Blow or no show?

[xoxo1013]

My ex and I have had a rocky relationship road which left us at a mutual break up. He was not affectionate and that is exactly what I needed. He has finally started showing me affection and both never stopped liking each other after the break up but he doesn't want to go back out for two reasons:
1. I am going to be gone the whole summer with minimal communication
2. He is bad at relationships and does not want to disappoint me again (At least the disappointing part is my philosophy)

So as i sat remembering i will be gone i thought why not leave him something to remember me by so when i come back for school he would have not gotten over me and maybe we could try again when i come back.

On saturday we are supposed to hang out just us as a goodbye thing for me and i have intentions on blowing him but i am not experienced sexually. The farthest i have gone is making out and i am unsure if i should do it. I mean thinking about it i only have one life and who cares if i do it but do i really want my first time to be like this? Don't get me wrong i like him a lot and i think he feels the same way from what he has told me but is this such a good idea? I am undecided about the whole situation but my friends tell me to go but what do you think?

[swimjoey1]

I never gotten a BJ before but I think he will definitely remember it.

[SethfromMI]

well I think the most important point is you do not have to do anything you do not want to do. if you do not want to blow him, don't. end of story.

that being said, if you are intent on doing so, even if you are not experienced he is likely to like it. he might compare it to other ones he has had, but nothing you can do about that

[xoxo1013]

well I think the most important point is you do not have to do anything you do not want to do. if you do not want to blow him, don't. end of story.

that being said, if you are intent on doing so, even if you are not experienced he is likely to like it. he might compare it to other ones he has had, but nothing you can do about that

He has never had one before which is another reason for it possibly being memorable

[Swiftie.13]

You shouldn't do something you don't want to do, it's not up to anyone but you, if you feel comferrable doing it, then you go girl! Do it! And since you arnt experienced sexually (just like me) then I would go read some "articles" on how to basically give him a bj and make it good

[Uniquemind]

Don't expect the desired social manipulation to work.

Just give the BJ's for the sake of that moment's intimacy and expression of feelings and bonding and no other reason.

Make sure a discussion is had about if either of you have herpes mouth or genital version of the virus.

[ClaraWho]

That's one of the worst ideas I've ever personally heard.

He has no intentions of either of you getting back together, didn't care about you enough for being affectionate to come naturally to him, and here you are being rejected but performing sex acts on him. Have some respect for yourself. Or do you just want to see what a blowjob is like?

Just wait. Why the rush to be sexual? You'll regret doing it when you aren't talking in a months time and/or when you get with someone you really love. Explaining your first time was blowing a guy who'd rejevted you and had no intentions of getting back with you is kinda desperate.

Also you reduce yourself to a sex object. Why isn't your personality enough to be remembered? If he actually likes you for who you are, then he'll remember you. Do you really want to just be remembered as 'the first girl who blew him', or as his friend whom he shared a relationship with?

It won't stop him 'getting over' you, it will lower his opinion of you and think he can go to you for sex. Friends will often tell you to do what is best for gossip, rather than what is in your best interests. It sounds like he's saying he doesn't want to date or be with you, but you're adding your own reasons in his favour as to why. Stop.

~ Clara

[Straya]

My ex and I have had a rocky relationship road which left us at a mutual break up. He was not affectionate and that is exactly what I needed. He has finally started showing me affection and both never stopped liking each other after the break up but he doesn't want to go back out for two reasons:
1. I am going to be gone the whole summer with minimal communication
2. He is bad at relationships and does not want to disappoint me again (At least the disappointing part is my philosophy)

So as i sat remembering i will be gone i thought why not leave him something to remember me by so when i come back for school he would have not gotten over me and maybe we could try again when i come back.

On saturday we are supposed to hang out just us as a goodbye thing for me and i have intentions on blowing him but i am not experienced sexually. The farthest i have gone is making out and i am unsure if i should do it. I mean thinking about it i only have one life and who cares if i do it but do i really want my first time to be like this? Don't get me wrong i like him a lot and i think he feels the same way from what he has told me but is this such a good idea? I am undecided about the whole situation but my friends tell me to go but what do you think?

giving a bj is no big deal i barely remeber the first one i gave but i do remeber the first one i got but in saying that only do it if you want to

[Cadanance00]

Don't make your first time be like this. There will be a guy who cares for you that you can do things with and who will treat you better. Wait and make it a good experience.

[Sports Boy]

You also run the risk of giving a bad blow job if you've never done it before and that's what he might remember you by. Just because you go down on someone doesn't automatically mean the other person enjoys it.
Plus, this guy never wanted to be affectionate with you, he doesn't want to get back together, so you want to blow him? Sorry, but none of this makes sense to me. If a close friend of mine wanted to do this, I'd do everything I could to talk her out of it.

[Sandybeaches]

i dont think you should do it just becuase of that... you should want to do it cuz you are bf and gf and actually want to do stuff with each other

[SethfromMI]

He has never had one before which is another reason for it possibly being memorable

I guess the real question is though do you want to do it?

[xoxo1013]

I guess the real question is though do you want to do it?

I really do want to do it. I enjoy his company and i like him more than i have ever liked anyone. We have still remained friends and hang out all the time and not only that he walks me to almost all my classes. He has shown me affection lately and he makes me really happy.

[Ragle]

On saturday we are supposed to hang out just us as a goodbye thing for me and i have intentions on blowing him but i am not experienced sexually. ... I am undecided about the whole situation but my friends tell me to go but what do you think?


lucky him, but imo, that's a bad idea if you really want to restart your broken relationship.