My Abusive Online Relationship

[Croconaw]

Six months ago, you dumped me. You broke my heart. I was devastated, to be completely honest. I thought we could be together forever. We were not compatible from the start. You were thirty-three years old, and I was eighteen. What made me so attached to you? Maybe it was the feeling of love that no one gave me before, or that you were the person I was spending my whole day with. You tried to change me in the person you wanted me to be. You told me I was different, and I was not like the others that you dated in the past. It made me feel pretty special.

We would play video games. That's all we would ever do. I was a little jealous of your best friend and how close you two were. You would flip out on me every time I accidentally attacked you on that Mario Kart game. You told me we had a bond stronger than even your best friend. You sometimes would purposely ignore me, or try to make me feel bad. I remember this perfectly. You would bitch at me because of reckless play style. I did not have fun playing that game with you.

You would try to force your opinions onto me. Remember that time you told me that we couldn't like separate hockey teams, when you forced your little Habs fandom onto me? You were, like, we are totally going to have a Habs bedroom. You said it's your house, and we live by your rules. We have something here called freedom of expression. We can support whatever team we want. You were trying to force me to go to college. You would make me feel bad if I refused anything.

Right after she dumped me, I spent the whole day looking at videos on how to get your ex back. I did this for about a month or two, until I slowly started losing interest in her. I tried everything to get my mind off her. She was the reason I quit Nintendo. I sold my Wii U and my New 3DS XL. I wanted to rid myself of everything that reminded me of her. I do not have a single Mario or Nintendo video game or product. I listened to sad break up songs, but it only made me feel worse. I cried myself to bed for almost all of January after she broke up with me. I thought it was time to move on to a more mature gaming community. I got my XBOX One out that I got back in November, and I have been playing that.

It slips my mind how we even broke up, looking back on this now. She stopped talking to me in December, the month she dumped me. She said told me we needed to talk, and I knew it was coming. I tried everything I could to stop her from leaving me, but it was just no use. I kept trying to talk to you, but you would either ignore me or bitch, like you always would. When my phone died and I didn't text you, you sent a long ass text message saying that I was ignoring you. You said that I was being a bitch. I figured you would be worried about me if I wasn't responding. Instead, I turn my phone on to a bunch of negative and impulsive comments about how much of a bitch I am.

When I got a new phone in April, I lost all my contacts. That meant I couldn't contact you unless you contacted me first. You never did, and that moment I knew you wanted nothing to do with me. Maybe we weren't meant to be in a relationship, but maybe we were in it for a reason. That was the first time I was dumped by someone. I guess your abusive relationship made me stronger. I had fun with the few friends that I met playing Mario Kart. I'm talking to the people that were always there for me. They know who they are.

Oh, and to my bitch ex girlfriend: I sometimes feel like a complete idiot for dating you so long. I'm not ashamed for dating you. If you ask me, I have nothing to be ashamed of. I think you're the one who should be ashamed. And you call yourself a social worker. Your job? A therapist shouldn't act like that.
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If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT let it continue. This is just a summary of my abusive online relationship. I was so happy to get this situation off my chest, being able to vent here.

It is still beyond me why I had a crush on someone so manipulative and abusive.

Also, this topic isn't about my decision to go to college. I don't want to go. It's my decision. I have already made up my mind. This topic was meant to help people in abusive relationships by sharing my story.

[Uniquemind]

Despite all of that, I think it's still a safe bet to say college is probably still a good idea, it's just if you do go, the choice needs to be yours along with the sub-choices that come along with that.

And also I've found it hard to find a "mature gamer" community so fair warning, maybe you'll have better luck.

[Body odah Man]

Six months ago, you dumped me. You broke my heart. I was devastated, to be completely honest. I thought we could be together forever. We were not compatible from the start. You were thirty-three years old, and I was eighteen. What made me so attached to you? Maybe it was the feeling of love that no one gave me before, or that you were the person I was spending my whole day with. You tried to change me in the person you wanted me to be. You told me I was different, and I was not like the others that you dated in the past. It made me feel pretty special.

We would play video games. That's all we would ever do. I was a little jealous of your best friend and how close you two were. You would flip out on me every time I accidentally attacked you on that Mario Kart game. You told me we had a bond stronger than even your best friend. You sometimes would purposely ignore me, or try to make me feel bad. I remember this perfectly. You would bitch at me because of reckless play style. I did not have fun playing that game with you.

You would try to force your opinions onto me. Remember that time you told me that we couldn't like separate hockey teams, when you forced your little Habs fandom onto me? You were, like, we are totally going to have a Habs bedroom. You said it's your house, and we live by your rules. We have something here called freedom of expression. We can support whatever team we want. You were trying to force me to go to college. You would make me feel bad if I refused anything.

