I want to change

[heylo]

Hi. I'm 17. I have always been a shy guy who isn't liked by no one. Everyone thinks that I'm gay, because most of my friends are girls. I have a good grades at school. I'm not a social person, because I'm afraid that I'm not wanted where I am and that no one likes me. However, I just want to have someone to hang out with every day, to talk with him, to know each other's secrets... I'm not that person that everyone thinks I am. I just want friends. To have someone to smile to or just say "Hi" in the hallway... to feel wanted and feel good. To know that these people like me. It's been almost 10 years since I'm like that. I am so shy and I hate it. I just want to look good, too. To know that when a girl/guy sees me to think "He looks nice person.". I don't want my whole life to be like that. It's not good. It's awful. Last week I had a trip to Brussels with another people who are the same age as me. We were fine and I feel like this was the moment that marks the begging of my change. I hope. Next year I'm going to another school and I want to make friends, to feel good, knowing that they think "He's such a nice person"... I really want to change. Really. I want friends. I don't want to be alone. I want social life. I want to meet people and I want me to don't be so shy. There, I said it: I want to change. But how?

[Jay21]

I had the same problem for my first two years of high school. I was antisocial and I hated myself for it. But the reason for it was that my skin was so bad and I didn't want to talk to other people because of it. Like you, I recognized my problem and I told myself that this will be a new school year and I would be more outgoing. School ends in a few weeks now and I would say that it has worked out great! I have been much more outgoing and charismatic and it feels so much better than my first years of HS. My skin has even improved as a result. Now, you are going to a new school next year. My advice would be to think of this as a brand new start for you. At your new school, be sure to introduce yourself to everyone you can, talk with them, make plenty of friends. It is easy to get scared and be shy, but that will just result in more of the same. The key is to be confident. If you are confident in yourself, in the way you speak and present yourself, then people will be naturally drawn to you. My final question is, do you have any insecurities? If so, then it is best to just forget about them. Nobody who is actually worth talking to and being friends with will happily overlook any of your flaws.

[CoolGuy108]

I highly suggest finding something you like. Whatever your hobby is, and expand on that.

For example, my fav hobby is programming, building computers, and games. So I just used social messaging apps like kik and others to find groups who like those things too.

Start online if you want, be anonymous. Then perhaps do the same at school. Seek out those who enjoy things you like

[Biomicro]

Just like me !

15-Straight

[ska8er]

To make friends u have to b a friend regardless
of what u think people think of u-just b urself-
smile when u meet someone-dress neat-b clean
and get urself involved in some school activity-if
not sports then some kind of a club where u will
meet new people. Quit thinking that people don't
like u or think ur gay-so what? Don't also put urself
down-cause if u lose self esteem u will give out bad
vibes to those that may want to b ur friend and will
get turned off. There is always at least one person
out there that may b interested in u-like the person
that u met in Brussels-also a new school-a new start
to make new friends. :yes:

[Emerald Dream]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Family and Friends

You'll get a better response here :)

[BeautyBelle]

If you're shy, the best thing to do is just talk to people. I know that's easier to say than to do, but you can't be afraid of how people are going to react. Talk to a lot of people, some people won't like you but some will, that's just how it works.

I think a lot of people are lonely because they're afraid of being rejected so they just keep to themselves. Reaching out to people is the only way to make friends, and it gets easier the more you do it, I think.

[FuTo]

Haha I had the same problem but it's just that I'm shy around some boys for some reason idk. But now I can basically go up to anyone and say hi. I'd say start off with people who you are most comfortable with talking to (for me it's girls). You can ask your friend to introduce you to other people maybe one or two if you arent ready to talk to a whole group of people. It can be intimidating but just be yourself and talk about things like movies, clothes, games, tv shows things that people like to talk about.

[SummerHaze]

I understand you, I have almost similar situation, I am not social too, many ppl think i am weird, i like more books than tv, i have a few friends but i don't think that we are really friends, maybe when you will be in college smth has changed

[tomjaron]

I completely understand your problem.

As FuTo said, one way is to greet other people. At first, they may look at you in a weird way, but you'll soon get to know some people. Maybe the first few weeks are difficult, but if you are friendly and open to everybody, you'll soon get nice reactions to it, I promise you.
If you stay calm and don't speak with others, they won't do either.

I know that it all sounds much more easier than it is, but if you are trying to speak with more people it will work!

[Just JT]

Yeah, your not alone there at all. New school, new beginnings, new start. Confidence and how you are perceived are pretty important, so maybe take a look at those things and see if those things need some improvement as mentioned above.

When walking, stand tall straight and proud of who you are, head up, shoulders back, and looking straight ahead. When you walk past someone make eye contact, maybe say hello, and look them in the eyes when speaking to them. Smile, and be genuine, speak clearly, and honestly.

I know that's a lot for someone who is shy like you, but if you start now, get some practice, it'll get easier. One thing you can do is try that in the community you live as you walk down the street with total strangers. See what sort of response as you get, and might build your confidence up to

Let us know how you do ok?