I lost two great family members

[Leon03]

Just needed some place to right this down and maybe get some - I dont know what I need now - maybe some nice words.
Last weekend my dad's brother and his wife were killed in a car crash. A truck driver had a heart attack and crashed into their car. They were on their way home from a business meeting.
I really loved my uncle and his wife - they were great people to be around with. I am still unable to realize they are gone.
All the worse that they have two kids, 11 and 13 who were not with them. They stayed with friends for that night.
I feel so sorry for them as they keep crying since it happened. Although it is hard for me too I kind of want to be their "big cousin" and help them where ever they need help. But I don't know what to say.
Shit. I thought it's always "the others" whom bad things or accidents happen.
It sucks so much to watch them suffering :cry:.

[FuTo]

My condolences and I know exactly how you felt. My aunt passed away from something that shouldn't have killed her. The fact that she had a young daughter asking for her everyday broke everyones heart even more. Hopefully they are now in a safer place and looking over your family. And sorry if I'm not the most comforting person :/ I'm usually the one being comforted.

[lyhom]

ouch... my condolences.

I honestly really hope that kids are going to be okay

[Dalcourt]

My condolences. This is so sad. I hope your cousins will be okay.

[Plane And Simple]

Sorry to hear that. As the "big cousin" you are, you just need to be there for them. Most of these times, a hug means more than a million words, so just show them you're there for whatever they might need. I lost a close family member not long ago, and I had to do just what you're doing. Shoot me a message if you need anything

Chin up :)

[Melodic]

I'm sooooo sorry for your loss. If you need someone to talk to, I'm just a message away.

[Leon03]

I thank you all sooooo much.
Yesterday was the funeral which was super hard for all of us.
My cousins cried all night long. Nevertheless we convinced them to come with us to a bathing lake today. They had fun. At least as much fun they could have in a situation like this.
And now they sleep. Cuddled up.
I am so glad. It is the first time in days they sleep. If I could only do more for them.

[Just JT]

You are doing all you can for them right now, just being there for them. As time passes, they are going to need help from someone, someone to talk to. So I hope a good older cousin like you can be around for them when that happens.

Do they live near you?
Where will they live now?
I hope with you

[Uniquemind]

There's been a LOT of fatal car accidents in my community too that's doing this same thing to a lot of families.

It's really tragic and sometimes accidents like these are weather related.

This is one of those situations where you just need to be the silent guardian, no don't the absence of their parents will be felt for decades to come, for instance they aren't physically there for any future family event, your cousins are processing the full weight of not having a parent there for guidance, their own wedding, to be there as a grandparent, for graduation, and also what comes next are the legal transference of property rights which can uproot a child from their immediate social network.


There's a lot going on here and more to come. Be ready.

[Just JT]

Yes, this, knowing this from my own experience
This is when they will need the most support



There's been a LOT of fatal car accidents in my community too that's doing this same thing to a lot of families.

It's really tragic and sometimes accidents like these are weather related.

This is one of those situations where you just need to be the silent guardian, no don't the absence of their parents will be felt for decades to come, for instance they aren't physically there for any future family event, your cousins are processing the full weight of not having a parent there for guidance, their own wedding, to be there as a grandparent, for graduation, and also what comes next are the legal transference of property rights which can uproot a child from their immediate social network.


There's a lot going on here and more to come. Be ready.