Asking a girl out before school ends?

[NoahN]

I desire intimacy above all else in my life, but have never been successful in getting a girlfriend. I've been following all the same advice and trying the same strategies as everyone else, but no girl wants to even give me an opportunity to prove myself.

Anyways, there's this new girl I think is really cute and want to see if we could at the very least have some socializing before summer. We've talked a few times, but she's always been preoccupied with something else and couldn't stay long.

How should I proceed with asking her without "rushing things" or appearing desperate? I'm going to be so devastated if I suffer another entire summer of loneliness, just cuddling and kissing my pillow.

[Tesserax]

Okay calm down and relax. Just take a few deep breaths before you read the next comments so you can think clearly while you absorb and read the information.

The best way to ask a girl out is just to ask her to do something with you. Go watch a movie, go skating, cycling, whatever. Pick something casual to do, something fun and enjoyable, and maybe suggest going to dinner or lunch after, depending on the time. Don't call it a date, don't mention anything about it being romantic or whatever, that's the best way to proceed without "rushing" or appearing desperate.

Don't rush to any conclusions though. She might enjoy it, cool. But whether or not she really likes you is up to her, you have to be patient. If you did well and she really enjoyed it she'll probably make the move, or drop you a million hints as to what she wants you to do. Again, don't think it's more than it is, after the first date chances are she'll at most want a kiss. Anything more and she'll make it obvious rather than teasing/hinting.

A fair word of warning: You sound like you've had a rough time with girls and I understand you, I still haven't really gotten anything going super-well and I've had to work on my game over all these years. However, I know also that you have a 0% chance to make it work if you're not thinking straight and you're like "OMG She's going to be my girlfriend" and you get too excited and give too much too quickly. You get attached too fast and you might make mistakes easily, just take it slow and keep calm.

I'm approaching my next possible relationship a bit more slowly. While I am excited, I hope to go about things a bit more carefully. You should take the same precautions with yourself. Don't get carried away with the initial infatuation, try to tone it down a little because you'll have a better chance for the long term this way.

A little tired so my responses are probably a bit weird and long-winded, but I hope this helps. Good luck!