New girl moved into apartment next to me and GF. Need advice.

[dam1116]

Alright, I would first like to say my girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 4 years now which has been completey monogamous. We are both happy together, but there has come a new piece to the puzzle (potentially). We moved into an apartment about a month ago and I just passed my boards to be a registered nurse. That night my gf was getting home from work and she ran into our new neighbor outside. They hit it off immediatey and found they were very similar. Our new neighbor was a bit drunk bur she was blantently hitting on my girlfriend and i'm not gonna lie it definitely enticed me. Before the night ended which was awesome btw, our neighbor most definitely gave my girlfriend a kiss on the lips I didn't see. I was digging it.

I've asked numerous guys so far and of course there andwer is go for it and make something happen. It's a tough situation because I want to but have no idea if she does or not. I will definitely be talking to her soon but need some advice on the matter. Thank you!

[Flapjack]

How old are you to be having your own apartment?XD

[Typhlosion]

Isn't the best course of action talking to your girlfriend together? I mean, you're together for over 4 years so I'm assuming that it's easy for you two to have a conversation about it. If you and your gf are into it, then you can brew up some plans together!

[dam1116]

Isn't the best course of action talking to your girlfriend together? I mean, you're together for over 4 years so I'm assuming that it's easy for you two to have a conversation about it. If you and your gf are into it, then you can brew up some plans together!
Haha i'm a little outside of my teen years guys 22. But this was the best forum I used to post on so I figured i'd ask around.!

[Cadanance00]

Haha i'm a little outside of my teen years guys 22. But this was the best forum I used to post on so I figured i'd ask around.!

Well, there is an age cutoff here, you know.

[dam1116]

Well, there is an age cutoff here, you know. i do but i've been a member since I was 18.

[Cadanance00]

Oh, well. maybe you get alumni privileges.

[dam1116]

Oh, well. maybe you get alumni privileges.

Just looking for advice that's all :)

[Uranus]

Well, there is an age cutoff here, you know.

He registered here before turning 19, he's as welcome and privileged to he here the same as any other user who joined before turning 19.


As for the OP. Tough call man, I mean, if you and your gf are both consenting and willing to...have fun..with your new neighbor, then have at it. Although if you do, be careful, safe and don't leave your gf for her, and don't make your gf feel unloved and uncherished due to another girl

[Cadanance00]

Maybe best to let her build a relationship with the other girl and wait to get invited in on it. That is if you're okay with her having an affair outside your relationship.

[ClaraWho]

Hm. Yeah. Bit odd you come to a bunch of teenagers, some just kids, to ask advice for what to do in your adult life. And I can say that as part of my helpful reply. Start dealing with your own problems in your relationship by discussing them openly with your partner.

I'm certainly not going to help you start up a threesome. Whilst you are getting all exciting thinking with the downstairs department, I doubt this plausible reality has crossed your mind. What if your girlfriend isn't looking at her in the same way as your sexual fantasy?

What if after 4 yrs the relationship has grown so stale that both of you are looking at other options? Yup. Your girlfriend could be thinking about leaving your lusting backside for a girlfriend. They're the ones who hit it off right? And cheated by sneaking a kiss? Didn't see you included in that coupling.

Sex isn't a seperate entity to emotion, the two are part and parcel with neurotransmitters firing off all sorts of signals during sexual arousal. Fires look pretty, sure. But if you start one in your bedroom someone is going to get burnt. Badly.

Time to evaluate whether the relationship you are in really is what you want right now.

~ Claws out Clara.

[dam1116]

Hm. Yeah. Bit odd you come to a bunch of teenagers, some just kids, to ask advice for what to do in your adult life. And I can say that as part of my helpful reply. Start dealing with your own problems in your relationship by discussing them openly with your partner.

I'm certainly not going to help you start up a threesome. Whilst you are getting all exciting thinking with the downstairs department, I doubt this plausible reality has crossed your mind. What if your girlfriend isn't looking at her in the same way as your sexual fantasy?

What if after 4 yrs the relationship has grown so stale that both of you are looking at other options? Yup. Your girlfriend could be thinking about leaving your lusting backside for a girlfriend. They're the ones who hit it off right? And cheated by sneaking a kiss? Didn't see you included in that coupling.

Sex isn't a seperate entity to emotion, the two are part and parcel with neurotransmitters firing off all sorts of signals during sexual arousal. Fires look pretty, sure. But if you start one in your bedroom someone is going to get burnt. Badly.

Time to evaluate whether the relationship you are in really is what you want right now.

~ Claws out Clara.these are definitely points I haven't considered. I think it's mainly me having growing up to do, it could also be some of the points you made. Thanks for your input!

[indoxyl]

First I want to say that Clara might be jumping too a huge conclusion.

Second, having been together for four years I think it should be pretty simple to talk eith your gf about your fantasy and hopefully something will come of it

[dam1116]

Well guys I have a story to tell to finish off this thread. Basically we talked about it, she found it hilarious and said it would never happen :p. Thing is she knows I would never cheat on her which I definitey won't. Hell i'm a nurse around women everyday, but she's the only one I want to be in it for the long run with. It was me jumping to conclusions and now it's more of a funny story than anything else. She literally laughed at me and told me to keep dreaming, definitely something I'd never thought would happen. But I guess I should realize she knows me better than I know myself sometimes. I'm sure all you guys out there feel me. I have no feelings for the other girl whatsoever, but the idea in itself is great. By the way, they didn't share a kiss, she was wiping her nose and mouth bc it was bothering her. It just convienantly happened like that. Well time to come off of cloud 9 back to earth. Thanks for the input everyone.

[ashdyn]

Just on a final note...why y'all roasting my main man Mark fir posting in here and being 22? Lol

I just turned 20 and I've been on here since I was 13 with a few small gaps in between. I still post all the time. Mostly I give advice now but if I had an issue I couldn't talk to anyone about I'd probably give the forums a shot lol sometimes just getting it out there and kinda venting helps you get a different perspective of things.

Just my $0.02

[dam1116]

Just on a final note...why y'all roasting my main man Mark fir posting in here and being 22? Lol

I just turned 20 and I've been on here since I was 13 with a few small gaps in between. I still post all the time. Mostly I give advice now but if I had an issue I couldn't talk to anyone about I'd probably give the forums a shot lol sometimes just getting it out there and kinda venting helps you get a different perspective of things.

Just my $0.02
Thanks for the support. I did get roasted hard but I took it lol

[Derek951]

Isn't the best course of action talking to your girlfriend together? I mean, you're together for over 4 years so I'm assuming that it's easy for you two to have a conversation about it. If you and your gf are into it, then you can brew up some plans together!

I gotta agree with this advice. Don't worry about the other girl at first, you need to make sure your GF is the one that is open to things happening. I think you're in a good position. If you've been together this long, the relationship should be strong enough to bring up the subject and not have one or the other feel insecure. It might happen, it might not, but you'll kick yourself later if you don't at least explore the subject.

Like you and Ashdyn, been around for a long time here, since 16 i think.