Anxiety from oral sex!!

[Cyclin]

Hi,

My issue with my partner is that she dislike giving me blowjob and she said that she gets anxiety from doing that. We took a shower together to make sure that we are both clean but still she dislike it. I think she would not mind when I give her oral, but she won't give me back. I like it and wanna try it with her but she is not there for me in this point. Idk what to do ? And if she insists, how can I introduce the idea of anal sex instead? we never talked about it. Any ideas.

[kyrocks03]

Best thing is to respect her wishes - if she doesn't want to suck your dick, don't press the issue or you'll end up being alone with your hand. I'm guessing that if she doesn't like sucking on your dick, she isn't going to want you poking it in her bum.

[Cyclin]

Why should I forget it even before trying more than one time?! She is easy going and in love with me, and how to approach it is what I lack.

[Sydneyy]

Not every girl is into giving oral sex, you're going to have to be patient about it and just stop insisting on it. Respect her decision and either let it go or wait. If you want to have anal with her you're probably going to be in the same situation. Ask her for her thoughts on it if she doesn't like it, oh well. Good luck

[mattsmith48]

Not every girl like giving bjs its like some guys dont like to eat pussys, it sucks but you have to respect her choice

[Taryn98]

Time is the key. Many girls are either scared to do it, or are disgusted by it. In both cases, they usually change their minds as they mature and especially after they talk to their girl friends and hear stories that it's not so bad.
It's best to wait.

[Cyclin]

Thanks guys.

Also If I want her to shave completely because little hairs are like picky pokes when I our bodies touch each other. I told her and she seems not very mindful. Also she has hair in her butt. Lots of things in my mind towards her. And how to tell her is the obstacle! I am afraid of being rude and she gets me wrong. Any good ideas to deliver my wishes in a polite way ?

[JohnJack]

Just make sure your communication is open and clear. If you are interested in anal, ask, but if she says no, don't try to persuade her. Trying to convince her will just make her feel uncomfortable and probably make her not want to do anything sexual at all with you.

[Zbmrnb16]

The more you try to force her to do it, the more sanity it'll give her. Just let her make her own decisions.

[birdbrain01]

Why should I forget it even before trying more than one time?! She is easy going and in love with me, and how to approach it is what I lack.

How old are you both? Maybe when you're older she might be more interested in doing it. You guys done any kind of sexual activity yet?

[Almostahero]

Try to get to the root of the problem. She might have had a bad experience considering it is causing anxiety. Once you know what the problem is, work through it with her. She may enjoy it.

[Cyclin]

Twenties. Yes we had sex before. She has Generalized anxiety disorder and sees a doctor.

[jimbo56]

don't force anything on her. she will probably become interested in oral at some point. to introduce anal you have to go slow. a little fingering around her butt is a good start. as you do oral on her, slide down and start licking around her butt. she will love it and then things can go from there

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: