How can I not cum so fast??

[Just a Guy]

I was messing around with my girlfriend but during foreplay she started rubbing my dick and giving me a handjob and I came during that and we didn't even make it to actual sex, how can I not cum so early next time I would like to go for longer and pleasure her as well

[ValentinClarke]

I was messing around with my girlfriend but during foreplay she started rubbing my dick and giving me a handjob and I came during that and we didn't even make it to actual sex, how can I not cum so early next time I would like to go for longer and pleasure her as well

The more you masturbate, the less sensitive you will be. Or, if you know you're going to have a sexual experience, masturbate beforehand, and it should take longer to cum

[Jay21]

Doing kegel exercises can help strengthen the muscle involved in ejaculating which, as a result, allows you to hold it in better. It also does a few other good things for you, so I would suggest looking them up

[kyrocks03]

Do those kegal things and beat off before you meet up with her.

[Zachary G]

masturbating before hooking up with her is a good idea, but if you really want to make it interesting, teach her how to edge you when shes giving you a hand job, this way you can both enjoy it together and learn your limitations.

[andyh007]

Like others have said I started doing kegel excersizes to help with my lack of control. Just started doing them so don't know if its helping. But be careful if you cum as easy as me. Flexing my kegel muscles for too long has actually made me ejaculate.

[Hermes]

I think before our first time we all have an idea of how it will be - how we will do things in a certain order, how we will be such a stud and do it for hours etc. but it doesn't necessarily turn out like that and it doesn't necessarily matter especially if you love each other.

Talk to each other. If she's giving you a hand job tell her how it feels and how close your are. If she's rubbing you through your pants and you feel yourself getting close ask he to stop and get it out so you don't mess your underwear - I'm sure she'd be curious to see it. If it's out still tell her how close you are.

Do you know how she felt about you cumming? She may have been disappointed that you didn't end up going further but she may also have been flattered that she could have that effect on you. Or maybe she was silent pleased that it then avoided an awkward moment of checking if you have a condom.

If it happens again, you want to go further, and you still have some time left you could do something for her - suck her nipples, finger her, lick her out, whatever she likes. After doing that for a while I reckon you'll be hard again and it will take longer to cum the second time so you can go for it.

[Canadian Dream]

masturbating before hooking up with her is a good idea, but if you really want to make it interesting, teach her how to edge you when shes giving you a hand job, this way you can both enjoy it together and learn your limitations.

That's actually quite good advice, I'd never thought of that before. However you can also teach yourself how to edge while masturbating by yourself, and that will actually make you last longer when it comes to sex.

[jayjay111]

You can desensitize your dick by keeping your foreskin retracted.

[Bluebyrd]

I'm no expert but perhaps when you're masturbating you could try edging.

[JellyBelly31]

masturbating before hooking up with her is a good idea, but if you really want to make it interesting, teach her how to edge you when shes giving you a hand job, this way you can both enjoy it together and learn your limitations.

I bet the end result would be much more than she bargained for ;) xD

[Kevgpdx]

I have no idea what kegel exercises are. hahaha But, i think masturbating a lot and learning how to have long masturbation sessions. Like really edging it. That could probably help with lasting longer.

[Biomicro]

Like other people say you just have to exercise and masturbate !

15-Striaght