AbyssalLight7
May 25th, 2016, 07:34 PM
So I haven't posted or even logged into Virtual Teen in years, but I decided to come back to share a success story. I'm 18 now, but I first joined VT when I was probably about 14 (??? Give or take) and at the time I was an incredibly insecure person, rather social awkward, and in pretty deep self denial about my sexuality.
But guess what? Things got better :)
I am now openly in the only same sex relationship at my school with a wonderful guy. I used to do weird things in the name of being weird, unique, "myself", like wear this very unusual hat. In hindsight, I was just being a different kind of fake. As I came to terms with my sexuality and accepted it I was able to become more comfortable just being myself. I no longer feel the need to act one kind of fake in the name of not being plastic (A mistake so many people make), and instead I am just able to be myself. This resulted in a much happier me, and as it turns out, helped me make so many friends, and this improvement in my life added even more joy, resulting in a kind of positive self fulfilling cycle.
Growing Up Gay, especially in a family as religious as mine, can be difficult. And yeah, sure it still has its downsides, like my parents don't approve of homosexuality and so they still don't know about me or my boyfriend, which kind of sucks, but now that I've accepted that that's how it must be, I am able to simply move on and its really not so bad. Besides, I am graduating in a few days and moving to a super LGBTQ+ friendly college when summer's over.
This all sounds like a self centered story, almost like I'm bragging, but I really don't want that to be the message of this. I want people to see my story and see the hope in it. I want you all to know that there is hope and things really can get better. I used to be miserable but I'm doing so well now, and I want you to know that where-ever you are in your journey, the same improvements can happen for you as well. Please, be honest with yourselves and just be who you are, within the realm of safety, of course! Don't go out of your way to be one way or the other, don't be fake in the name of popularity or in the name of not being 'plastic' and don't let fear control you. Some personal decision making and self growth will be required along the way, but things WILL get better and there is always HOPE!
But guess what? Things got better :)
I am now openly in the only same sex relationship at my school with a wonderful guy. I used to do weird things in the name of being weird, unique, "myself", like wear this very unusual hat. In hindsight, I was just being a different kind of fake. As I came to terms with my sexuality and accepted it I was able to become more comfortable just being myself. I no longer feel the need to act one kind of fake in the name of not being plastic (A mistake so many people make), and instead I am just able to be myself. This resulted in a much happier me, and as it turns out, helped me make so many friends, and this improvement in my life added even more joy, resulting in a kind of positive self fulfilling cycle.
Growing Up Gay, especially in a family as religious as mine, can be difficult. And yeah, sure it still has its downsides, like my parents don't approve of homosexuality and so they still don't know about me or my boyfriend, which kind of sucks, but now that I've accepted that that's how it must be, I am able to simply move on and its really not so bad. Besides, I am graduating in a few days and moving to a super LGBTQ+ friendly college when summer's over.
This all sounds like a self centered story, almost like I'm bragging, but I really don't want that to be the message of this. I want people to see my story and see the hope in it. I want you all to know that there is hope and things really can get better. I used to be miserable but I'm doing so well now, and I want you to know that where-ever you are in your journey, the same improvements can happen for you as well. Please, be honest with yourselves and just be who you are, within the realm of safety, of course! Don't go out of your way to be one way or the other, don't be fake in the name of popularity or in the name of not being 'plastic' and don't let fear control you. Some personal decision making and self growth will be required along the way, but things WILL get better and there is always HOPE!