Divorce

[Beach_Blonde]

My parents are going to get a divorce, and I couldn't be happier. Is it wrong of me to want my mom to leave my father? I know he is one half of the reason I am alive but he really isn't a good husband and he is an even worse father. He is married to his job the only part I feel guilty about is that he just left for deployment. But at the same time if he wouldn't have left my mom wouldn't have found out about the affair he has been having.

I'm just really conflicted and was hoping someone could help or shed some light or help me out.

[Atlantis]

Hi there Brooke,

Don't worry, it's fine to be feeling conflicted. This is a tough time for both yourself and your mother. Sometimes these things happen, and there's nothing really you can do about it. If he's not a good husband / father, maybe it's for the best that you separate. Talking to your mom will definitely help, and even though it might not seem like it now, things will be OK in the end. If you ever want to, your father could be just a phone call/letter or whatever away. Stay positive, and things will turn out ok.
Hope this helps, and you can reply to this if you need more help :)

[Seth Green]

Nah man. Don't feel guilty. He might be your father but that really doesn't always mean you owe him something.

[jamie_n5]

Well it is probably for the best. If he is cheating then he has lost interest in your mom and she deserves happiness and a faithful man. I feel for you hang in there. Message me if you want an understanding ear.

[Melodic]

I know when my parents split up, I developed major depression for 3 years. I don't think it's bad to be happy they divorced, especially when they didn't have a happy marriage. Don't feel bad about crying about it either as it's a hard situation to go through. :)

[Ranpo]

Things don't always work out the way we think they should but I feel in this case everything is going to work out fine. Your mother will certainly find new love and also I'd like to add , be there for your mother-- no doubt this might be hard for her, whether she says anything or not. Reassurance and spoken faith in her decision might make the both of you feel better together.

[TheFutureDoctor]

Hello Brooke. I went through the same thing. My dad was a pretty bad husband and an awful father. I was abused a lot by him same goes to my mom. So my mom told him to leave and he went to his dad's house. But now they seem to have worked it out and they are not divorcing. Although I am not fully convinced he has changed. But Im trying to make this work for my mom as she needs him as she has some medical issues right now.
Feel free to PM me if you need to talk about anything.

[TheFutureDoctor]

Hi brooke I have gone through the same thing. But ultimately they didnt divorce and although I don't trust him anymore (used to abuse me a lot, is insisting he won't now) as I have still seen the madness in his eyes, its not so bad and Im trying to make it work for my mom who has some health issues. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk,