Scared of Sex? Prepared? Safe = turnoff?

[Polo2847]

Is anyone else scared or worried by the thought of sex? I mean like, everyone these days seem to know how to do "it" already because of porn. But I mean, would being safe be a turnoff? There's so many things to prepare like tests to schedule before doing anything, making sure you have condoms and dental dams, pills, etc. Would asking someone, hey let's get tested first, be a turn off? I'm sure you can't really ask this on a one night stand. Or using a condom during oral sex, or dental dams for vaginal-oral sex. Did any of you use any protection during your first time?

[kylem]

After reading you're post, I don't know what to do now! I'm soo confused and more afraid now lol, maybe I'll just stay a virgin..

[Amber98]

guess that's what sex is about.. trusting each other.

if you both love each other you'll trust and won't let the other person get hurt so if you had any stds you'd tell your partner. but nowadays people just yolo lol. they rather have sex and die than die as a virgin i guess

[Dwemer]

What Amber said. Also if u use a condom your already safe against most deseases.

[Polo2847]

What Amber said. Also if u use a condom your already safe against most deseases.

That's true, if my partner was giving ME a blowjob, or I was f*cking them. But if I was giving him/her oral, whether it be vaginal, penile, or anal, I would i have to use some sort of protection like condom (dick) or dental dam (vaginal/anal).

[Karkat]

guess that's what sex is about.. trusting each other.

if you both love each other you'll trust and won't let the other person get hurt so if you had any stds you'd tell your partner. but nowadays people just yolo lol. they rather have sex and die than die as a virgin i guess

Some people don't know if they have STDs, like rape victims, and sometimes partners can lie about that sort of thing.

But other than that I agree.

[Lovecraft]

Is anyone else scared or worried by the thought of sex? I mean like, everyone these days seem to know how to do "it" already because of porn. But I mean, would being safe be a turnoff? There's so many things to prepare like tests to schedule before doing anything, making sure you have condoms and dental dams, pills, etc. Would asking someone, hey let's get tested first, be a turn off? I'm sure you can't really ask this on a one night stand. Or using a condom during oral sex, or dental dams for vaginal-oral sex. Did any of you use any protection during your first time?

Of course we used protection! I don't know any guy who would risk getting a girl pregnant just to get his rocks off. How hard is it to run to the corner store and get condoms? I also tend to keep one or two in my wallet just in case he's ever out and it's cold out or something so we don't want to go out and buy some.

Being safe is NOT a turnoff. Not at all. I'd recommend just keeping a single condom in your bag or something; you never know when it might happen.

As for tests, I admittedly didn't ask him to get tested before we first had sex, and still haven't. Things have been smooth sailing so far so I guess I just assume he's fine. As long as you use a condom you should be safe.

[jenny2234]

Just use a condom and you'll be fine.

[Ben101]

I wasn't that worried until our sex-ed lesson on STI's yesterday, And how a condom doesnt protect you from them all, but as long as you know the persons sexual history and play it safe, it will be fine! The pictures we were shown were so bad yesterday that someone fainted and had to be sent home.

[myfoodisnotshared]

With guys, playing safe is the absolute opposite of a turn off. It makes girls feel all warm and cared for and like she's doing the right thing by doing it with you many times:-) I'd go with duo protection, she goes on birth control, you use a condom. If you want to go condom free, then you get tested - ignore the person who said she'll tell you if she has an STI, the chance she knows/feels able to tell you is just not worth it.

Just make sure you approach it in a 'I care about you, I respect you' way, not a 'mum said I had to' way. Because okay, that would be a turn off...

[SciMassKid]

It can be scary.

[PinkFloyd]

I think this is an awesome question to ask. I mean, everyone gets caught up in trying to do it that they forget what IT actually is. I mean, it's a big deal and you need to be emotionally and physically ready. There are legitemint risks that come with sex that kids like us need to realize exist.

[Lodan]

Yes the thought of having sex worries me for all kinds of reasons. It's definitely about trust though and I don't think the idea of making sure you're safe is a bad thing. That would make me more comfortable

[Luminous]

It's absolutely not a turnoff, actually it's a turn ON for me because I would know that my partner really cares and this isn't just some spur of the moment acting on temptation thing.

[MechaSniper]

It would depend on the person