So should I or not?

[Gumleaf]

Ok, so about 9 months ago a new girl came to my bible study group (new to the study, not the church I go to). I didn't know her at all before then. Anyways, over the next few times we had group, I heard her talking and stuff and started to like her a bit. Anyways, she had to go away for University Prac for 2.5 months from about August last year and when it finished, she didn't come back to the group.

Anyways, last night she came back unexpected to us all. What shocked me was despite my anxiety issues, I actually started a convo with her for about 15-20mins after the study, so I was quite proud of myself. I found her friendly and nice and I still like her a bit.

Soooo, finally to my question. I would appreciate some advice from girls with this. I'm thinking of emailing her (I have her email through our bible study) and saying that it was nice meeting her properly last night and maybe some other stuff idk etc etc. I was wondering whether that would be weird or not and yeah, stuff like that. Haha, this makes no sense but I hope you can figure it out. Thanks. :)

[Plane And Simple]

That wouldn't be weird at all. Is say go for it! Build up the friendship, and hen just go from there.

Just try not to be over her every day every time, if she doesn't reply, let it be but don't annoy her much

Good luck :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

Well hope some of the girls will help out here but....

. I would appreciate some advice from girls with this. I'm thinking of emailing her. :)


... I think you should and my bro (I red this out to him) says also its good practice as well the more you meet nice folks the more convos you have etc.

good luck.

[AlexOnToast]

I don't see how it would be weird. It seems like you got along really well with her :)

[Emerald Dream]

That's not weird at all. In fact, I wish more guys would do things like that. I know I have anxiety issues of my own, but I also hate feeling like people see me as unapproachable.

[Camazotz]

I think that's perfectly normal. That's what I would do in that situation.

[Tarannosaurus]

Do it! Good luck :)

[riverboy]

I think it be a good idea.

[Croconaw]

You should go for it. She would like the fact that you're confident. Not many guys would have the courage to do that.

[kylem]

Def not werid. If you actually found someone that you can talk to about it and she'll listen, then go for it. She seems really nice and who knows maybe something more serious might happen. If anything, she'll be a awesome friend.

[JamesSC]

I think you should.

[Gumleaf]

Thanks. :)

I'll send it, but from what I know she's a quiet person and may not reply. I just mention that because it's like my messed up mind will likely take that as rejection.

[Gumleaf]

I know i'm bumping but this doesn't need a new thread. (after an appropriate time for people to see the update a mod can perhaps merge if they choose to?)

So this is what I sent to her last night. Hopefully it sounds ok, i'm not sure?

'Hey <insert name>, it was nice to meet you properly the other night. Only a few months overdue, but still it was nice talking to you and welcome back to the group. Hope to chat again soon. Have a great week.'

Anyways, i'm hoping for a reply but i'm trying not to get my expectations up too high with it.

[Gumleaf]

So i'm bumping again, but better then starting a new thread for this. (again, feel free to merge in a day or 2 once people have had the chance to see the updated posts. Thanks)

So I was surprised to find that I got a reply from this girl to the message I sent last night. This is what she said 'Thanks Stephen, it was nice to be back again.' Now, a skill that i'm good at is over analysing situations like this. I find it a positive that she took the time to reply. But I find it a negative that she made no reference to our convo at all.

Anyways, does anyone have any thoughts on what I should do next?
I'm thinking I sit back and wait til next bible study to talk to her again. It might start getting annoying if I keep emailing her now after only one convo?

[Lune]

How often do you go to bible study ?

I think you should just wait and see. Indeed it might be annoying if you keep emailing her, plus she didn't ask any questions, generally it means that it's the end of the conversation. (if she wanted you to answer again, she would've ask something, I think)
But she said your name and that's a good sign !

So just wait until the next bible study, and you'll talk to her again ! (:

(sorry for my english!)

[Gumleaf]

How often do you go to bible study ?

I think you should just wait and see. Indeed it might be annoying if you keep emailing her, plus she didn't ask any questions, generally it means that it's the end of the conversation. (if she wanted you to answer again, she would've ask something, I think)
But she said your name and that's a good sign !

So just wait until the next bible study, and you'll talk to her again ! (:

(sorry for my english!)

Bible study is on every 2 weeks on a Friday night.

[PatrickV]

I say go for the email, you will regret I if you don't.

[DarkHorse4eva]

i would get to know her better before taking contact through email, get to see if your feelings for her are serious and take the chance when you feel like its time

[Gumleaf]

I say go for the email, you will regret I if you don't.

i would get to know her better before taking contact through email, get to see if your feelings for her are serious and take the chance when you feel like its time

Thanks, but I sent the email already, a few days ago now. If you look a couple of posts up you'll see what I said about it.

[DarkHorse4eva]

okay, well, good luck and lets hope she'll send a good answer :)

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Now all you do is wait. It'll be nice to just act friendly. Even if she is a bit shy, she might open up to you. Don't pester her and send her a ton of e-mails, that's the last thing you wanna do. I'm sure she'll reply back. c:

[noplanhere9]

Definitely start the convo through email. Start off with small talk