Advice for a Fellow Friend

[halseymm]

hi yall!

My guy best friend just asked me for advice with romance and I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO! I mean of all people, he asks me. I've never even dated or even gone in the direction of dating.

So he's a short Filipino but he's cool, not popular, just average and he needs help. He wants to ask out a girl from his youth group and she's super cute (him, her and me are all in year 8 Australia). He's dated a couple of other girls before, even though he's not allowed to date. Neither is the girl.

He asked her out ages ago (didn't tell me exactly when) but he was rejected which sucks. She's also rejected two other guys when they asked her out. She must have pretty high standards, but then again my friend really likes her so she must be consistent with her personality too.

They're currently in the friend zone and he's asking me for advice! I have a lot of knowledge about dating, but when it comes to applying this knowledge, I'm out. Sheesh. Glad I'm lonely, I don't have to stress about all this romance.

okay anyways, this is about my friend.
I approve of the girl, she's pretty and seems nice.
I don't want to give him false hope because I don't want him to get rejected again and have his heart crushed by this girl. I mean, hes liked her since May this year and he's liked her before too.

What should my fellow friend do because honestly, I think he has no chance. But then again I don't believe in love. hahaha lol.

This is urgent guyss please reply even if it's not the answer my friend would prefer. Just want some constructive opinions.

Thoughts below pleaseeeee :) :P :wub:

thanks fam

[Body odah Man]

hi yall!

My guy best friend just asked me for advice with romance and I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO! I mean of all people, he asks me. I've never even dated or even gone in the direction of dating.

So he's a short Filipino but he's cool, not popular, just average and he needs help. He wants to ask out a girl from his youth group and she's super cute (him, her and me are all in year 8 Australia). He's dated a couple of other girls before, even though he's not allowed to date. Neither is the girl.

He asked her out ages ago (didn't tell me exactly when) but he was rejected which sucks. She's also rejected two other guys when they asked her out. She must have pretty high standards, but then again my friend really likes her so she must be consistent with her personality too.

They're currently in the friend zone and he's asking me for advice! I have a lot of knowledge about dating, but when it comes to applying this knowledge, I'm out. Sheesh. Glad I'm lonely, I don't have to stress about all this romance.

okay anyways, this is about my friend.

I approve of the girl, she's pretty and seems nice.

What should my fellow friend do because honestly, I think he has no chance. But then again I don't believe in love. hahaha lol.

Thoughts below pleaseeeee :) :P :wub:

Ah, the friend zone my nemesis. I've been in the friendzone with many many girls, and sadly I don't think there's a way to get out of it. Other posters may feel free to contradict me tho

[Uniquemind]

It depends on the situation this is.

If she's the type of person who is nice, but when it comes to attraction she has a specific type of physical look or attitude that's a must-have ingredient for her sense of attraction to switch on, he's probably out of luck.

Personality can be changed to a degree, but that's easier said than done, and you run the risk of being fake, I'm referring to more than just acting, more like habit and behavior changes.


However, if she's got hidden feelings but is denying them due to household parental units, and she's rejecting because she just isn't a rebellious type of teen, then there is some hope.

There's just too many variables at play here, and it's impossible to provide better advice as is. Sorry.

[Tesserax]

Tell him don't bother. A girl with high standards like that probably gets off on people coming to her. If he's already been rejected, there's nothing he can really do to be honest. The best thing he can do is show that it doesn't affect him and that he can live without it. The lack of attention from her might draw her to him more, but I still wouldn't go for it. Go for a girl who wants you when you want her, not when you don't want her.

[Stronk Serb]

The friendzone is fake. It's a construct by guys to justify why something hasn't happemed with a girl. It's a simple yes or no. The answer may change with time, depending on the girl and the guy. Also he should not get his hopes up. If he's been rejected once, he might be twice. Also, she might be straight refusing guys because of family, unattractivness to personality or looks. The whole thing is riddled with variables that I need fore information in order ti give you good advice.