i do not understand, first date disappointment, PLZ HELP!

[deviler]

So a little about me. I am just a 16 yr old boy with a real heart and soul. I've online dated for many years ( 13 and up apps), and ive found a little success, but never a relationship or ongoing thing. UNTIL! 2 weeks ago i met this girl on MYLol (dont know if u guys r u familiar with this app), but anyways its a dating app. We were flirting a lot and she actually said she loves me and she would text me good night and good morning EVERY single day. (BTW we both live in miami) and anyways we schedule a date together 2 days ago, and it just went terrible D : First of All, she lived near this mall we met up at for a movie, but me on the other hand, had to drive f - ing 51 minutes. i thought it showed a huge commitment. Second of all, she knew how nervous I was, so she did something SUPER WRONG! she brought her friends when she knew how nervous i was, and now i also had to worry about introducing myself to her friends that idk for Shid . thanks for giving me more pressure! i waved and gave a smile, but they looked at me like a couple of ghetto, serious kids and I didnt know what to do. in the inside my feelings were REALLY hurt. A guy who drives 51 minutes deserves more respect than that. THEN we go see a movie, and 5 minutes after we sit down, her friend's phone rings(idk why the friend was in the same movie like wtf!) and she says my date's mom is calling and her sister is in the hospital. My date gets the phone talks a bit. DUDE THATS A FIB/LIE!!! why would her mom be calling her friends phone for something seriously like that. then she says sorry i have to leave. i wanted to watch the movie myself but i was in tears and couldnt emotionally handle myself after so i called a $30.00 UBER DRIVE(becuz it was so far). SHe basically gave me 20 min and i had to drive 51 minutes, thought we were loving each over text, then she brings her mean friends who f-ing used me. When i got home im not gonna lie but i cried to my mom and told her everything and she said dont worry sweetheart that was all on her. I feel like a baby, but thats i feel in the inside. i went to go block her on instagram but she already did, like if anything, you were a mean b word and im the one that should block you

Now im searching again...but i felt so betrayed, and felt like that date was a piece of garbage D : any advice on finding a girl with value(bc its impossible) and i feel like im never going to find a wife tbh.

[Flapjack]

So a little about me. I am just a 16 yr old boy with a real heart and soul. I've online dated for many years ( 13 and up apps), and ive found a little success, but never a relationship or ongoing thing. UNTIL! 2 weeks ago i met this girl on MYLol (dont know if u guys r u familiar with this app), but anyways its a dating app. We were flirting a lot and she actually said she loves me and she would text me good night and good morning EVERY single day. (BTW we both live in miami) and anyways we schedule a date together 2 days ago, and it just went terrible D : First of All, she lived near this mall we met up at for a movie, but me on the other hand, had to drive f - ing 51 minutes. i thought it showed a huge commitment. Second of all, she knew how nervous I was, so she did something SUPER WRONG! she brought her friends when she knew how nervous i was, and now i also had to worry about introducing myself to her friends that idk for Shid . thanks for giving me more pressure! i waved and gave a smile, but they looked at me like a couple of ghetto, serious kids and I didnt know what to do. in the inside my feelings were REALLY hurt. A guy who drives 51 minutes deserves more respect than that. THEN we go see a movie, and 5 minutes after we sit down, her friend's phone rings(idk why the friend was in the same movie like wtf!) and she says my date's mom is calling and her sister is in the hospital. My date gets the phone talks a bit. DUDE THATS A FIB/LIE!!! why would her mom be calling her friends phone for something seriously like that. then she says sorry i have to leave. i wanted to watch the movie myself but i was in tears and couldnt emotionally handle myself after so i called a $30.00 UBER DRIVE(becuz it was so far). SHe basically gave me 20 min and i had to drive 51 minutes, thought we were loving each over text, then she brings her mean friends who f-ing used me. When i got home im not gonna lie but i cried to my mom and told her everything and she said dont worry sweetheart that was all on her. I feel like a baby, but thats i feel in the inside. i went to go block her on instagram but she already did, like if anything, you were a mean b word and im the one that should block you

Now im searching again...but i felt so betrayed, and felt like that date was a piece of garbage D : any advice on finding a girl with value(bc its impossible) and i feel like im never going to find a wife tbh.
Chill dude! She probably just brought her friends in case you were a rapists or murderer or catfish! She doesn't sound that nice though, you're better off without her.

