Friends help please

[Tim987]

Guys im really struggling right now mentaly but also with my friends and i want to be a better friend and so i need some help. What can i do to be a better friend and improve my friendships?

[Freckles]

We need more information Tim. What are you having trouble with? Is it an anger issue, feeling left out, Saying things you wish you didn't?

[HououinKiyoma]

Just try to be yourself all the time.

If your friends dont like you the way you are they arent really your friends.

[Croconaw]

I have to agree with always being yourself. A real friend wouldn't try and change you. They need to accept you for who you are! Can you be a little more specific with the issues you are having. I am a bit confused.

[Dalcourt]

Just try to be yourself all the time.

If your friends dont like you the way you are they arent really your friends.

That is what I'd say, too. But as said before a bit more information would be great.

[Tim987]

We need more information Tim. What are you having trouble with? Is it an anger issue, feeling left out, Saying things you wish you didn't?

I have to agree with always being yourself. A real friend wouldn't try and change you. They need to accept you for who you are! Can you be a little more specific with the issues you are having. I am a bit confused.

That is what I'd say, too. But as said before a bit more information would be great.

Ok so first there is this girl who I used to like she thought it was awkward and we fought for stupid reasons then I stoped liking her and it was fine for a bit but then she sort of pulled away abit and she said I couldn't force her to be her my friend but I thought we had been friends for 3 years...
Second I have an anorexic friend who is struggling and I've been researching as much as a can to help her best but I still struggle to say the right thing and she right now is the only friend I can open up to which is hard because I don't want her to feel insignificant and that I don't care about her to and so i have to not make it about me but I still have head stuff and ugh so that's crap.
Then there is just generally everyone around me I usually have pretty crap days at school and it puts me down and takes out all my energy and so it's hard to talk to people and comunicate without being compleatly honest and ruining my personal reputation by telling someone to shut up and go away please and thankyou... So I need a way to sound not like an asshole to.
I know it's a big ask but if you could just give some tips on these situations it would be greatly apriciated

[HououinKiyoma]

Ok so first there is this girl who I used to like she thought it was awkward and we fought for stupid reasons then I stoped liking her and it was fine for a bit but then she sort of pulled away abit and she said I couldn't force her to be her my friend but I thought we had been friends for 3 years...

So what is the problem? You still feel attracted to her or do you wanna stay friends, to which she is objecting?

Second I have an anorexic friend who is struggling and I've been researching as much as a can to help her best but I still struggle to say the right thing and she right now is the only friend I can open up to which is hard because I don't want her to feel insignificant and that I don't care about her to and so i have to not make it about me but I still have head stuff and ugh so that's crap.

What do you mean by ...."struggle to say the right thing"...?

How would opening up to her make her feel insignificant? If she really is your friend then opening up would bring her closer to you(by proving that she matters to you) in my opinion?


Then there is just generally everyone around me I usually have pretty crap days at school and it puts me down and takes out all my energy and so it's hard to talk to people and comunicate without being compleatly honest and ruining my personal reputation by telling someone to shut up and go away please and thankyou... So I need a way to sound not like an asshole to.


What is the problem? Do they bully you? Have you told your parents about it?

Try making friends at school. I guess that would help.
Everyone has crap days at school/college. The trick is finding the silver lining(cliched i know).

Are you introverted and you feel like you need to stick into the general crowd or are feeling left out?

[Just JT]

Tim987 I get the feeling you may be trying to hard to be a good friend yes, that can happen. I know it's something that's very important to you. But if you come on to strong, like always wanting to be ther, help, talk, and be the like close intimate friends who's always there for people, well that just takes time. And the other person needs to have the same want, or there won't be any trust like your looking for.

I think a really good friend just listens, and is physically there for their friends. Maybe not even talking or saying anything. If they need help, if they want your help, they'll ask for it. It may never come, and that's ok. May not be the right person for you to have that kinda friendship with.

It's just not an easy thing to do, it's a process ok?

[Tim987]

Yeah i understand thanks for the help guus

[Tim987]

No i have no atration to her