Right after she dumped me, I spent the whole day looking at videos on how to get your ex back. I did this for about a month or two, until I slowly started losing interest in her. I tried everything to get my mind off her. She was the reason I quit Nintendo. I sold my Wii U and my New 3DS XL. I wanted to rid myself of everything that reminded me of her. I do not have a single Mario or Nintendo video game or product. I listened to sad break up songs, but it only made me feel worse. I cried myself to bed for almost all of January after she broke up with me. I thought it was time to move on to a more mature gaming community. I got my XBOX One out that I got back in November, and I have been playing that.

It slips my mind how we even broke up, looking back on this now. She stopped talking to me in December, the month she dumped me. She said told me we needed to talk, and I knew it was coming. I tried everything I could to stop her from leaving me, but it was just no use. I kept trying to talk to you, but you would either ignore me or bitch, like you always would. When my phone died and I didn't text you, you sent a long ass text message saying that I was ignoring you. You said that I was being a bitch. I figured you would be worried about me if I wasn't responding. Instead, I turn my phone on to a bunch of negative and impulsive comments about how much of a bitch I am.

When I got a new phone in April, I lost all my contacts. That meant I couldn't contact you unless you contacted me first. You never did, and that moment I knew you wanted nothing to do with me. Maybe we weren't meant to be in a relationship, but maybe we were in it for a reason. That was the first time I was dumped by someone. I guess your abusive relationship made me stronger. I had fun with the few friends that I met playing Mario Kart. I'm talking to the people that were always there for me. They know who they are.

Oh, and to my bitch ex girlfriend: I sometimes feel like a complete idiot for dating you so long. I'm not ashamed for dating you. If you ask me, I have nothing to be ashamed of. I think you're the one who should be ashamed. And you call yourself a social worker. Your job? A therapist shouldn't act like that.
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If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT let it continue. This is just a summary of my abusive online relationship. I was so happy to get this situation off my chest, being able to vent here.

It is still beyond me why I had a crush on someone so manipulative and abusive.

Sorry to hear that. You're right, abusive relationships are never good. As for your crush question, sadly crushes tend to gravitate towards unsuitable people. I've been in love with a girl that wanted me to not get psychiatric help and with another who just wanted me to buy her presents.

[Croconaw]

I don't want to go to college. It is a choice I have already made. It would be useless for me to pay a bunch of money, and then go to college, and not even try because I don't want to be there. Why pay for something you don't want to do? I'm just fine getting a job and making money that way.

Also, I feel like quitting Nintendo was the one of the best things I have ever done. The immaturity of that community was unacceptable. This group of bullies would follow me everywhere on my game and try to sabotage me. They didn't want me to reach my goal of maximum battle rating, but I did anyway.

[Just JT]

You made a comment about how he treated you made you stronger. That's true, and is good you recognized that. So use that to make improve,nets in your life if you want to.

Do you know what kinda job you wana do?
With college, what ever it is, you'll get a better job that pays more, you'll be able to choos the job you want/like. What if you went part time to school and worked?
I'm pretty sure some colleges have gaming degrees to, maybe even online classes for gaming

[Croconaw]

I want to work overnight at a regular job stocking products making $10 an hour. I don't see a point in college. I hate school. I wouldn't go back.

[Just JT]

Well people will always need to buy stuff especially food right?
You think you wana do that for ever?

[Croconaw]

I might change my mind, but not now. It is very unlikely that I will change my mind, though. I wouldn't mind this job forever. I like it.

[Body odah Man]

I might change my mind, but not now. It is very unlikely that I will change my mind, though. I wouldn't mind this job forever. I like it.

it's good that you've found something like that. I myself am considering quitting college as well and getting a job. I'm just too lazy to study and if u can live off of a job, well, I'm all for it.

[Just JT]

Yeah, I mean if you enjoy it, then who am I to judge. Follow what you like, so you can be happy in your life.

[Croconaw]

it's good that you've found something like that. I myself am considering quitting college as well and getting a job. I'm just too lazy to study and if u can live off of a job, well, I'm all for it.

That's exactly what I'm saying. I can live off a job that pays $10.50 (50 cents added for overnight) an hour. The manager position even gets paid $15 or $16 an hour. I'm all for that amount of money.

[Just JT]

15-16 sounds pretty good bank really. But can you be a manager without college?

[Body odah Man]

15-16 sounds pretty good bank really. But can you be a manager without college?

Maybe not, BUT you can be a (relatively) debt-free, happy American.

