Help with dating

[henners]

I'm gonna ask this girl out, and she's a good friend, but if she says no, I don't want to lose her as a friend. Should I just leave it, and love her as a friend, or should I act and risk it? I'm confused and I love her, and I want to be with her. I'd just prefer to be bf and gf rather than just friends.

[Croconaw]

I think you should tell her. If you wait, you will end up regretting not telling her sooner. You could also add in that you don't want to ruin your friendship as part of your telling her. It would shoe her that you care about you and you value your friendship very much.

[Cadanance00]

Go ahead and ask her out. Just cuz you ask her out doesn't mean you're have to be bf/gf, and she'll like it that you asked anyway. It won't drive her away and she'll like it that you gave her the choice. (According to my sis & she's a girl)

[kevenity]

Do you have any idea that she likes you back?
I think it would be nice if you did ask her out. you shouldn't remain to keep it to yourself bc that would hurt. take a chance but it'd be a lot easier if you knew if she felt the same way back.

[Splashy Splash]

I always say it is not good to leave your true feelings inside. I think you should tell her how you truly feel. If she says she doesn't want to date you than tell her immediately that you still want to remain friends.

[warbit]

Just go for it, Yolo right?

[henners]

I know she has dance on Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday and Saturday, so should I ask her to a movie on Sunday? Also when should I ask. 1,2,3,4 days before the planned date?

[Lawrel]

I think you should tell her. What if she too wants more than being friends. Just go for it.

[henners]

Every time I see her I feel a lump in my throat. I'm gonna ask her out on Friday to see a film on Sunday. I'm nervous :( I just really don't want to lose our friendship

[ClaraWho]

Well if you really care for her it won't be a choice about telling her. Instead of asking her out and running the risk of being misunderstood, be direct. Say it doesn't have to change how things are between you, that you don't want to lose her as a friend, but that you think everyone should know when they are loved/cared about. If she's emotionally in a good place, mature, she should be flattered and understanding even if she isn't romantically interested.

Good luck,

~ Clara

[henners]

Thank you for the help. I will ask her tomorrow, to see if shell go to the movies on Sunday with me.

She said she was busy both saterday and Sunday. She didn't say no though. Do you think she's uninterested, or actually busy. In think I'll give her a rest from messaging her for a bit, not to seem obsessive

[Typhlosion]

henners Since you said she does dancing and other things, she was probably really busy and did need the time, she might even have to reschedule her next week to make some time for the movies. But the absence of a no isn't bad, and yeah give it a rest. Best of luck!

[henners]

Thanks, so if I give it a rest,.should I ask her again, or see if she asks me now she knows I want to spend time with her?

[Tesserax]

Take the risk. A possibility is to just ask her if her schedule is free any time, and then ask her if she'd like to go do something.

If she says her schedule is too full at the moment, then it either is or she isn't interested, so just be patient and back off. Wait until the holidays come around and school is off, then ask her again. If she still says no then she's just not interested and leave it at that.

Basically, be proactive, but not pushy. Ask the questions, arrange locations (obviously asking if she's fine with it) and times, give her a list of activities to do (or just ask if she'd like to do a specific one). I think if you constantly ask her and she keeps saying she's busy then you're pretty much crossing the line and you don't want to do that. Just play it cool, take it slowly, and let the current take you where it wants. You have no control over her, so you can only hope for the best and try to show her that you'd make a good boyfriend.

Remember, don't try to get her, try to show her that you'd be a good partner, and she'll come to you on her own. Good luck!

[jamie_n5]

I agree with what others have said. Ask her out and if she says no then tell her OK we can be friends. Also tell her that maybe in time if she is ready to date to let you know cause you would really like to date her.

[Fussik]

So typical... If you want to, just ask. If you don't, you will regret it in the future. You will feel really bad if she finds someone