My dad just shocked me.

[JHenryF]

My parents are pretty sure that the culture of my school caused me to confuse my admiration for male bodies for gay attraction (see my post "Confused about attraction"). Today, I said something about the fact that I'm not interacting with the people at school as much now. My dad said "So you're not gay anymore?" I was shocked. I have no idea what to do. I just don't want to talk about it... I just wanted y'all to know what I was going through. What do you think?

[Flapjack]

My parents are pretty sure that the culture of my school caused me to confuse my admiration for male bodies for gay attraction (see my post "Confused about attraction"). Today, I said something about the fact that I'm not interacting with the people at school as much now. My dad said "So you're not gay anymore?" I was shocked. I have no idea what to do. I just don't want to talk about it... I just wanted y'all to know what I was going through. What do you think?
No offense to your dad but he's a insensitive twat. Suppose it's not his thought though, if he has never been educated in the reality of sexuality and how it is a spectrum them how could he know.

Could you not sit him down and have him watch a video explaining it?

Sorry to hear you're going through this buddy:)

[Cadanance00]

Were you ever? Being attracted to a male physique doesn't make you gay.

[JHenryF]

Were you ever? Being attracted to a male physique doesn't make you gay.

I'm pretty sure I am homosexual, but it's complicated because I'm emotionally attracted to girls and sexually attracted to guys.
Look at my previous post - Confused about attraction - it explains my situation.

[ska8er]

Y would ur parents criticize ur school? How
do they know what whats happening there?
Ur Dads remark was out of hand but let it
pass for now-don't bring it up. Continue to
b urself even if stuff bothers u. Do u get
along with anyone at school that u can open
up to not so much on the physical attraction
thing? U need someone close other than ur
parents to listen-theres nothing wrong in
admiring guys for other reasons other than
sexually.

[Just JT]

I read the other thread jut now. All I can say is, we all go through this same phase of growing up in different degrees. Everyone wonders about their sexuality, at some point, in some depth, for some period of time. It might be 5 minutes, might be 5 years. We are who we are. Being gay, bi, straight or what ever is no different than being white, black, Hispanic, Asian, having cancer, diabetes, or what ever. We all have some of the genetic makeup in us that contributes to each characteristic that someone can have. We just need to accept who we are. And our parents need to get a grip and understand that it's a confusing thing that they might nota had to deal with, but also realize it's not something that changes.
Just follow your feeling and attractions and who you are, not what you think other people expect of you. Your friends will be the ones who will be there accepting you for who you are. The ones that can't or won't, were never guna be your friends

[Microcosm]

No offense to your dad but he's a insensitive twat.

This is not necessarily true. He could have asked that question as a serious question or he could've been asking in a harmless, teasing sort of way. In both cases he isn't a "twat".

JHenryF,

This seems to me to be a phase of learning to be honest with your parents. It's best to be comfortable talking to them about things like that and maybe this is just a way that's happening.

In what way did he ask the question? Jokingly? Teasingly? Or meanly?

[Just JT]

This is not necessarily true. He could have asked that question as a serious question or he could've been asking in a harmless, teasing sort of way. In both cases he isn't a "twat".

JHenryF,

This seems to me to be a phase of learning to be honest with your parents. It's best to be comfortable talking to them about things like that and maybe this is just a way that's happening.

In what way did he ask the question? Jokingly? Teasingly? Or meanly?

Yeah, no, sorry, not so sure I agree with you on this one. Think by now most people get the basics of us kids and our sexuality and figuring it out. Especially dads for the most part. Even if they don't like or agree with it, they know that's the way shit it. To ask that kinda question, it's a dick move, sorry.....
If he asked something like are you further questioning your sexuality or something like that?
Now that at least sounds legit....

[Microcosm]

Yeah, no, sorry, not so sure I agree with you on this one. Think by now most people get the basics of us kids and our sexuality and figuring it out. Especially dads for the most part. Even if they don't like or agree with it, they know that's the way shit it. To ask that kinda question, it's a dick move, sorry.....
If he asked something like are you further questioning your sexuality or something like that?
Now that at least sounds legit....

If he asks with a legitimate tone and legitimate intention, then it seems like it would in that case be the fault of the person he's saying it to for not having tougher skin.

I'm usually not the kind of guy to say that, but getting upset about something like that in such a case would be pointless and unjustified.

[Just JT]

If he asks with a legitimate tone and legitimate intention, then it seems like it would in that case be the fault of the person he's saying it to for not having tougher skin.

I'm usually not the kind of guy to say that, but getting upset about something like that in such a case would be pointless and unjustified.

I agree, it is pointless. I'm just saying it seems his dad doesn't seem to in touch or something.
Or maybe I'm misunderstanding something.

[jamie_n5]

Well if you are gay then tell him that you are and stand by that. And yeah he seems a bit insensitive to me.

[DoodleSnap]

It sounds like your dad is making up a bunch of pseudo-scientific nonsense to try and deny a clear fact. It may take some time, but he'll get through it.