What Do I Do???

[SpicyCurryyy]

Hey guys this is kind of a complicated story but I will try to make it short I have had a crush on this girl for like 2 years now and just started talking to her a couple months ago. we go to a big school and we are the only two Indian kids there so I started talking to her about that, to establish what we had in common. We have been talking for a while and I thought I was in the friendzone. she says hi to me in the halls and everytime she sees me her face really lights up and she gives me a big smile :D but from what I have seen, she is very cheerful and happy to everyone. last week we had a graduation party and I talked to her about India for a good 10 minutes. Later on in the party she came up and hugged me. i asked for her number and she kept huggging me throughout the party. I texted her a little and on Tuesday I asked her out. kind of. I said hey u wanna go hang out after school sometime? She said yes!!! :yeah: we ended up walking to dunkin donuts but I found out her dad picks her up there so she kind of just left before I could buy her anything. anyway on friday during 3rd period (we have that class together) she got pissed at some kids because theey spread the rumor that we were dating. My friend askeed her if she liked me and she said "not in that way" :what: her friends later asked me if I liked her and i got nervous and asked her if sshe wanted to go to starbucks later and she said she had to clean her room idk. her friends kept dragging her over to talk to me and she asked me if we were dating I said idk. I mean i kind of asked her out but I guess she thinks we are just friends because she doesnt know if we r dating, she doesnt like me in "that way" and she got mad when people said we were daating. after I got hugs I thought I was gonna get laid but apparently not. I dont know if I should ask her again, text her, give her space, let her come to me etc. irdk i could use help plz thx! sorry this is so long but its a pretty complicated story :lol:

[Uniquemind]

Give her space, but be aware of the peer pressure dynamic.

She as an individual wants to be in control of her own choices, and she probably has a bit of passive-anger at how the situation is attempting to control or rush her, rather than her go at her own pace with her own will.

So be nonchalant, patient, and dedicated and not resentful that's my best advice to a guy in this situation.

[Meron]

You were just basically Ultra-Friendzoned.

Try to give her her space and see if she misses you more or whatnot. I suggest you talk to her about it instead of "hoping" and "wishing" since that'll get you no where.

[ClaraWho]

Uh, 'after a girl hugged me I thought I was going to get laid'. Wth?

Culturally if she is Indian you are not getting anything sexual until after marriage. Also that's a really immature and kind of creepy assumption to make. Girls hug as a sign of friendship, it doesn't mean she wants your penis anywhere near her. Even if you started dating, as I say, it wouldn't be sexual for a long time.

Do you actually like this girl or have any real feelings for her? You talked for 10 minutes about India, she hugged you a few times at one party and now you want to jump to sex?!

You should tell her that word for word and see how she reacts.

~ Clara

[SpicyCurryyy]

Uh, 'after a girl hugged me I thought I was going to get laid'. Wth?

Culturally if she is Indian you are not getting anything sexual until after marriage. Also that's a really immature and kind of creepy assumption to make. Girls hug as a sign of friendship, it doesn't mean she wants your penis anywhere near her. Even if you started dating, as I say, it wouldn't be sexual for a long time.

Do you actually like this girl or have any real feelings for her? You talked for 10 minutes about India, she hugged you a few times at one party and now you want to jump to sex?!

You should tell her that word for word and see how she reacts.

~ Clara
I kind of meant that after i got hugged I thought I was out of the friendzone and I should ask her out kind-of-thing. I hav never really been hugged by my crush and I thought that her doibg that meant I was progressing. Thanks for your advice though it really helps.

[Croconaw]

There are such things as a friend hug. Friends hug all the time. It means nothing. I think you should give her space and try not to pressure her right now. She needs some time to think about things. I also do not want to jump to conclusions, but do you like this girl, or do you just want a relationship for the sex? Relationships are not just about sex. If you really love a person, then sex is worth waiting for.