View Full Version : Im just kinda giving up
Ineedyou
May 22nd, 2016, 11:22 PM
Ive reached a point in my life where my parents, friends, and family are all wondering why I dont date. Everytime i see my family member they will ask where my girlfriend is. Ive reached a point where I cant hid who i am anymore, I can't pretend to be the person Im not. I cant live up to the expectations that people have given me. Ive tried to be myself and show people the real me, I just get shot down into depression. If i even show a hint of who I am, a hint of my gayness, then the bullying comes in. Ive worked so hard for the past year to build my confidence back up, I cant let it get torn down again. I can't come out to anyone, I cant be myself no matter how hard i try. To be my self will mean i will lose everyone i have. Even if they dont know the real me, they are still there for me. Im just giving up on life, I dont see how any of this can get better. I cant remember a week that I havnt cried myself to sleep. Its all just going to get worse the longer I keep this secret. Im sick of life.
Colbith
May 23rd, 2016, 12:05 AM
Hey buddy don't talk like that. Talk to someone matter of fact I'm here for ya if you wanna talk. I know what's its like to have a secret but don't give up over it. Please.
ska8er
May 23rd, 2016, 05:37 AM
Y u don't date is no ones business but urs-u cant let
everyone pull u down and it seems ur letting them.
U don't say how old u r but if u r old enough to b on
u own get away from people who r making ur life rough.
Make new friends who r going to respect u the way u r.
If u cant go on ur own-make the best of it til the day u
can get away from things that r making u depressed,
I'm sure things will get better-u may not think of it right
now but if u can stay strong u can pull urself out of it.
U tried before to b urself but don't let anyone pull u down-
try and try again-if u cant cope find a good group like LGBT
or a school councilor or teacher to help u talk this out.
I know its hard to keep a secret but just play this thing
out til u find someone who is going to accept u as u.
lemondrop
May 23rd, 2016, 11:21 AM
Hey,you're in the same situation as i'm ,except that i'm bi ,but don't want to have any kind of relationship and that's nobody's business, i don't see a need to come out as a bi ,because people gonna judge me. But there will come the time when u will have to say that you're gay, earlier u'll tell easier it will be to accept(at least for me) ~_~
DoodleSnap
May 23rd, 2016, 08:49 PM
Hey, plenty of people don't end up dating people, and that's nobody's business but your own. If they ask, you tell them that.
Just JT
May 23rd, 2016, 08:59 PM
Sounds like you got nothing left to lose by just being yourself and ignoring any negative attention it brings
Kaeneus
May 24th, 2016, 04:51 AM
You won't have to keep this secret forever. You said you're not out to anyone, but you are. We all know. We don't care. And the people you meet later in life, the friends you'll make the boyfriends who will love you, they won't care either.
Just JT
May 24th, 2016, 05:59 AM
You won't have to keep this secret forever. You said you're not out to anyone, but you are. We all know. We don't care. And the people you meet later in life, the friends you'll make the boyfriends who will love you, they won't care either.
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