This suicidal guy is in love with me. HELP.

[Teenage wasteland]

I Don't have an acount here so i'm using my friends aacount to do this question

I am a guy.

I met this guy at comiccon while me and my girl-friend (the owner of this acount) were watching the cosplay presentation show. While we were watching the cosplays and stuff, he started to socialize with us.

At the end of the show, we thought he was very cool guy, so my friend asked for his snapchat and he gave it to us.

While he was leaving i looked at him in the eyes and he kind of flirted with me.

My intentions were not to flirt with him. I normally looked at him in the eyes.

He eventually got my phone number so we started talking.

Since i was alone with my friend in her house, we were bored and i started flirting with him because i didn't know how to answer to his flirty texts and i wanted to play along.

The flirty texts got intense from his part so he basically fell inlove with me.

He cant stand not calling me or texting me, so i answer to be friendly and to not reject his messages.

My intentions were not to play with his feelings, but now that he fell inlove with me, i don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm a nice guy.

He talked to my girl-friend and he told her all that he felt from me. I've only met him for 2 days and he already wants to be my boyfriend, he wants to go to prom with me next year, and he wants to know me in the depts of my soul.

Since it's summer he already planned our first date, in details. Which is going to the movies and getting kinky with me. And he planned a "one-night stand" in his poool in the middle of the night near the isolated mountains with me, alone.

When he confessed his deep and dark feelings for me to my friend, he explained to her that i am a new opportunity in his life, since he was suicidal. He is not emotionally stable, he doesnt have a supporting family, and he is alone, and i'm basically his only friend right now.

I obviously don't feel the same way, but at the same time i don't want to hurt his feelings. He is emotionally attached to how i see life and how i "saw" him at the comiccon while he flirted with me.

I explained to him that those were not my intentions, and that i want to be his friend. But since he planned a date to spend together, he wants to get more "friendly", which is not the "friend" i am going for.

I don't know what to do, since he is suicidal, and this is a game with my reputation (because he thinks everyone is going to be a hypocrite to him and lie to him), his life, his feelings and what it's actually happening.

I am afraid, and my friend is afraid too for me and for him. WHAT DO I DO. HELP.

I know that told him the truth but he doesnt care about the truth because i am a new opportunity in his life, but i don't want him to manipulate me using these good feelings, to get kinky.

Btw. I didn't know he was suicidal, and the "getting friendly" part is creepy. Because he is getting obsessed with getting kinky. Not for me, because everyone can get horny and physically attracted to anyone.

Disclaimer. I am not gay but that is not the important part. I am not homophobic, but this guy, which i admit is a really cool and friendly one (which i want to be his friend too, but not get "friendly").

Ah, and my friend is a girl, but its not my girlfriend

[FuTo]

Oh that's awkward. I'm not the best at dealing with things like that. What I normally do is just tell them that I don't have feelings for them. Since you are straight and already have a girlfriend tell him that and if he doesn't understand then it's on him. And since he's suicidal I'd suggest u talk to his parents or someone who can help him.

[Tesserax]

This is going to sound rough but you have to just leave him behind. He's not on the same page, and has problems he needs to work out. He's having a hard time and I get that you want to be nice, but the thing is letting him hold on will only make it worse as he gets more and more attached, because the more attached he gets the more it'll hurt when he's eventually torn away. You have to just tell him to stop, and hope for the best.

With suicidal people, not many are equipped with the ability to help properly and may only end up making it worse, so I suggest forgetting about that lest you exacerbate the problem. There's nothing more you can do but just leave him be. I pray for you man, this is a tough and tricky situation, good luck.

[Tim987]

Disapear block him on everything and dont text him. Im ashamed to say but ive done this to someone in a way and when they had enough of me they did this it hurts at first but because you have to Avenue to contact them you forget them over time and lose your intrest for them and you have only known him for a short time so it will be fine

[ashdyn]

I totally just saw this. THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO!!!

This is a long one so strap in.

