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momomaster
May 15th, 2016, 07:13 AM
So about 2 months ago I started talking to this girl that I was already friends with before from school. (Btw we're in high school. I'm a junior she's a sophomore) She seemed really cool and she was really attractive. As we kept talking I slowly saw myself developing feelings for her. I tried to keep it cool but I kinda messed up and went too fast by telling her that i really liked her within a week of us talking.
When I asked her to go on a date with me, she gave me a flat out no with the simple explanation of "I'm not looking for a relationship atm." I pretty much viewed that as her just not being interested so I stopped talking to her. I felt like there is no point in chasing a girl that doesn't like you back. However, she recently reached out to me out of the blue and started talking again. Idk why she would want to maybe become friends because before we barely even talked. What should I do? Is she interested in maybe dating or is she just asking for attention? I still kinda like her. Should I just stop talking and move on or persue her and maybe ask her out again?

Croconaw
May 15th, 2016, 10:35 AM
I think you should be friends with her and see where that goes. She was clearly thinking about you enough to message you out of the blue.

Microcosm
May 15th, 2016, 01:26 PM
Maybe she just wants(and wanted before) to develop a friendship with you. It turns some girls off to a guy when she thinks that the only reason he's after her is for a relationship and not to get to know her better. She might think, perhaps subconsciously, that you only want the status of having a girlfriend like her and not that you want to actually be there for her and such.

I'd say it was definitely that you told her so soon that you liked her. Try to make a friendship with her for a while, months even, and then start making small gestures that you like her(putting your arm around her, etc.). Then, ask her on a date if she seems interested. I'd say it's best to just entertain the idea of a friendship at this point.