my grans dying

[mouse23]

my grandma was diagnosed with a cancer and has now gone into a coma, the doctors have said that she probally wont wake up...
i havent been dealing very well and cant face to tell my friends, stopped anwsering my phone and i shut myself up in my room. but im worried about my mum as well...Ive never really gone through something like this before i was hoping maybe someone could help
thank u
x

[JamesSC]

If you ever need to talk message me, I'm sorry to hear this.

[Croconaw]

I'm sorry to hear that. You can always talk to one of us on the site. You don't have to tell your friends if you don't feel comfortable. Never feel pressured into having to do something.

[JamesSC]

I'm sorry to hear that. You can always talk to one of us on the site. You don't have to tell your friends if you don't feel comfortable. Never feel pressured into having to do something.
Yeah, talk to any of us.

[mouse23]

thanks, i really appreciate the support!

[JamesSC]

No problem. Glad we could be here.

[mouse23]

its just really scary sometimes,

[JamesSC]

Yeah. It would be, but you gotta stay strong. I'm sure your nan wants you to be happy, be happy! Don't grief death, celebrate her life.

[kylem]

Ummm wow really sorry to hear. I had the same thing almost with my grandpa like a few weeks ago. He was really sick but he got better but still isn't totally. I was freaking out because I am really close to him. I actually did cry, yeah I said it, I cried. But the thing that helped me the most was friends on here, my friends at school and talking to my parents about it. Sometimes things totally don't make sense when people you like/love get sick. The one thing you can do that will def help is talk about it! Don't hold it in, you need to talk about it, it will make things better, trust me, it helped me lots! I was holding stuff in and that's why I lost it and cried. Don't be afraid to talk about it!

[mouse23]

yea, i guess

[mouse23]

maybe she could get better

[JamesSC]

maybe she could get better
Let's all hope for that outcome.

[Tarannosaurus]

I'm sorry to hear about that. Cancer is really shitty, the only thing you can do is think positively. Remember you can always come here to vent :hug:

[MechaSniper]

I'm sorry to hear that.

[deregisterme]

I've been through it a year and 1/2 ago when my gran died suddenly. When my mum came home, we just took one look at each other, and burst in to tears in each other's arms. I know the pain you're going through. There's no set way for dealing with grief. Sometimes it will just take a while to let it all out. There's no harm in taking all the time that you need. There's no words that can be said, just be there for your mum, and she will appreciate it, and so will you. Remember the good times. If you need somewhere to let it all out, we are here to listen.

[Fanta_Lover44]

I'm soo sorry to hear this, my nanny has been ill for the last 5 years, she's in and out of hospital, each time she gets worse and all we think is shes not going to be here soon, I know a passing of a loved one will hurt, but just tell people when your ready. Forget the bad times and remember the good times. Keep your head up high and i'm always here for you if you need it.

[mouse23]

she passed away last night... umm but my mum and her brother was with her and it was peaceful. Todays just been abit rubbish really, but weve all had a good cry and alot of tea and maybe in a few weeks we'll be able to talk about her againx

[JamesSC]

I'm really sorry to here that Mouse. Things get better from here though.

[mouse23]

one day...^_^

[Remora]

I hope you're feeling better already. It must be terrible going trough something like that, but as mentioned previously, it is more important to celebrate the way she lived than grief the way she died.

[MortimerB]

Same thing - albeit with a broken hip and not cancer - happened to my grandma. We thought it was an alright way to go, as it spared both her and us the suffering of watching the alzheimers progress. My condolences, and may you keep your spirit high!

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I'm so sorry to hear about your gran. :hug: Remember to cherish the good times you had with her. It's okay to cry, and as said, it does get better from here. Hang in there. :hug:

[DarkHorse4eva]

i'm really sorry to hear about your grandma. i think the best you can do is being there for your mom, you all need the people you love around you.

[pianoman237]

:( That must be tough. I lost my last grandparent a while ago: she was in hospice for quite a period of time. I hope for the best for you!!

[Hundred Spirited God]

im not trying to upset you but people with cancer dont usually make it (as far as i know),my mom had cancer and she got rid of it but it came right back :(,it wasnt as bad when a year went by,all you can do is make her happy and spend time with her,if you need someone to talk to,just pm me,im always available :)

[Hanson]

Sorry to hear that. may she rest in peace. Most cancer can be cured if discovered earlier. Prevention should be done in high risk family.

[mouse23]

thank you evryone 4 all the kind messages and support!!it really means alot:hug2:
xx

[Croconaw]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing better. :)

[Stronger]

I'm very sorry to hear about your Grandma, I went through a similar thing almost 2 years ago, it will be hard, but just remember those fun, great times you had with her, and just surround yourself with your loved ones, whether that be friends, your mom, whoever, it'll help with coping.

[hurting]

im so sorry for your lost hun. hang in there,you have us if you need support.

[LunarScorpio]

Sorry to hear this.

[Troye]

Death is the one thing humans will never be able to cope with... I went through a similar experience with my grandmother and it's not fun. The only thing you can do is try to be strong and dont be afraid to talk about your feelings

[CcRoder]

she passed away last night... umm but my mum and her brother was with her and it was peaceful. Todays just been abit rubbish really, but weve all had a good cry and alot of tea and maybe in a few weeks we'll be able to talk about her againx

A good cuppa tea and a cry. There isn't much better.

I cried the whole way through church when my grandparents died. I cried whenever the music would start. I cried when I'd see something that even faintly in the smallest way put my thoughts towards them. It's perfectly alright, and I remember my aunt saying "it's alright love, your life'll move on from today and tomorrow is a new day".

After this, you might be in the situation where you really just have to take each day as it comes, not rushing, not forcing yourself to do a single thing. It's not sense to mope around, but it is perfectly sensible to be sad and a mess for the next few days. It's natural, and it's healthy. Hopefully you'll have your family all around you and the funeral itself might offer consolation. That's grim to say, yeah, but in all reality look at it this way: she is in a much better place, and one day you will be with her again. That's a promise.

That's how I saw myself through my grandparent's funeral. You might have a different mindset but literally the thought of seeing them again helped me.

[mouse23]

yea i know wat u mean
auctually im going to speak at the f, its a poem by her favourite author and it kind of says everything really. that its not the end , reallyx

[Ttssman]

It may seem like it is the end of the world, but I assure you that it is not. D Its one of those things that you have to just take day by day. It will get easier over time. If you have to just find a nice quiet place and just cry it out. Cry out the pain that you are feeling. That's what I did when the beloved rabbit that I had for 10 years was killed by kids in the neighborhood. Although he wasn't a family member, it left a huge hole in me mentally and emotionally. Just cry it out and grieve. That's all you can do now. It will get better. If you want to talk, you can certainly pm me.