I'm not sure what he wants

[radiolovergirl]

Okay, so I've known this guy for a long time, ten years or so. Not closely, but just because his sister goes to school with me and is the same age as me. He is 19, and I am 16. I know that seems like a big age difference, especially since he isn't in high school anymore, but that isn't a problem. Anyways, so about a month or so ago, he came back from college and I hadn't seen him in a while, and he gave me his number. We started talking, and he told me that he liked me, and so on. We hung out some at his house, but like it was just friendly. Then, about a week ago, me and another girl stayed at his house, because we were staying for his sister, and me and him ended up making out all night in bed. I texted me the next day when I left, but didn't text me for several days, the day before yesterday. Then he didn't text yesterday either. It's been a week and we haven't really talked, but when we do it's normal. I don't know if he isn't texting because he doesn't want to seem to pushy. I hardly ever text first, because I'm scared because all my past "relationships" just ended before anything happened. Should I text him and ask him what's up? I know he's liked me, so I don't think it's just a hook up, but I don't know for sure

[Zachary G]

I would text him and ask him, "How would you define what we have going on?" and see if he can tell you anything.

[Flapjack]

yeahh I agree with zach, taxt him!!! Wish you luck:)

[ClaraWho]

My advice would be not to go end up in anyone's bed without knowing what you mean to them, but hey maybe that's just me...

Problem with appearing easy like that is guys will take advantage and use you to get off. Not saying he did, just a point of advice for the future.

As with any foundation for a healthy relationship, you need to actually communicate more than just physically. Talk to him. We can't read his mind for you.

~ Clara

[Babs]

It's best to be direct, to have everything out on the table. Why not try just asking him?

[Tesserax]

He is worried about dating a 16 year old as a 19 year old. It's a big difference and the understanding of the consequences is worrying for him. He's probably wondering what to do, so just be patient.

There is another possibility, that he's leading you on so he can keep doing things with you without having to fully commit. Be careful of this, though it's unlikely.

[Cadanance00]

Yeah, I had a sexual relationship with a longtime friend and it didn't turn out well, for a lot of reasons. But the fact that he didn't follow up on it means he's not that interested in you romantically. That shouldn't bother your friendship if you want to keep it. Just he doesn't want it to develop into a gf/bf thing. Sorry if that's what you were wanting, it's just not going to happen. I would, however, ask him wtf happened, were you just playing around?

[Meron]

He's either trying to forget about what happened or can't talk to you because of College. And trust me, education after high school is a pain in the ass.

But yeah, confront him, text him about it, see his reaction. If nothing works then just move on instead of wasting your time.