just because somebody has a problem does not make them a good person

[thatgothgirluknow]

ugh oh my gosh i hate my sister so much and it's not even like a sister thing im not talking about us fighting then we make up i mean i hate her and i have for a really long time when i move out i hope to never see her again she is 10 years old and has autism and epilepsy because of this allot of the time my mom and other people will make excuses for her like she just acts that way because she has autism or epilepsy and every time they do i just want to scream at them and say having autism and epilepsy is no excuse for treating someone like crap everyday having a illness does not make a someone good person she torments me 24/7 and until recently when my dad told her to stop she told me to kill myself everyday i walked past her and she hit then when i said something she was like you where being mean to me when i pointed out that i had done nothing she said you where being mean by being born every time i do or say anything she messes with me she is not a good person and her disability is not an excuse

[Uniquemind]

Here is a philosophical question:

How do you define a good person from a bad one?

[ClaraWho]

Yeah... Ignoring the above...

What form of autism does she have? Depending on the type a lot of her behaviour may actually be attributable to her condition. That being said your parents don't seem the most on the ball.

Regardless of any of that, you might want to consider she may be jealous of you. Every day she gets to see the way you live as a healthy teenage girl, and she'll never have that. For the rest of her life. Doesn't make it right to take it out on you, but maybe instead of anger you should feel pity.

There is also no requirement for you to talk to/spend more time with her than necessary. That's entirely up to you. But 10 yr old siblings can often be horrible even without disorders, maybe leave attempts at reconciliation until she is older.

~ Clara

[Uniquemind]

That being said I was building up to a thesis or argument here.

What Clara said is something I agree with, but I also want to acknowledge that you are in the right to be upset or angry at what is from your perspective unequal treatment or standard of judgement from your parents with regards to her and to yourself.


Clara suggests you feel pity, and I think that's a tall request to do for most people just out of the blue.

You should really read what her condition is about and also understand human moods and emotions are heavily based on physical-chemical changes in the brain etc.

Makes you question what is a choice VS what is just physical design of the human body and mind.

[RJH98]

Both my mother and sister have ADD. They blame everything on that. It's hard to give an example but every time something goes wrong in my disadvantage they say: Oh but I have ADD so I can't do anything about it. It's probably not as bad as the situation you are in but I can definitely relate. I've tried to tell them to stop coming up with an easy excuse and fix their shit but it's hopeless.