Does he like me?

[Meruedu]

I've transferred a lot as a kid, so I've had hundreds of classmates. One of my classmates from second grade, that I haven't seen for 6 years, suddenly sent me a friend request on facebook. I accepted, because why not?

I'm not a very active facebook user, I update my profile picture once a few months, maybe a year, and I occasionally share something (from 9GAG, for example). Immediately after I accepted his friend request, he liked EVERYTHING I had on my fb page. I shared something else afterwards, he liked it within 5 minutes from posting.

So I decided to check him out after all these years. He has photos of himself and his friends smoking and drinking beer, so that's not really nice in my opinion. However we seem to share lots of interests.

A few days ago I had the English olympiad (an exam way above school level, we mostly go there to see if we can get a prize) and I randomly saw him outside the school where the exam was. He had been staring at me and looked away when I saw him.

Am I overthinking things? (especially since I have no romantic experience whatsoever)

[Almostahero]

It sounds like he likes you for sure. You should send him a message and start talking. If you like him that is.

[Tesserax]

He probably likes you. I know the first person I went out with was like that. However, she turned out to be... not what I expected. And as you have extra evidence that he's not the classiest of men, you should be very careful, especially at your age. Especially because he hasn't seen you for years, you should be careful he doesn't just want to have sex with you and abuse you, and at the age of 14 if he's drinking alcohol and smoking, I wouldn't be surprised if rape was a possibility.

Yes, I judge people a lot, but it has saved me a lot of strife, and it is only because I am a scientist who believes in statistics. Statistically, people who behave in certain manners will be similar to other people who behave the same way. Drinking and smoking at age 14? I don't know about the culture over there, but over here it's almost certainly a no-no unless you're a bogan/redneck/low IQ moron/something describing the lower class of people.

[ClaraWho]

He probably likes you. I know the first person I went out with was like that. However, she turned out to be... not what I expected. And as you have extra evidence that he's not the classiest of men, you should be very careful, especially at your age. Especially because he hasn't seen you for years, you should be careful he doesn't just want to have sex with you and abuse you, and at the age of 14 if he's drinking alcohol and smoking, I wouldn't be surprised if rape was a possibility.

Yes, I judge people a lot, but it has saved me a lot of strife, and it is only because I am a scientist who believes in statistics. Statistically, people who behave in certain manners will be similar to other people who behave the same way. Drinking and smoking at age 14? I don't know about the culture over there, but over here it's almost certainly a no-no unless you're a bogan/redneck/low IQ moron/something describing the lower class of people.

I'd take the above with a large pinch of the metaphorical salt. I mean statistically those who engage in risky behaviour are not significantly correlated with sexual offences or violence. Otherwise most teenagers would be rapists. Utter nonsense.

Now, this guy turning up out of the blue and liking all your stuff. Meh. You aren't very experienced with the whole 'relationship' thing so I'll just try to summarise. Only date best friends.

Your partner should be your best friend, having them already in that position proves you are compatible and care about each other, therefore if you find yourselves feeling more then it is a natural progression.

With this guy there is none of that. He's just appeared out of nowhere and is showing interest in your looks. Fine. But think about whether you want to be associated with some clown drinking and smoking away his life. And how his company will reflect on you, as we're judged by the company we keep. To me it just seems like you just want to know where you stand, so yes, he might like your body. Make of that what you will! Lots of others will/do too, even if they aren't as obvious about it.

On the whole Facebook thing, that was so me :D. I'm trying to be more active on it, but it's just so dull! Messenger and my peeps is good times though :P

~ Clara

[indoxyl]

to quote the last post "I'd take the above post with a large pinch of metaphorical salt"

Your future boyfriend DOES NOT have to be your best friend whatsoever. Heck, I met my last three boyfriends online. Which means we started out as strangers, became friends for about a week then started dating.

Look if you're interested in the kid just tell him.

But if you're just wondering if the kid likes you? Who knows. Maybe he likes all of his facebook friends posts. Maybe he just liked all yours. The only way to know is to ask him. We can't give advice on what some other person is feeling.

[Body odah Man]

I've transferred a lot as a kid, so I've had hundreds of classmates. One of my classmates from second grade, that I haven't seen for 6 years, suddenly sent me a friend request on facebook. I accepted, because why not?

I'm not a very active facebook user, I update my profile picture once a few months, maybe a year, and I occasionally share something (from 9GAG, for example). Immediately after I accepted his friend request, he liked EVERYTHING I had on my fb page. I shared something else afterwards, he liked it within 5 minutes from posting.

So I decided to check him out after all these years. He has photos of himself and his friends smoking and drinking beer, so that's not really nice in my opinion. However we seem to share lots of interests.

A few days ago I had the English olympiad (an exam way above school level, we mostly go there to see if we can get a prize) and I randomly saw him outside the school where the exam was. He had been staring at me and looked away when I saw him.

Am I overthinking things? (especially since I have no romantic experience whatsoever)

He probably likes you, yeah.

[Tesserax]

I'd take the above with a large pinch of the metaphorical salt. I mean statistically those who engage in risky behaviour are not significantly correlated with sexual offences or violence. Otherwise most teenagers would be rapists. Utter nonsense.

Now, this guy turning up out of the blue and liking all your stuff. Meh. You aren't very experienced with the whole 'relationship' thing so I'll just try to summarise. Only date best friends.

Your partner should be your best friend, having them already in that position proves you are compatible and care about each other, therefore if you find yourselves feeling more then it is a natural progression.

With this guy there is none of that. He's just appeared out of nowhere and is showing interest in your looks. Fine. But think about whether you want to be associated with some clown drinking and smoking away his life. And how his company will reflect on you, as we're judged by the company we keep. To me it just seems like you just want to know where you stand, so yes, he might like your body. Make of that what you will! Lots of others will/do too, even if they aren't as obvious about it.

On the whole Facebook thing, that was so me :D. I'm trying to be more active on it, but it's just so dull! Messenger and my peeps is good times though :P

~ Clara

I honestly agree to the most point, and yes a lot of it is... metaphoric, as you put it. All I meant was to take care, and especially at that young age if he's already introduced to very crude acts, I wouldn't rule out rape, but only consider it as a low probability.

When considering risk, you always consider the consequences in worst case scenario. Risk as in what could actually harm you, not risking rejection. In terms of serious harm, I always do that, and always advise people to be careful of worst-case scenarios. However, when it comes to opportunity, I tell people to also consider the best-case scenario, and go for it, but to be careful of the risks involved. It's hard to explain, but you find a balance, taking the bad risks as worst case scenarios, and the good ones as best.

[Supermeggs12]

He likes you :)

[Jess.evans]

I think he probably likes you

[Uniquemind]

He's crushing hard.

If you want to give him a shot though ya gotta set down an ultimatum about behaviors of his he needs to drop.

[Meruedu]

Thank you guys for replying! I've just finished my language exams so that's why I didn't have time for internet. After thinking a bit more about my other exams that decide my next 4 years of high school, I thought that I don't want any romantic relationship at the moment. And even if I was interested in this kind of relationship, I wouldn't choose him (you guessed it:smoking, drinking & stuff). Someone like him randomly appearing definitely sounds fishy and I would rather play it safe.
With so many school things on my mind, I almost forgot about this thread. I'm glad to see I wasn't overthinking, at least I think I'll be able to identify it when someone likes me.
Thanks again!