Is someone a bad friend for not hanging out enough?

[Pulp501]

I've been mad at my friend because he never hangs out with me anymore and he never wants to but despite the fact that he never wants to hang out with me he claims I'm still his 2nd best friend, which should mean he should want to hang out right? Every weekend he goes and gets drunk at parties so I kind of feel like he only cares about that and since I don't party he doesn't think I'm good enough to hang out with. Is it wrong of me to think he's a bad friend for not spending some of those weekends with me instead of getting drunk at parties? During school he always said he had homework during the week but now that it's summer he can't use that excuse but he still isn't hanging out with me when when there's no parties. Idk what his deal is, if he just doesn't like me and won't tell me or what. Does it really make him a bad friend, because I mean, its not like there is a minimum obligation of how much time friends are supposed to hang out but that is how friendships work, you hang out, you can't really be friends if you don't hang out regularly in my opinion, and it's hard for me because he's really my only friend and I wish he would just be more considerate to that fact.

[Remora]

Aiiee, sounds like you're in a tough spot.

It sounds like the two of you have grown apart. That doesn't make him a bad friend. I think he's *trying* to be a good friend by making up excuses and not acknowledging the fact you're 'incompatible' now, to avoid hurting your feelings, because assuming he used to be a great friend with you he still cares about you and knows you don't exactly have a lot of friends aside from him. He may only still tell you you're his second best friend because he feels guilty about not hanging out with you more, but... well, i don't think it's a good idea for him to force himself into being friends with someone he doesn't get along with because his or your interests changed.

My recommendation is, and i understand i sound like a douchebag, but look for other friends. Look for people with similar interests, take baby steps if you have to but just try to run into other human beings that also think <thing you think is cool> is cool! :p

[Almostahero]

Two people can grow apart and eventually part ways. But I also believe you can go a long time with even seeing a real friend and when you meet up again pick up where you left off.

Just gotta find out if you are taking different paths in life or just life have you both busy atm.

[Supermeggs12]

Not necessarily.