading a few of these post. Honestly best friends are just movies theory they never last and friendships are shitty. Online friends treat me better than my real friends.

The issue mainly started with my two best friends to realize where I am living everyone is just to theirselves and family. So it's better to be by yourself or with ur family. I honestly love my best friends but they can be a dick and bitch. I'm not saying I'm perfect either but they make me feel guilty for being me, their not very supportive of the person I am. They find every fucking excuse for themselves to get out of going somewhere with me and hitting me up and shit. Then they come and blame me for not hitting them up and getting jealous.

I've been jealous of people since I was a child and I'm trying to change that. But they keep judging me for it instead of them helping me to get rid of it. For example my friend he could go out with his "crew" and post it all over and when I say something about he says I'm getting jealous, then why the fuck he didn't invite me. Aren't I his best friend, I don't really have that much guy friends. I don't hang out with those who I have much. I don't have a father that I can talk to about guy stuff or even play a little bit of basketball with. I'm mostly around girls 95% of the time. My family is boring when I ask to go out watch a movie with my sister she gets on bitchy. When I wanna go to the beach my mom says she's tired. Then I never bring it up again because it's goanna happen all over.

My girl best friend has a lot of issues and I try to help her because I love her but sometimes she makes everything so difficult that I don't wanna help her. She doesn't listen to anyone when we try to help her. One time I was a bit annoyed and I told her that I didn't wanna speak to her and she stopped talking to me and acted completely fake around me lately. If I invite her out she's goanna say her guardian wouldn't let her out but yet she sneaks out with her boyfriend.

When I invite my friends places they either ignore me or say they can't come or it's because I didn't "give them a week in advance of the plan."

I honestly just want new friends or even my friends from my elementary days back. Because everyone lately is fake. I like to do stuff on my own yes. But I also like going out and interacting with people. I see people on snap having fun this summer with their friends and family but I'm just doing nothing or the same shit at home. When I go out by myself I feel so weird like I feel uncomfortable and I feel like people are looking at me idk why. So it's harder to make friends. But when I'm with a friend or two I feel like I could meet new people.

Sorry, you can lock this I guess I just needed to let it out because right now I'm feeling alone and idk bored. I guess, I'd like some advice thanks.

[warbit]

That sucks man, they say that you should hate your best friend. I certainly do! We piss eachother off all the time but we are still besties. If I were you I'd go and meet some new people:)

[Atlantis]

Hi there, just giving my opinion here based on a few things that you've said:

Yes , not everyone is perfect , but at least we all try to get along the best that we can.
Also , your friends have lives too and may plan stuff with their families meaning that they can't do stuff with you 'even if they plan a week in advance'. People do change as they grow up, and I wouldn't call them 'fake'; it's just that they've changed quite a lot that it just doesn't seem like you're talking to the same person.
I bet a lot of us would love to go back to primary school days , not only due to the better friendships and the fun, but also to get rid of stress, myself included. Doing stuff on your own is also good , but make sure you try your best to socialise with others as that will make you happy.

We are all here if you need any more help, ok?

[crazyBoyjJ]

Hi there, just giving my opinion here based on a few things that you've said:

Yes , not everyone is perfect , but at least we all try to get along the best that we can.
Also , your friends have lives too and may plan stuff with their families meaning that they can't do stuff with you 'even if they plan a week in advance'. People do change as they grow up, and I wouldn't call them 'fake'; it's just that they've changed quite a lot that it just doesn't seem like you're talking to the same person.
I bet a lot of us would love to go back to primary school days , not only due to the better friendships and the fun, but also to get rid of stress, myself included. Doing stuff on your own is also good , but make sure you try your best to socialise with others as that will make you happy.

We are all here if you need any more help, ok?


