Body or mind?

[The Boom]

To anyone who wants to be in a relationship, this is one the most cliché questions ever. Please give me a percentage of each of these two criterias you would prefer on the person of your dreams.(ex: psy50% phys50%)

I just want to see in general what people want the most between these two....

[ashdyn]

I don't think it's something you can quantify with a number like a percentage or anything. For me I think physical gets my attention but they have to be intellectual to keep me around. If I'm just trying to smash physical all the way but long term mind over body any day. I've been with and around girls that were super hot but were either complete bitches, dumb as rocks, or pretending to be dumb (which is def worse imo).

[drhalsey1]

I don't think it's something you can quantify with a number like a percentage or anything. For me I think physical gets my attention but they have to be intellectual to keep me around. If I'm just trying to smash physical all the way but long term mind over body any day. I've been with and around girls that were super hot but were either complete bitches, dumb as rocks, or pretending to be dumb (which is def worse imo).

I agree with this, I'm not sure you can put a number to either. Looks attract, but if you're looking for a real relationship I think the personality and mind make or break the deal

[Tesserax]

To anyone who wants to be in a relationship, this is one the most cliché questions ever. Please give me a percentage of each of these two criterias you would prefer on the person of your dreams.(ex: psy50% phys50%)

I just want to see in general what people want the most between these two....

30-50% Phys, 50-70% Int.

It depends on the type of intelligence and physical beauty, as people are different and these terms can branch off into more detailed things. However, I generally value the intelligence more than the physical attraction, though I find the looks of somebody important for a relationship; there must be the sexual aspect and the emotional aspect, both are important

[kevenity]

60% personality/intelligence
40% physical
Like others said, the initial attraction is physical but if they're pricks or just idiotic, I'd avoid them despite how cute he may be. If a guy has both physical and intellectual traits then I'd probably fall so hard. Having both is ideal but I'm not extremely picky.

[Uniquemind]

40% personality or behavior (treatment of themselves, you, and others in various scenarios)

15% physical looks

15% physical sexual performance (is one of the scenarios related to the 40%)

20% common goals interests both for and outside of the relationship.

10% timing outside factors not related to the individual. (Not sure if this category fits with the OP's criteria though).

[Ragle]

balance 50/50

[Melodic]

Personality: 85 percent
Body/Appearance: 15 percent.

[Flapjack]

I've never really been attracted to looks or inteligence! If the girl has a nice personality I will fall for her and will end up thinking shes crazy pretty.

I don't fall for people much though.

[Body odah Man]

Depends. I've loved pretty chicks, I've loved ugly ones due to their personalities.

[Typhlosion]

Good luck trying to quantify attraction and love into numbers for some equation :P

You know when you know, man. It's not because they're good looking and nice that I must feel attracted to them, nor because they have their flaws I won't be. What, I'm going to tell someone they're 3% off? Nah.

[FuTo]

I cant put a percentage but looks is kinda important since it is how they look that will attract you to them in the first place and it's who they are that make you stay with them. If I meet a hot guy but hes as smart as a brick and rude then that boi has gots to go.

[FuTo]

Depends. I've loved pretty chicks, I've loved ugly ones due to their personalities.

Gasp. No one's really ugly unless you count an ugly personality.

[Katie NYC]

To be perfectly honest, I won't go out with or do anything with an unattractive boy, or girl for that matter. Maybe that makes me shallow but I'm okay with that. If we're talking relationships, ya I want the other person to be smart and funny and interesting. But it all starts with physical attraction.

[Cadanance00]

To be perfectly honest, I won't go out with or do anything with an unattractive boy, or girl for that matter. Maybe that makes me shallow but I'm okay with that. If we're talking relationships, ya I want the other person to be smart and funny and interesting. But it all starts with physical attraction.

Aah, refreshing honesty.

I'd say it's looks at first, but then personality kicks in. I know drop-dead hot girls that I wouldn't date if they were the last person on earth.

[ClaraWho]

Allow me to present the standard question on this topic;

Imagine you are in love with the girl/boy of your dreams. Then they have a horrific accident, their face unrecognisable, maybe the loss of a limb or two.

Do you dump them because they no longer are physically as attractive to you?

~ Clara

N.B. Avoiding one's own question because it is upsetting is a legitimate excuse damn it!

[The Boom]

Allow me to present the standard question on this topic;

Imagine you are in love with the girl/boy of your dreams. Then they have a horrific accident, their face unrecognisable, maybe the loss of a limb or two.

Do you dump them because they no longer are physically as attractive to you?

~ Clara

N.B. Avoiding one's own question because it is upsetting is a legitimate excuse damn it!d

Really good point Clara... Honestly, I don't think I would... But I havent been in a "relationship" for a while, so, who knows?

[Hudor]

I don't have a percentage to determine the relevance of each. I find certain physical features attractive and if the guy has those but doesn't have a good personality, it doesn't matter anymore and i won't take things further with him. I'm neither one of those guys who will shut the door on the other person's face, just on the basis of their looks. I talk to everyone and personality and intelligence matter a lot to me. So far, out of the few guys i clicked with, almost all were average looking but good-natured and intelligent. Clara's point is valid. And another issue to think about is aging: what about after twenty, thirty years when the person you fall in love with, might not look so beautiful and/or would grow feebler, less energetic, less youthful? Would their physical features matter as much?

The qualities i search for in someone are basic yet apparently rare. All i want is for the person to be understanding and honest, to himself as much as to me. If i find someone who has these qualities, everything else would be immaterial.

[Katie NYC]

I don't think I can come up with a ratio. Without the initial attraction, nothing else is gonna happen, for me anyway. So the hotness factor has to be strong before I even get to the personality.

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

Personality. People shouldn't judge anyone on looks, especially since the most attractive people can be terrible people as well. For me, personality is like a 90%. Looks is just a bonus. If I like someone enough, it doesn't matter if they're pretty or not, and it's a bit ignorant to just judge someone based on looks.

[Phosphene]

Personality. People shouldn't judge anyone on looks, especially since the most attractive people can be terrible people as well. For me, personality is like a 90%. Looks is just a bonus. If I like someone enough, it doesn't matter if they're pretty or not, and it's a bit ignorant to just judge someone based on looks.

I totally agree with this. I think going solely by looks is shallow. You shouldn't judge a book by its cover--actually get to know a person.

[Uniquemind]

Allow me to present the standard question on this topic;

Imagine you are in love with the girl/boy of your dreams. Then they have a horrific accident, their face unrecognisable, maybe the loss of a limb or two.

Do you dump them because they no longer are physically as attractive to you?

~ Clara

N.B. Avoiding one's own question because it is upsetting is a legitimate excuse damn it!


For some couples it is the straw that breaks the camel's back.

In some cases (I've read or saw on TV regarding rising out of adversity stories on the news) I've heard of couples that broke up after accidents. For those that stay together usually it's also because there is a strong emotional bond that holds people together.


But I've also heard of couples where one becomes infertile after an accident or medical condition, and they break up or a "no fault" divorce DOES occur because the future they wanted to make together is no longer possible.

Some argue that's a valid reason to break up, and it also reinforces my position that sometimes "love" is not enough in this world.

[Croconaw]

Personality 100%

If the world were blind, looks wouldn't matter. I would love to be with someone who doesn't care about looks.