Tired of this happening constantly...

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

I'm tired of this. Every day it's almost the same thing over and over.
The only person that I live with and also the only person I have a chance to talk properly to, just annoys me and ruins my day.
There isn't a single day that we don't have a discussion, and they're all the same - I actually say my arguments and I can prove my point, but every time they just swear and insult with no arguments, and never hear what I have to say.
Every weekend, Saturday morning is the same: They leave the house, I do my best to clean, and when they arrive, sooner or later they are insulting what I did, NEVER with constructive criticism and always saying bad things, sometimes saying I didn't even clean, making my day worse, sometimes they even see a single crumb on the ground and start going slightly mental. They never listen, never think about what I say, and just irritate me and make me feel bad.... And they think I have a good life, since I'm on my computer often. Sigh...

[Phosphene]

I'm sorry to hear this, what a tedious cycle. Since you are able to say your arguments straight-up, have you ever directly told this person you don't like the way they treat you? Is there something specific that has made them have this attitude, do you think, and perhaps something you can do for them to help so you're not at the receiving end of their negativity?

[crazyBoyjJ]

Talking helps, I talked to my mom today about what happened last night and I feel much better now, and I'm starting to understand both mines and her perpesctive. So just say your feelings bro nothing to be ashamed of.

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

Yeah, I've said that a lot of times. And sometimes it makes me feel better after we talk, but it's only sometimes, and even when we talk and that person 'understands' my point of view and we seem to be fine, the next day or even the same day it's the same thing. We do have some moments we are okay with each other, but like I said, there isn't a day we don't have a discussion. Thanks for both of you for the replies.

[Just JT]

When this "person" (can we know who this person is?) speaks to you like this, do you point out right then and there that that's the type of stuff that you were talking about when you had one of those discussions about it and they understood?

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

When this "person" (can we know who this person is?) speaks to you like this, do you point out right then and there that that's the type of stuff that you were talking about when you had one of those discussions about it and they understood?
The person is my mom and when we get angry at each other, and we have a discussion I say my arguments right away. She only says she understands some time after the discussion, when we seem to get well again, but the next day it's the same all over again.

[Just JT]

Ok, so when your having an argument, try and stay in control, be mature about it, and try to politely remind mom of how she had acknowledged how you felt, and how she treated you, when having the argument. It might help so she can make that connection at that time

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

Ok, so when your having an argument, try and stay in control, be mature about it, and try to politely remind mom of how she had acknowledged how you felt, and how she treated you, when having the argument. It might help so she can make that connection at that time
The problem is that most of the times I stay cool and I tell my argument in a mature way and in a respectful way, not screaming at her or anything, but she doesn't want to listen to how I feel at the moment and just says things like 'go f* yourself' to me, etc.

[Just JT]

Did you ever try to just repeat what she says to you after she says those bye to you?

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

Did you ever try to just repeat what she says to you after she says those bye to you?
No, but I know it would just make it worse, so I don't do that. I guess the only thing I can really do is try to ignore it and try to distract myself from the bad things. It'd be cool if we could talk to each other a bit more, maybe about other things too? I really need someone to talk to. Would you mind talking to me in visitor's messages or something? :)

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

Did you ever try to just repeat what she says to you after she says those bye to you?
Hey, I don't know why but I can't message you back. I've seen the message you left but I can't reply to it. Is it better to talk on a thread like here then? Because I can't seem to solve the problem.

[Just JT]

Try it now

[FuTo]

I'm tired of this. Every day it's almost the same thing over and over.
The only person that I live with and also the only person I have a chance to talk properly to, just annoys me and ruins my day.
There isn't a single day that we don't have a discussion, and they're all the same - I actually say my arguments and I can prove my point, but every time they just swear and insult with no arguments, and never hear what I have to say.
Every weekend, Saturday morning is the same: They leave the house, I do my best to clean, and when they arrive, sooner or later they are insulting what I did, NEVER with constructive criticism and always saying bad things, sometimes saying I didn't even clean, making my day worse, sometimes they even see a single crumb on the ground and start going slightly mental. They never listen, never think about what I say, and just irritate me and make me feel bad.... And they think I have a good life, since I'm on my computer often. Sigh...

I feel you my parents are always judging what I do partly because I am gay. They havent congratulated me on anything that I've done. When I got a job they criticized my job and when I started spending my own money and buying my own clothes they'd criticize my spending habits and telling me what to buy or not.

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

I feel you my parents are always judging what I do partly because I am gay. They havent congratulated me on anything that I've done. When I got a job they criticized my job and when I started spending my own money and buying my own clothes they'd criticize my spending habits and telling me what to buy or not.

Same. My mother barely even says something good about me, and even if she does, she'll just criticize me after a bit. She also criticizes how I look, and even when I work really hard at home she tells me I do nothing. Sometimes I think she even buys foods, clothes and other things I like to me so she can say 'I give you lots of sweet things', and I always reply that I don't care about having fancy foods, about having games, etc, all I really want is someone I can trust and I can talk to, someone that truly likes me, someone that understands me.
...That's mostly why right now I'm desperate to have a really close friend.

[Just JT]

And you will, like I said, it just takes time for people to get to know each other, so don't rush it ok?
It'll happen

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

And you will, like I said, it just takes time for people to get to know each other, so don't rush it ok?
It'll happen

Yeah, that's what I always think about having a close friend and about having a girlfriend. I highly doubt it many times, and I feel a bit desperate to want a person who understands and I can talk to often without problems, but I think that while it would be really great if I could find a true friend as soon as possible, that eventually I'll find one.