I actually don't wanna go back to primary school days and I get people have their families and lives. I do to, I'm just trying to say people shouldn't be fake about being friends with u and friends shouldn't judge other friends for their issues. We all have issues and lives. For example I invited a person to the movies then she said something came up, next thing I saw her in the park with some girl, she could have still made it to the movies because it was at latter time. Then she invited me to watch some horror movie. I don't even watch horror movies. People only do things when it's convenient for them not for u. And I get that I can't make everyone go to do stuff with me but friendship sometimes take sacrifice. My best friend is Spanish and he invited me out with his bros but yet when I'm making plans with people he has a problem with everyone or when I gotta do it. Yet I still make it to his plans. Some of the stuff he says to me isn't even cool, like he fucking told me that when he's going somewhere he just goanna let me see through snap like if that's cool or some shit. We used to tell each other everything now he's being a jerk because he got some online gf. If I got a gf I would never leave my bros hanging and making them feel bad. Honestly meeting people here your just goanna get butt hurt. If your not popular their not fucking with u.

[jamie_n5]

I hear your frustration and understand. I hope you can sort things out. I will be here for you if you ever want to talk.

[crazyBoyjJ]

I hear your frustration and understand. I hope you can sort things out. I will be here for you if you ever want to talk.

Thanks, I'm just going to ignore them and try not to worry since their not hitting me up. Kinda hard, but I'll try.

[Just JT]

Sometimes guys who are your best friend, you are not theirs. Just the way it is I guess. So when your best friend is out with his crew, reality is, he's with his most likely. As much as it sucks, you kinda need to share him like that. The more you try and get more of his time with you, the more he'll try and pull away, unless your his best also. It's messed up like that I know.

I'd just give him some space for a bit and go from there. Don't think he's doing anything to dis you or anything, it's just the way it is

[crazyBoyjJ]

Sometimes guys who are your best friend, you are not theirs. Just the way it is I guess. So when your best friend is out with his crew, reality is, he's with his most likely. As much as it sucks, you kinda need to share him like that. The more you try and get more of his time with you, the more he'll try and pull away, unless your his best also. It's messed up like that I know.

I'd just give him some space for a bit and go from there. Don't think he's doing anything to dis you or anything, it's just the way it is

He's crew is mostly his cousins, I can't do anything with that but he tells me he only trust me and tell me certain stuff, now he's just acting different and he probably lying to me about something important for me. Which I don't want to think he would actually lie like that.

[Just JT]

What kinds of things? And what makes you feel like that?

[lemondrop]

Well if you do understand your issues(jealousy) maybe try to change that? I stopped talking with one "friend" because he was way to jealous,i really ,really hate that..

Anyway,they might be not the real friends,try to find others ;) just try to avoid those who brags a lot

[crazyBoyjJ]

What kinds of things? And what makes you feel like that?

Like what he's doing and normal stuff best friends talking about. Like I know he lies a lot sometimes and he would tell me he doesn't but I know he does. But I'm wanting a summer job where he works and he said their getting ready to put me in but I'm doubting that and he may be lying to make me feel better and making me hopeful for it which is dumb.

[Just JT]

Well if you know he's lying to you, how can you trust him?
How can you call someone your best friend if he lies to you or can't trust him?

[crazyBoyjJ]

Well if you know he's lying to you, how can you trust him?
How can you call someone your best friend if he lies to you or can't trust him?

Idk, I've been thinking about for a while actually and I did want to end the friendship couple times. Just that I don't really trust a lot of people but some people like him and my girl best friend.

[Just JT]

Idk, I've been thinking about for a while actually and I did want to end the friendship couple times. Just that I don't really trust a lot of people but some people like him and my girl best friend.

So you do trust him then?

[crazyBoyjJ]

So you do trust him then?

Half trust and distrust.

[Just JT]

Half trust and distrust.

Seems to me you might wana branch out and see what other friendships you can create that might turn into a "best friend" relationship.

[crazyBoyjJ]

Seems to me you might wana branch out and see what other friendships you can create that might turn into a "best friend" relationship.

True

[rioo]

maybe I think it's better for you to start join community, because you can share same interest with others which is make you all bonded together strongly. You will be part of them.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

Sounds like you've had a rough time of it. I hope things work out for you