BannedDPS
May 17th, 2016, 03:02 AM
Well the title says it all but I'll go into some more detail. I'm a male who just turned 19 (Yes, I know I'm fairly young) and have been out of a relationship for about 8 months now. When I was with my ex, my sex drive was fairly higher than hers was but wasn't part of the reason I ended things with her.
The first 4 months after the breakup without any contact with a woman were fairly easy. (I don't usually come into contact with women, but I have no game and usually don't take action when I meet one I find attractive) I had no sexual urges or the like. Around month 5-6, it started to get really bad. I'd get a bad case of sexual frustration for days at a time, and it would go away for maybe a day or two. Then the process would repeat itself. It got to the point where I looked in the Casual Encounters section on Craigslist, and I had actually planned to meet up with someone but they flaked and the whole situation went spiraling downwards. I'll save that story for another day, but eventually my frustration died down again for a while around the end of the 6th month being single.
A few days ago it started back up. More frustration. It's changed my mindset and how I feel towards women in general. I see a lot of them now as sex objects, an opportunity to satisfy my cravings. Just last night I came rather close to taking advantage of a drunk girl at a concert but I didn't go through with it. But today it got to the point where I was furious with myself, and it's already affecting the relationships I have with my friends and family.
Yes I masturbate but it's only a temporary relief, and at this point the thought of it disgusts me because I'd rather have an actual woman satisfy me. I don't know very many women at all, maybe 6 total; all of whom are in relationships with my guy friends or are unwilling to hook up with me (Yes, I've asked) I've tried things such as Tinder and OkCupid for about 6 months now but haven't even held a conversation with anyone for more than a week. In addition, meeting new people isn't my specialty considering I'm a huge introvert.
So basically I'm in dire need of hooking up with someone or even dating one. Or finding a way to suppress my sexual frustration. I obviously prefer the first option but the second will *hopefully* help just as much. Any help at all is greatly appreciated.
The first 4 months after the breakup without any contact with a woman were fairly easy. (I don't usually come into contact with women, but I have no game and usually don't take action when I meet one I find attractive) I had no sexual urges or the like. Around month 5-6, it started to get really bad. I'd get a bad case of sexual frustration for days at a time, and it would go away for maybe a day or two. Then the process would repeat itself. It got to the point where I looked in the Casual Encounters section on Craigslist, and I had actually planned to meet up with someone but they flaked and the whole situation went spiraling downwards. I'll save that story for another day, but eventually my frustration died down again for a while around the end of the 6th month being single.
A few days ago it started back up. More frustration. It's changed my mindset and how I feel towards women in general. I see a lot of them now as sex objects, an opportunity to satisfy my cravings. Just last night I came rather close to taking advantage of a drunk girl at a concert but I didn't go through with it. But today it got to the point where I was furious with myself, and it's already affecting the relationships I have with my friends and family.
Yes I masturbate but it's only a temporary relief, and at this point the thought of it disgusts me because I'd rather have an actual woman satisfy me. I don't know very many women at all, maybe 6 total; all of whom are in relationships with my guy friends or are unwilling to hook up with me (Yes, I've asked) I've tried things such as Tinder and OkCupid for about 6 months now but haven't even held a conversation with anyone for more than a week. In addition, meeting new people isn't my specialty considering I'm a huge introvert.
So basically I'm in dire need of hooking up with someone or even dating one. Or finding a way to suppress my sexual frustration. I obviously prefer the first option but the second will *hopefully* help just as much. Any help at all is greatly appreciated.