Fork in the road

[Cadanance00]

I have the chance to get back together with my ex as a fuck buddy thing but I know she's got feelings for me still, since her bf dumped her. Long story. Yeah, I miss her and it would be good to see her but I don't want to start that up again like bf/gf. Been there.

I can ask out a friend of my sister's. She's the same age as my sis, 13, which is 2 yrs apart but I'll be in the 10th grade this year and she will be in the 8th so there's a lot of difference there. She's kinda hot and I like her but I'm not crushing on her if you know what I mean but sis says she's interested in me.

Given my sordid recent history I'm not sure which way to go.

[Just JT]

Depends on what kinda feelings you have for which girl I guess. If you like one more than the other, in like a relationship way, why not follow that?

[FuTo]

Tf a fuck buddy at the age of 15? Boy. And that little of an age different doesn't really matter. It might feel weird since you guys are still young and school separates you buy grade. When you're older age differences loses its effects.

[Leprous]

I have the chance to get back together with my ex as a fuck buddy thing but I know she's got feelings for me still, since her bf dumped her. Long story. Yeah, I miss her and it would be good to see her but I don't want to start that up again like bf/gf. Been there.

I can ask out a friend of my sister's. She's the same age as my sis, 13, which is 2 yrs apart but I'll be in the 10th grade this year and she will be in the 8th so there's a lot of difference there. She's kinda hot and I like her but I'm not crushing on her if you know what I mean but sis says she's interested in me.

Given my sordid recent history I'm not sure which way to go.

As mentioned above me 15 is maybe a tiny bit too young for a 'fuck buddy'. I also think it's even more wrong to start dating a 13 year old to replace this 'fuck buddy'

To me it seems like you just want someone just for fun, you want your ex back as FWB but wouldn't hesitate to date some 13 year old who you're not even crushing on.

Sorry but to me it seems like you're way too young for stuff like this.

[ashdyn]

In give the ex the Heisman and go for the younger girl but you gotta wait it out at least til she's a freshman. Not that 2 years is that big of a deal just the separation between middle and high school is pretty vast. You're probably gunna get shit for it too lol if you really like her tho...fuck everything else and go for it cause the opportunity might slip away.

[Croconaw]

It really sounds like you're just looking for someone to have sex with. Why would you want to date someone you don't have a crush on? Them being hot isn't a reason to like them.

[Uniquemind]

I have the chance to get back together with my ex as a fuck buddy thing but I know she's got feelings for me still, since her bf dumped her. Long story. Yeah, I miss her and it would be good to see her but I don't want to start that up again like bf/gf. Been there.

I can ask out a friend of my sister's. She's the same age as my sis, 13, which is 2 yrs apart but I'll be in the 10th grade this year and she will be in the 8th so there's a lot of difference there. She's kinda hot and I like her but I'm not crushing on her if you know what I mean but sis says she's interested in me.

Given my sordid recent history I'm not sure which way to go.

To answer this, I'm gonna have to ask you what is your personal definition of a crush?

Describe what you feel and then tell me which label you use to self-identify your feelings.

Then I shall advise further.

Also verify the last hookup you had at that party isn't pregnant and that you didn't catch any diseases or viruses.

[Ragle]

Any third option?

[LanaPole]

i think the age difference doesnt matter. it depends on which girl you like more....

[Cadanance00]

You're probably gunna get shit for it too lol

You're right about that. And she's my sis's friend so if I break up with her there's drama there. I do like her tho. I'm beginning to think about her a lot.

[Cadanance00]

To answer this, I'm gonna have to ask you what is your personal definition of a crush?

Describe what you feel and then tell me which label you use to self-identify your feelings.

Then I shall advise further.

Also verify the last hookup you had at that party isn't pregnant and that you didn't catch any diseases or viruses.

1. Like you walk around on a cloud and she's perfect.

2. Huh?

3. Nope, not PG. At least I haven't heard anything and I would have since my cuz is dating her. (that makes it weird cuz if they stay together I'll see her again with him). No STI. Doc said if I don't have symptoms in a few weeks assume I'm okay. He did give me a HPV shot said might keep me from getting genital warts. WOW. All I did was hook up at a party! See all the shit that happens.

[Uniquemind]

1. Like you walk around on a cloud and she's perfect.

2. Huh?

3. Nope, not PG. At least I haven't heard anything and I would have since my cuz is dating her. (that makes it weird cuz if they stay together I'll see her again with him). No STI. Doc said if I don't have symptoms in a few weeks assume I'm okay. He did give me a HPV shot said might keep me from getting genital warts. WOW. All I did was hook up at a party! See all the shit that happens.


Pursue the person that you like. Never pursue a person you don't feel attracted too; I've rarely seen that work well.


Let me be the first to also say that sometimes crushes feel different.

Sometimes it's a whirlwind fairy tale amount of feels, and other times it's less of that but the initial the crush is more centered.

You also need to ask yourself if the 3rd option, of learning to be comfortably single, is some phase you need to go through.

[Flapjack]

I have the chance to get back together with my ex as a fuck buddy thing but I know she's got feelings for me still, since her bf dumped her. Long story. Yeah, I miss her and it would be good to see her but I don't want to start that up again like bf/gf. Been there.

I can ask out a friend of my sister's. She's the same age as my sis, 13, which is 2 yrs apart but I'll be in the 10th grade this year and she will be in the 8th so there's a lot of difference there. She's kinda hot and I like her but I'm not crushing on her if you know what I mean but sis says she's interested in me.

Given my sordid recent history I'm not sure which way to go.
My advice would be not to have a fwb relationship with someone that has feelings with you and do not date your sisters friend!!

Just my opinion though, you do what you want and I wish you luck:)

[Cadanance00]

and do not date your sisters friend!!

More reasons?

[Flapjack]

More reasons?
Firstly because she is going to tell your sister everything because they are friends and thats what friends do and I doubt you want your sis knowing that stuff and secondly because when you break up and the girl goes running to your sis telling her how bad you are because again that is what friends do. Your sis may judge you.

[Cadanance00]

Right about that on all counts. She's sleepover friends with sis along with one other girl. Mom calls them the Three Musketeers.

[Uniquemind]

Right about that on all counts. She's sleepover friends with sis along with one other girl. Mom calls them the Three Musketeers.

True the fallout of dating your sister's friend could be disastrous. Just be single for a while, and stop pursuing sex, it's messing with your judgement anyway.

Maybe in a few years if she's still interested and you both are a bit wiser give it a try.

[Jane Eyre]

I would say, put aside your ex and this apparent crush of yours, and maybe find a gf who's your age and is not related to any of your siblings, if a relationship is what you are looking for. but in my opinion, you should stay single for a while and try to make as many female friends as you can, so that you actually understand girls and in the right time, have a strong and lasting relationship with the special one.

[Cadanance00]

I would say, put aside your ex and this apparent crush of yours, and maybe find a gf who's your age and is not related to any of your siblings, if a relationship is what you are looking for. but in my opinion, you should stay single for a while and try to make as many female friends as you can, so that you actually understand girls and in the right time, have a strong and lasting relationship with the special one.

Of course that's the reasonable thing to do. I have a history of not doing the reasonable thing.