So my freshman year of HS I basically did a ton of sports and clubs just so I could broaden my friend groups. Anyway, this kid used to sit out at the football field and watch us practice I guess to wait for his ride or whatever and I'd always be stuck waiting for a ride too so I talked to him and we sorta became friends. Next thing I know he's like joining all the clubs I'm in, always hanging around, and texting me like non-stop. I was always really friendly to him and he started flirting with me. So I'm this stupid 14 year old and I have no idea he's flirting with me and I think he's just really friendly like me lol (just some background: apparently I have a naturally flirty personality according to my gf). Anyway, his texts start getting really flirty and sexual and I'm just like oh shit wtf do I do. So I stupidly play along just thinking maybe he's curious or whatever. Nope. big f'ing nope. This dude thinks we're boyfriends now! I'm really nice...too nice...and stupid. Instead of squashing things early I just kinda nod along and just mmhmm everything. He's like sending me sexts and nudes and talking about love and stuff. Fast forward like 2 weeks I go to school and my phone is ringing off the hook and I don't know the number so I just keep ignoring it. This guy's MOM leaves me like 7 messages yelling and screaming at me about how I turned her son into a faggot. She went through his phone and found everything. BRUH. 14 year old me cannot deal with this. So I don't respond. Right before we all go into the school (everyone hung out in the front courtyard before school) I see this car whip into the parking lot. SHE TRIED TO RUN ME OVER! Yeah that was the end of that. The next day was the last day before winter break so after school I straight up break this kid's heart. He fucking cried. Looking back on it I was a real asshole to him and could've handled everything better but I was young and dumb and scared. Anyway all winter break he texted me about how he was suicidal and needed me and whatnot. I only told him that he was strong enough and like he deserved better than me and to just let go. We stopped talking ever since then..but he's still alive. Gayer than ever and so happy with his life now. He even does drag shows at clubs now.

Anyway....the point of this whole long ass story is to go against your friendly nature and just end shit abruptly right now before anything gets go be too serious of an issue. It's only been a few days so you know he doesn't actually love you. He's just like infatuated. You can tell him that. You can even be nice and tell him you're flattered but just no. I highly doubt he's actually suicidal but if he is just let him know you're nowhere near worth taking his own life over. Like there a thousand guys out there a hundred times better than you in every way that actually want him.

Sorry for the long post but I've never heard of someone who was in that situation like I was before lol hope everything turns out ok

[Melodic]

From personal experience, He's most likely not suicidal. If anything he's showing red flags of emotional abuse and possessiveness. He's trying to guilt trip you into staying with him by using suicide. He also can't understand that you don't consent to dating him. You can tell him 20 times that you don't feel the same way, but he's not going to accept that. Trust me. Just block him. Don't think you're doing anything wrong to him. If anything, you're just pulling yourself from a situation that could escalate to even worse problems down the road.

[BrokenWingedPegasus]

I don't know if he's actually in love with you. It's hard to say, but there's a chance that he's just trying to mess with you and make you feel terrible... Not to mention that it's really strange for him to fall in love with you in such a short time, even when he knows about how you feel and about your girlfriend. So... I'd just stay away from him. I think he might not be as good of a person as you think he is, and if he's not, he wins anyway, really. He either makes you feel terrible for leaving him or forces you to be close to him, so try to block him and leave him, and don't think about his supposed suicidal tendencies.

[xoxo1013]

In my personal opinion i think it is best to be straight with him, he said he has always been lied to so do not lie to him and tell him exactly what your intentions are. Tell him you have a girlfriend and friends is the best option for you in this situation.

[Jane Eyre]

I too have gone through this whole emotionally confused state like you. my ex tried to use the same suicide trick on me and guilt me into staying with him but I was strong enough to leave him. so, if I were you, I should have simply told him in definite terms how he makes me feel and also explain to him my situation. it may hurt for a while and he may bother you, but if you ignore him and block him straight away, he will definitely find you unworthy of his "love" and move on. I know it's kinda rough and "cruel" but a truthful confession is better than a false consolation. you may be kind and caring, but you are not responsible for his life and his emotional tantrums. and be sure that what he is defining as love is mere infatuation, because love doesn't force anyone. the more you talk to him, the more attached he will be to you and over time, this could get dangerous. I would suggest you talk to your parents about him. This guy needs a therapist, not a lover so just let your parents handle him.