Sex with an ex?

[Cadanance00]

My ex and I were talking over the weekend. Neither of us wants to take up where we left off, but both of us miss the intimacy and sex. I still see her meebe once a week like hang. She asks how's your love live going (not). I ask her, how's your love life going (not). So the subject came up of possibly having sex once in a while. FWB doesn't seem to describe it since we're former gf/b and been friends since forever. now that the weather's warm that solves a lot of logistics problems (outside is possible)

At first glance it doesn't seem to hurt any thing. Does anybody have any experience with this, and if so, how did it work out?

~Caen

[Croconaw]

I haven't experienced this before, but I would be careful. You two broke up for a reason, so your ex might have some type of ulterior motive or something. She might be wanting to have sex because she has been away from it too long. It might be easier if we knew why you broke up, but I wouldn't recommend this. Remember, you broke up for a reason.

[Cadanance00]

I haven't experienced this before, but I would be careful. You two broke up for a reason, so your ex might have some type of ulterior motive or something. She might be wanting to have sex because she has been away from it too long. It might be easier if we knew why you broke up, but I wouldn't recommend this. Remember, you broke up for a reason.

We broke up cuz she wanted to see an ex when he came home from college on breaks. I felt like I was getting slighted. He dumped her for a girl at college.

We're still friends like we were before, just more water under the bridge. I think we've talked it out a lot. I'm not talking about getting back together as bf/gf. I don't want that. I've been away from it a long time, too. That has a lot to do with it. Why wouldn't you recommend it?
~Caen

[Croconaw]

I would not recommend it simply because she sounds like she would be using you. You don't think she's using you for sex?

[Cadanance00]

I would not recommend it simply because she sounds like she would be using you. You don't think she's using you for sex?

Any more than I would be using her for sex?

[Zachary G]

I used to have hookups with my 1st ex and it worked out fine for a while, but then it got to be a bit on the boring side and it started to bring up old feelings for him that I couldnt give back, so we ended it. We are still friends and all, but we dont do the sex thing anymore. It works for some people and not others, maybe it will work for you -- you dont know until you try. Good luck.

[Croconaw]

I just wouldn't recommend using someone for sex.

[Cadanance00]

"Using" implies one person's benefit at the other's expense. What if it's not that way?

[Meron]

Me and my ex had it once when we were just friends, it was pretty fine, gave us some good old memories honestly.

What's more is that she actually cheated on her new boyfriend with me... way to go, Meron xD

[Microcosm]

The chances that you'll get feelings again skyrocket in this scenario. If you don't want an actual relationship with her, then the net gain here when all is said and done will probably be low if not negative.

Even if you don't get feelings for her, she'll probably get feelings for you due to the intimacy. People like to think of sex as just "for fun" but I don't think that's true. It's inevitable that something will come from it whether that be good or bad.

I'd avoid it, but I don't know her as well as you do. If you know that feelings can be avoided, then it's worth considering I suppose.

[Cadanance00]

The chances that you'll get feelings again skyrocket in this scenario. If you don't want an actual relationship with her, then the net gain here when all is said and done will probably be low if not negative.

Even if you don't get feelings for her, she'll probably get feelings for you due to the intimacy. People like to think of sex as just "for fun" but I don't think that's true. It's inevitable that something will come from it whether that be good or bad.

I'd avoid it, but I don't know her as well as you do. If you know that feelings can be avoided, then it's worth considering I suppose.

Tks.

[ClaraWho]

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~ Clara

[Just JT]

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I though pm were suposed to be like private or something....

But to the OP....the FWB thing can be a lota fun so long as both are on the same page. Need to talk about it so you both are there and nobody gets hurt. And even then, may not work, as one side may develope feelings, and the other side has no intentions of reciprocation

[Cadanance00]

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~ Clara

Hi Clara.

[SpicyCurryyy]

I don't know bro if you guys broke up I think it would be really fake and weird to hookup with her...

[Kegie24]

It sure sounds really fake. I mean why sex when there's no love.

[Just JT]

I don't know bro if you guys broke up I think it would be really fake and weird to hookup with her...

It sure sounds really fake. I mean why sex when there's no love.


It could be weird, and it could bring them together again. They obviously trust each other enough to do this and know the sex is good to wana go back and do it again.

And idk if you need to have to be in love to have sex. Is it better? Well yeah, but sex is sex, and can be just for fun between two people

[Cadanance00]

It sure sounds really fake. I mean why sex when there's no love.

It's not like casual. We've known each since we were like 8 yrs old. And we were bf/gf for a while. If we can put our differences behind us from the breakup and lie down together and exchange affection, is that bad?

PS: haven't yet.

[Uniquemind]

It's not like casual. We've known each since we were like 8 yrs old. And we were bf/gf for a while. If we can put our differences behind us from the breakup and lie down together and exchange affection, is that bad?

PS: haven't yet.

The thing is though you've gone down that road and now KNOW you don't want to be with her that way.

Unless what you're really asking is if you want to give her another shot for a long term commitment.

It sounds to me she's only feeling out your opinion for sex as well.

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You also have two other options and one is your sister's friend, and the other is staying celibate for a while.

You choose.

[Cadanance00]

You also have two other options and one is your sister's friend, and the other is staying celibate for a while.

You choose.

Ex's friend. Sis' friends are all like 13.

Been that way a while.

Other points well taken.