[Anonymous2002]

So a little about me. I am just a 16 yr old boy with a real heart and soul. I've online dated for many years ( 13 and up apps), and ive found a little success, but never a relationship or ongoing thing. UNTIL! 2 weeks ago i met this girl on MYLol (dont know if u guys r u familiar with this app), but anyways its a dating app. We were flirting a lot and she actually said she loves me and she would text me good night and good morning EVERY single day. (BTW we both live in miami) and anyways we schedule a date together 2 days ago, and it just went terrible D : First of All, she lived near this mall we met up at for a movie, but me on the other hand, had to drive f - ing 51 minutes. i thought it showed a huge commitment. Second of all, she knew how nervous I was, so she did something SUPER WRONG! she brought her friends when she knew how nervous i was, and now i also had to worry about introducing myself to her friends that idk for Shid . thanks for giving me more pressure! i waved and gave a smile, but they looked at me like a couple of ghetto, serious kids and I didnt know what to do. in the inside my feelings were REALLY hurt. A guy who drives 51 minutes deserves more respect than that. THEN we go see a movie, and 5 minutes after we sit down, her friend's phone rings(idk why the friend was in the same movie like wtf!) and she says my date's mom is calling and her sister is in the hospital. My date gets the phone talks a bit. DUDE THATS A FIB/LIE!!! why would her mom be calling her friends phone for something seriously like that. then she says sorry i have to leave. i wanted to watch the movie myself but i was in tears and couldnt emotionally handle myself after so i called a $30.00 UBER DRIVE(becuz it was so far). SHe basically gave me 20 min and i had to drive 51 minutes, thought we were loving each over text, then she brings her mean friends who f-ing used me. When i got home im not gonna lie but i cried to my mom and told her everything and she said dont worry sweetheart that was all on her. I feel like a baby, but thats i feel in the inside. i went to go block her on instagram but she already did, like if anything, you were a mean b word and im the one that should block you

Now im searching again...but i felt so betrayed, and felt like that date was a piece of garbage D : any advice on finding a girl with value(bc its impossible) and i feel like im never going to find a wife tbh.

Shit man that must suck :( I've never had to drive out to see someone but i did wait about 2 hours for my gf to come out she said we would meet up and i waited there, looking like a fucking fool as i went to message her she had blocked me on facebook and wasn't picking up her phone, every night i would think about her then a week later she text saying that she didn't want to go out, i then asked if she meant outside or out with me, she got her sister to message me instead. It sucked but probably not as bad as what you got :( I currently am talking to someone on facebook who is like that, i live close to the train station, if she wants to meet i'll only have to walk a minute and if it goes bad, can't be upset anymore, been let down too many times already. But she sounds like a real bitch. and your not a "baby" for crying, it's healthy to let loose, of coarse some people may judge you but your safe with your mum especially if she tells you that, mine has mocked me for cutting, even telling me to go slice up my arms again, she was angry when she said it so she didn't mean it, but with the other girls i can see why she would bring them, there are a lot of pedophiles out there and she probably didn't want to risk anything, your best bet isn't going to be online though, i would suggest talking to a girl in your school, i know this can be hard, I've had 3 serious girlfriends, the rest are not as much, 1 of which i made after being friends with them for over a year, another i was helping through some tough times and then it turned out my favorite couple had broken up, they seemed so nice, turned out she cheated on him but i didn't know till she did with me, and the 3rd which i explained in this story, i was that fucking high i ended up asking her out. I don't really have a point but try becoming friends with someone appose to dating them strait away, so you get to know them, know if they are your type, if your one of those people who think any hole is a goal then your not going to get any love, just sex, and probably an std on that path. But stay strong, you will find someone ;)

[Tyrell]

Chill dude! She probably just brought her friends in case you were a rapists or murderer or catfish! She doesn't sound that nice though, you're better off without her.

saying he should chill, if they thought he might be a rapist they were better of not treating him that way, or else shit would happen to them, yo I'm sorry man, but I'm telling you you'll be ok with that girl.

[Flapjack]

saying he should chill, if they thought he might be a rapist they were better of not treating him that way, or else shit would happen to them, yo I'm sorry man, but I'm telling you you'll be ok with that girl.
I was explaining how bringing friends to a first date where there people met online is common. I don't get your point? They shouldn't have treated him bad becuase then he would do something bad? How about they should just be nice people?

[Dalcourt]

The bringing friends thing is very common do be more secure ya can't be too careful with people ya meet online ... and ys let someone "important" call you when the date sucks and ya want a quick and easy way out.
that this happened is very unfortunate for you but well shit happens when dating.
you will always have bad dates like that but relax and don't make too much anout it ya will have good ones, too.
just give it time... There's unfortunately no how to on getting good dates...so you just have to try till ya find the right girl.

[kevenity]

NOO I'm so sorry this happened ): you seem like such a really cool guy. she is not right for you and she definitely led you on. I don't think you did anything wrong. everything she did was awful and especially the ditching you and instagram blocking. man, this is really upsetting!!