[Just JT]

Maybe not, BUT you can be a (relatively) debt-free, happy American.

Very true, veryntrue

[Croconaw]

You can be a manager without college.

[Tim987]

Six months ago, you dumped me. You broke my heart. I was devastated, to be completely honest. I thought we could be together forever. We were not compatible from the start. You were thirty-three years old, and I was eighteen. What made me so attached to you? Maybe it was the feeling of love that no one gave me before, or that you were the person I was spending my whole day with. You tried to change me in the person you wanted me to be. You told me I was different, and I was not like the others that you dated in the past. It made me feel pretty special.

We would play video games. That's all we would ever do. I was a little jealous of your best friend and how close you two were. You would flip out on me every time I accidentally attacked you on that Mario Kart game. You told me we had a bond stronger than even your best friend. You sometimes would purposely ignore me, or try to make me feel bad. I remember this perfectly. You would bitch at me because of reckless play style. I did not have fun playing that game with you.

You would try to force your opinions onto me. Remember that time you told me that we couldn't like separate hockey teams, when you forced your little Habs fandom onto me? You were, like, we are totally going to have a Habs bedroom. You said it's your house, and we live by your rules. We have something here called freedom of expression. We can support whatever team we want. You were trying to force me to go to college. You would make me feel bad if I refused anything.

Right after she dumped me, I spent the whole day looking at videos on how to get your ex back. I did this for about a month or two, until I slowly started losing interest in her. I tried everything to get my mind off her. She was the reason I quit Nintendo. I sold my Wii U and my New 3DS XL. I wanted to rid myself of everything that reminded me of her. I do not have a single Mario or Nintendo video game or product. I listened to sad break up songs, but it only made me feel worse. I cried myself to bed for almost all of January after she broke up with me. I thought it was time to move on to a more mature gaming community. I got my XBOX One out that I got back in November, and I have been playing that.

It slips my mind how we even broke up, looking back on this now. She stopped talking to me in December, the month she dumped me. She said told me we needed to talk, and I knew it was coming. I tried everything I could to stop her from leaving me, but it was just no use. I kept trying to talk to you, but you would either ignore me or bitch, like you always would. When my phone died and I didn't text you, you sent a long ass text message saying that I was ignoring you. You said that I was being a bitch. I figured you would be worried about me if I wasn't responding. Instead, I turn my phone on to a bunch of negative and impulsive comments about how much of a bitch I am.

When I got a new phone in April, I lost all my contacts. That meant I couldn't contact you unless you contacted me first. You never did, and that moment I knew you wanted nothing to do with me. Maybe we weren't meant to be in a relationship, but maybe we were in it for a reason. That was the first time I was dumped by someone. I guess your abusive relationship made me stronger. I had fun with the few friends that I met playing Mario Kart. I'm talking to the people that were always there for me. They know who they are.

Oh, and to my bitch ex girlfriend: I sometimes feel like a complete idiot for dating you so long. I'm not ashamed for dating you. If you ask me, I have nothing to be ashamed of. I think you're the one who should be ashamed. And you call yourself a social worker. Your job? A therapist shouldn't act like that.
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If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT let it continue. This is just a summary of my abusive online relationship. I was so happy to get this situation off my chest, being able to vent here.

It is still beyond me why I had a crush on someone so manipulative and abusive.

Also, this topic isn't about my decision to go to college. I don't want to go. It's my decision. I have already made up my mind. This topic was meant to help people in abusive relationships by sharing my story.

I hope you feel free now :)

[Just JT]

You can be a manager without college.

Then go for it, and be happy!!

[Stronk Serb]

For me, university studies are a must, I want to be a lawyer, enterprise and corporate law, might as well get the job if my cousin opens up his firm. But it's your choice, I will not lecture you, end of story. Good for dumping that daemon. A word of advice, be vary with overly younger or older partners. That's a different stage of life and mentality. For example, a girl I know was with a guy going to uni, they were three years apart. She was in highschool and it caused many problems.

[Uniquemind]

While making up your mind is good, I'd have to disagree about that hourly wage being "enough", once you actually do the math of the rising cost of living.


It actually isn't enough, especially when you have to plan for your aging body, and failing eye sight which happens around middle age. I see it in my grandparents now, really high medical bills etc.

At $10.50 an hour for approx 45 hours a week, that's like 21K or less, that's not enough as a career for the rest of your life.

Such an annual salary can't even help you get a decent car if say your unfortunate enough to get hit on the road.

Such an opinion needs justification, and just to be clear I'm not picking on you, I just want you to truly understand your choice in a logical sense, not an emotional one.