Gah!

[Matryoshkasystem]

Okay, I got a crush on a boy, he might like me back, but I can't tell. We both are amab-just want to clear that up-, and in the south, so I can't really just confront him or ask around.

Here are some things I can't tell are normal or not
1)Coming back from a field trip to a college, I fell asleep, he was looking at me when I opened my eyes, and immediately turned away once he noticed I was awake. He wasn't talking to anyone, and sat right in front of me.
2) I sometimes catch him looking at me, once he was holding a conversation and looking at me for a while, he even smile:D-though I do dress dark but its cause my parents sorta force me too to a poin:(t-.
3)He can easily talk to girls, yet seems to have no interest in any of them-and they aren't exactly acting as normal around him-, and has like only 2-3 guy friends. Only reason I brought this up, is cause I am exactly like him in this-thoug actually worse with guys have none-.
4) Okay in other places this might not be a sign or anything, but I've literally never seen a guy act or dress like him. He actually puts In effort-and not prep or anything like that I mean like actual effort and looks diffrentr most just wear sports jackets and something else-, and not afraid to act sorta flamboyant?

So, am I being too hopeful? Is he gay or metro? Sorry, my parents are like dictators-actually that's an insult to dictators they let you know you don't have a choice, mine give you a choice but then force you to choose the one they want even if you hate it-, and I don't know really anything about love...or anything really...

Also, just wondering is it normal for friends to leave one another? As in like I was sitting next to them during a movie-overprotective instincts sorry- and one by one they left to move towards the front, :what: yet he stayed sitting there?

[uwpm]

The looks may be indicators that he may like you (keyword there is may). As of him putting work into dressing, that in my opinion means nothing, some dudes just like to dress well (me included and I'm straight). For his sexuality, you're gonna have to ask him if you're not sure, can't really make that up by looking at his friends, or even his partners (he might be bi, you never know). So just tell him how you feel. If his a true friend, he'll support you even if he doesn't feel the same way. And if he doesn't support you, is it worth it having him as a friend? nah.

For the last question, maybe? Every person is a world so can't tell for sure. I wouldn't pay that much attention to details like that to be completely honest.

[ClaraWho]

What on earth is an amab? O.o And who bans them from speaking?

~ Clara

[kyrocks03]

What on earth is an amab? O.o And who bans them from speaking?

~ Clara

That's what I want to know. I was lost at at point ...

[Matryoshkasystem]

clara&kyrocks03 amab means assigned male at birth dmhab means designated male at birth
Sorry school, I'll reply to any others once I'm back.

[ClaraWho]

clara&kyrocks03 amab means assigned male at birth dmhab means designated male at birth
Sorry school, I'll reply to any others once I'm back.

What a horrifically backward unevolved system! I say to hell with that nonsense. I don't know where you live so maybe there are violent consequences to attempting to be free of such a horrid concept, but it seems a worthy pursuit. Might be worth emigrating. Nobody should be traded off like a possession or object. Disgusting.

Soon you will be an adult and capable of your own feelings and decisions, don't let anyone make such an important decision for you.

~ Clara

[Matryoshkasystem]

clara It was made by the non-binary people, since they arent male or female, and since I'm questioning, and not sure of his. I just went with that, also its used to sorta show your original sex. Though yes I do plan on leaving the south-well south U.S.- since they aren't really accepting.
uwpm Thanks, just the fact most guys wear...basically either sport or stuff that doesn't even match itself I was so weirded out(though is chacos normal?). Yeah I do want to confront him, but not now...sorta need mental help. Also the friends thing is cause very few guys mainly have girl friends, around here at least- only me and one other guy is like this really other than my crush-. The very bottom was mainly due to the fact...my parents have...idk? Overprotected? Controlled me? For so long I am sorta a idiot seven its not straight out of as book, even then I gt confused easily.

[uwpm]

RandomPanda Again, he might just like dressing like that, so you can't really draw conclusions through that. If you feel that you need to get mental help, do go get it, maybe talk to your parents about seeing a therapist, but if you don't feel like going to them, you can maybe start a thread here asking for advice regarding that. So to summarize, you will need to confront him to draw a conclusion on whether he may like you or not. By simple observation is real hard to get answers.

[Matryoshkasystem]

uwpm Thanks, I do hope to confront him eventually but my mental health ties into the reason I don't want to confront him. Social anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive tendencies, and some disorder with dissociation in it doesn't seem like a good mix to be trying to get to know your crush- add onto the fact I might have an expressive receptive language disorder-and the list just keeps getting bigger then deeper you go into my mind- it slowly becomes seemingly impossible to approach him since he is popularish. I am going to get help luckily, just I don't yet know how to face him-when I was younger I might've been able to, but not now-. I do realize those are sorta a poor excuse not to confront him, but they all feed into one another just making one another worse.