What are your thoughts on hs/college relationships?

[Amazon Alpha]

I'm not talking about too large age gaps since we all know when it gets weird but what are your thoughts on ones that are close in age such as HS senior/college freshman? I wonder this as I know many people who are in these situations, such as they started their relations in HS and now another party is starting college. Do you think these are strange?

[Uniquemind]

I'm not talking about too large age gaps since we all know when it gets weird but what are your thoughts on ones that are close in age such as HS senior/college freshman? I wonder this as I know many people who are in these situations, such as they started their relations in HS and now another party is starting college. Do you think these are strange?

Since you clarified in the last two sentences what your asking about.

No in that context I think it's fine.

However I think long distance makes it hard, but the dynamic itself does not concern me.

[Cadanance00]

My ex had one but it didn't turn out well.

[Derek951]

I'm not talking about too large age gaps since we all know when it gets weird but what are your thoughts on ones that are close in age such as HS senior/college freshman? I wonder this as I know many people who are in these situations, such as they started their relations in HS and now another party is starting college. Do you think these are strange?

The way you describe it, that seems pretty normal as long as the two are still nearby. I agree with another poster, if it's long distance, forget it. And keep in mind one in HS and one in college puts a bigger strain on things than just simply going to two different high schools. Not necessarily a bad thing, but the relationship better be pretty strong before it gets to that point.

[Uniquemind]

My ex had one but it didn't turn out well.

But that was because he was an asshole womanizer type college fuck boy.

That doesn't have anything to do with the dynamic here.

[Cadanance00]

But that was because he was an asshole womanizer type college fuck boy.

That doesn't have anything to do with the dynamic here.

I would like to think so, but it think it was mostly her fault.

[Uniquemind]

I would like to think so, but it think it was mostly her fault.

The wiser part of me says both parties were probably to blame possibly due to an immaturity gap in personality and personal life goals.

And you know what, that's really a huge percentage of what makes any relationship work or not regardless of age gap. As long as there is respect, threads like this one asking "is this age gap okay?" technically has no real right or wrong answer.


Calendar and legal age laws are in my opinion indicators of the probability the relationship won't work chemistry wise, but we know there are exceptions to those rules too.

The law just can't be inflexible given that logic tends to want to be black or white with legal answers of either guilty or innocent dichotomy, and the precedent it sets legally for other "similar" cases. (Case law etc).

[Melodic]

Well....I don't think they're strange. It just depends on the relationship.

Age wise, I believe it's okay for a HS senior and a college freshman to date. However it's almost guaranteed that a lot of people who leave for college (or whatever they choose) tend to go down different paths and drift apart from most of the people they knew in high school.

[Typhlosion]

It's not strange, but people said, can be tricky to work out. People still have a lot to mature during college and incompatabilities, maybe too many, can appear. Longdistance isn't easy either.

But in the end? Go where your heart and mind take you.

[everlong]

If they love each other, whatever.