I'm out

[pjones]

After the horrible situation in Orlando last week, while having dinner with my parents and brother I told them that I am either gay or bisexual. We had been talking about what happened and my parents were so sad and angry that something like that could happen to innocent people, that it made me feel proud of them, and proud of who I am.

So what happened? My parents started giggling!!! Turns out they knew all along I liked boys more than girls. When we all stopped laughing my dad opened a bottle of wine and we celebrated a little.

I hope anyone who is afraid or concerned about how family may react will have at least half the support I am getting. Its the most frightening thing I have ever done and I actually cried when I was saying it. I know not every family is like mine, but I will pray that you are accepted by at least one loved one, family, friend, school councilor, anyone, so you have a person to rely on for support, and a hug when it's needed most.

[SethfromMI]

I am glad it worked out so well for you man, good for you

[Melodic]

That's awesome!

My family was pretty much the same way when I came out as bisexual. Actually cracked a few jokes in there after I came out.

I'm glad to hear yours was the same way! :)

[Hideous]

Congratulations!!!

I'm so happy for you :)

[Moriya]

Yay! I'm glad everything worked out :)

[Hudor]

This is awesome. I'm glad to hear your family responded so well. :D

[Dalcourt]

Congratulations! !Great to hear your family is so accepting. This again proves my point that good parents pick up the signs and aren't surprised when their kid decides to come out to them.

[pjones]

Thanks everyone. I know not everyone gets the support I am, and wish they would. peanut you're so right. I wasn't fooling them at all even though I thought I was. Really surprised my brother didn't say anything, he loves to mention potentially embarrassing things about me during dinner LOL

[Just JT]

Dude, that's like taking a horrible, sickening thing that happened, and made some kinda good out of it. Don't know how else to say that, and kinda sounds bad, but it's really great!!!

[pjones]

Dude, that's like taking a horrible, sickening thing that happened, and made some kinda good out of it. Don't know how else to say that, and kinda sounds bad, but it's really great!!!

It made me think it was time to be honest not only with myself but the people I love the most. And maybe in some small way it will make a difference? My best friend/lover really doesn't have to say anything to his parents, they figured us out too. Guess we weren't as discrete as we could have been when we thought they couldn't see or hear us. Dumb kids, right? But they are supportive too and said their door is always open.

[Typhlosion]

That's actually an amazing reaction from your parents! Glad it went so well, and c'grats(?) :)

[Just JT]

Dude you guys got some cool rents ya no?
I remeber my dad when I was younger, he was so outspoken against anything about that. Is why he never knew. I remeber thinking to myself how I knew who I was, and was so afraid to tell him. I knew what would happen if I did. And I felt like I was hiding who I was from someone I loved so much, it really hurt. I also really happy for you. It's sad, but it's true I think, that when something so bad happens, you need to find some good in it. And it really sucks when you look at it like that because it took such a bad thing to happen, but it worked out gray for you, should be proud of yourself and your family

[pjones]

Dude you guys got some cool rents ya no?
I remeber my dad when I was younger, he was so outspoken against anything about that. Is why he never knew. I remeber thinking to myself how I knew who I was, and was so afraid to tell him. I knew what would happen if I did. And I felt like I was hiding who I was from someone I loved so much, it really hurt. I also really happy for you. It's sad, but it's true I think, that when something so bad happens, you need to find some good in it. And it really sucks when you look at it like that because it took such a bad thing to happen, but it worked out gray for you, should be proud of yourself and your family

I am pretty proud of my family and his. We've been really close friends for 10 years. For awhile we both thought it was a phase, now we know it's so much more than that. I'm floating on a cloud. Just wish we could be together every night

[Bluebyrd]

Congrats! Reading these coming out stories brings a smile to my face. :) :) :)

[pjones]

Congrats! Reading these coming out stories brings a smile to my face. :) :) :)

thank you. also reading how brave some of the folks here have been it really helped me decide to do it.

[Seth Green]

Yeah, my family was similar. I don't think I was ever really in the closet.

[Atlantis]

Well done , good for you :). It's good to hear that it went well as well :)

[ImCoolBeans]

Congrats on coming out to your parents. It's tough coming out to anyone at first, but it was much harder for me to tell my parents than anyone else. I'm glad it went well for you and they are so supportive.

[jamie_n5]

K
Hey man I am so happy for you mine was a trainwreck at first.

[DoodleSnap]

This story really made me smile. I'm so glad it worked out well for you, and I'm so happy that you celebrated together. Congratulations!

