Coming out again

[Sudds3]

Hey everyone!

So in the past 6 months or so a lot has happened. I realized I was gay back in January and I've been completely out since mid-February. It went really well; everyone accepted me and no one honestly cared all that much, other than my ex girlfriend who outed me to a bunch of people. My immediate family knows and they're fine with it too, but now comes the difficult situation. I leave for my Freshman year of college in like 3 months and I'm not sure when I should tell people. I find out who my roommate is in July (pretty sure I'm just gonna go random) but I'm not sure when/if I should tell them. The way I see it I have a few options:

1) Just tell everyone right away and get it over with.
2) Wait a few weeks into the semester until I have a group of friends established and then come out again.
3) Just live normally, like I do now, and just kinda continue on but not deny that I'm gay.

Personally I like the third option. Most everyone said that they never would've thought I was gay, so everyone at my university will probably just assume I'm straight. Any advice?

[lemondrop]

I would only come out as if i would like to have/find a boyfriend in the unoversity, if no i don't see the need. I vote for the 3rd option ^.^ and maybe if the girls would be very fancy on me so i wouldn't have to deal with them

[ska8er]

I would say #2-Meet ur roommate-get to
know him and get acquainted-That goes
with meeting new friends also before u think
u want to say anything bout ur lifestyle. As for
ur roommate don't make ur life uncomfortable-
remember u have to live with him-scope him out
before saying anything.

[NitoJuanito]

I'd say a combination of the #2 and #3. Get to know your roommate(s) (if you get a dorm like me then you might have 2 or 3). Once you get to know each other, then go ahead and tell them, but other than that, just be yourself. You're not living in the closet if you just not tell anyone.
If they ask, then just tell them the truth. Don't hide it and don't lie to them or to yourself.
There are safe places/zones on multiple campuses, if you run into any problems or start to feel unsafe, go to those faculty members/ staff and ask for some advice.
Find your gay-straight alliance group and make that your home! They have connections to people that, if you are to be attacked for it, will give you shelter and such that you need if you can't stay in your dorm. Also, it's a great way to make new friends!:metal:

[Bull]

I am out, but never "came out" to anyone. I live with a guy, so it is kinda obvious. I say #3. Just live your life as you normally do. If asked give honest answers. No need to make an announcement.

[hesaidhesaid]

I did #3. Works well for me. I don't mind that people do or not know. If they have issues about it, they don't have to talk to me.

Post 250, I might add.

[Abhorrence]

Third option is best, imo. You're not defined by your sexuality and it is nobodies business other than your own. The whole coming out thing is stupid to me, anyway. Just live your life, have sex with who you want and carry on.

[Bluebyrd]

I think that number three is the best too. It might be difficult and perhaps a little weird to come out to a bunch of strangers. There's also an argument for number one too though because then you can ensure that whoever you do make friends with are true friends who are willing to accept you. It's your choice though so do what you feel most comfortable with.

[FuTo]

I came out to my friends and parents but hey they could already tell with my girly ways lol. Trust me when u come out it'll be like a big ass boulder has been lifted off your shoulders.

[DoodleSnap]

I think that number three is the healthiest option: no one should have to assume anything about you. Doing this is the best way because it is open and natural, in my opinion.