[jockeyboy97]

Paul,
after reading your post about coming out , gave me a lot to think about. I finally got the balls to come out to my parents. Yes I told them that I'm bi possibly gay. I did this at a beach trip we were on. It has been eating inside of me for a long time and after reading your post helped me come out. It started with my Dad, I told him that I had to talk to him about something but was scared. He asked if I was in trouble or was I sick and that I should know that I can come to him with anything. After stammering I told him that I'm Bi or gay. He looked at me and them gave me a real hard hug and I could not stop crying, telling him I was sorry. He held me tight and kept kissing my forehead and
rocking me. He told me that he knew and so did my mother, that they had their suspicions and they have been waiting for this day. My Dad told me that no matter what he and my mother love me and that I'm still and will always be their sweet boy. It's my heart and soul that matter to them, not my personal sexual preference. My father called my Mother over an d told her for me. Again I began to cry like a baby and my Mother hugged me. She told me the same as my dad. My brother came over to us to see what was going on and I told him that I was bi or gay. He said "dude it's obvious Duh". We all started laughing. Later on I did get the talk to respect my body and dignity, to be safe and to respect my partners. Never force anyone or don't let them force me. My Mom told me to be safe and protect myself and her words "Don't be a slut". They both told me that they wanted to give me this talk for a very long time whether I'm straight or bi. Later that night I asked my Mom how did they suspect I wasn't straight. She told me that she and my dad had seen how I stare at certain guys, just like the way a guy would stare at a girl. Almost like you getting caught by your dad Paul, my Mom told me that when my friend and I were having a "private moment" that she accidentally opened my bedroom door and saw us. She never said anything. I was like oops.. She also told me that she knows her boys and that she can feel things and that she had her suspicions.
So Paul I must say thank you and all the other VT posters for helping me come out. Your stories really inspired me and helped me. I know I still have some other friends and family members to tell, but I can do it at my own time. The most important ones were
my parents and brother. The feeling of relief and peace to my soul and mind is incredible. I cannot explain my inner peace. Again thank you all..

[pjones]

jockeyboy97
man i'm drying my eyes. this is what makes VT worthwhile, a place to be educated, break down barriers(hopefully) and maybe once in awhile come to understand not only ourselves but our peers.

I'm so honored that you felt I was an inspiration, and so happy that your family seems to be as loving and accepting as mine.

BTW, how is it that brothers figure us out so fast and acccept us even faster? :)

[Bull]

Congratulations! Family and friends acceptance of our sexuality is so important for us. I am happy for you! And , I am glad that my family is accepting me for who I am. It is not a choice but a result of birth.

[jockeyboy97]

Thank You!

[Just JT]

Bro, that is amazing!!
It's so true, so real to life, and your very fortunate to have a family to live a felt and respect you like that. Yeah I think moms, well parents know. After all, they've known you and raised you sinse birth, seen you develops, your responses to things and people. They can read us like an open book.

Your dads forst reply says it right there. Are you in trouble, are you sick? Right there, nothing else matters to him. Nothing else matters to your family. Like I've said many times before, when it happens, it's just guna happen, it's guna feel normal natural and everything's guna be fine, and people for what ever reason, won't be surprised. But you'll feel a shit ton better.

Your mom, she deserves a metal, really does. She saw something so private, so personal, and didn't say shit to anyone. Not even you. Just let you take your own sweet time. Your brother, that's awesome!! He knows you better than you thought huh?

Very happy and proud of you. Walk talk stright head up and eyes looking forward, don't look down, you'll miss the world your here to interact with bro!!

:hug:

[jockeyboy97]

:JT,
thank you for the nice words. I couldn't be happier. Yeah my lil bro , I love that kid. He really is my best bud. My Dad and Mom are the best and I'm very lucky to have them. I'm also happy with all my friends on VT for their support. Vt has been such a big help and support. No one judges you and some are very honest. I have learned a lot and I'm glad to see that some guys are going through or have gone through some of the experiences I have gone through. Does that make sense? Again thank you Paul, JT and everyone else for your kind words.:D

[Zachary G]

Cool beans, dude! Way to go.

[Sean4U]

I just happened to get into this forum tonight and read our original post. I am so happy that you had a positive "coming out." I was a lot younger than you when I came out to my parents, but it was sort of an anti-climatic coming out, as my older brother had come out to them about 4 months earlier. I saw the way that my parents reacted and knew that I would be accepted and loved, but it still took me 4 months to actually talk to them. I'm sure all of us in here that are gay/bi have heard the horror stories that some guys face when they do come out and I'm glad to see that maybe things are moving forward in society that those types of stories will diminish and be like ours. Again, I'm happy for you and wish you a very happy life

[pjones]

I just happened to get into this forum tonight and read our original post. I am so happy that you had a positive "coming out." I was a lot younger than you when I came out to my parents, but it was sort of an anti-climatic coming out, as my older brother had come out to them about 4 months earlier. I saw the way that my parents reacted and knew that I would be accepted and loved, but it still took me 4 months to actually talk to them. I'm sure all of us in here that are gay/bi have heard the horror stories that some guys face when they do come out and I'm glad to see that maybe things are moving forward in society that those types of stories will diminish and be like ours. Again, I'm happy for you and wish you a very happy life

Thanks Sean!

[jockeyboy97]

That was really nice Sean.
I must say that I'm happier now and I will soon be ready to tell more family members and friends. My courage level is starting to become stronger.

[hesaidhesaid]

Great job Tony, congratulations. It is a huge relief is it not or what people! I know it doesn't work out well for everyone (for me, it wasn't so awesome as pjones and your stories), BUT in the end, you just have to love yourself and everything else falls into place.

Bless all of you, you are a wonderful community to belong to. :hug:

[damon_fl]

paul n tony u guys r so brave. im so happy for u guys n ur cool rents!
:)

[LITTLEANGEL19]

To the OP and everyone that comes out I hope everything goes well :)