Abstains for bj's

[Carrie17]

Hi!

So I'm new here, 17 and live in sunny so ca. My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 4 months. I have given him a few bj's. Now though he recently asked if he could purposely not masturbate at all for 10 days or so. He said he wants to know in advance when I will be doing oral so he can "save up" because it's more enjoyable? We have never had sex and he is a little older than me. Has anyone heard of guys doing this? What is he saving? Hornyness? :confused:

[Taryn98]

This seems ridiculous but if that's what feels better for him, maybe he should stop masturbating all together. I don't think you can give a several day warning. That ruins the spontaneity of sex.

[playfull-qt]

I know/knew guy that would mbate themselves before having oral sex with me. That way the guy could "last longer" in my mouth b4 cumming.

[sweettayla]

Play along with him but ask him what he wants, a better orgasm or does he think abstinence will produce more cum?
lf he does mange to last that long it may be great to cum after a long time but l think edging would be more fun. Be prepared for his cum to be pretty gross after 10 days too btw.

[Carrie17]

Ok, so I got up the nerve to ask him why he wants to wait. He got very shy and embarrased and he said that waiting 7 to 10 days ensures that the testicles have a large build up of semen and it would feel better. He also admitted to me that he is taking vitamin supplements that increase sperm count and asked if I am mad?! I am very confused by all this. Is this going to make it better for him but worse for me? :yuck:

[sweettayla]

Ok, so I got up the nerve to ask him why he wants to wait. He got very shy and embarrased and he said that waiting 7 to 10 days ensures that the testicles have a large build up of semen and it would feel better. He also admitted to me that he is taking vitamin supplements that increase sperm count and asked if I am mad?! I am very confused by all this. Is this going to make it better for him but worse for me? :yuck:

He's getting a bit mixed up, his testicles produce sperm and semen is produced by his prostate gland. l don't think abstinence or vitamin supplements make for any great increase in volume.
The main difference for you will be he's likely to cum quicker and his cum will be thicker and the taste and smell will be stronger than usual but that's not really a big deal, that's actually what l meant by gross in my previous post.

[missy_moo]

Sounds a bit odd.

[Carrie17]

I did a little research when I got home. Supposedly volume does increase if a guy is not ejaculating every few days however after roughly 2 weeks the volume stops Increasing and stays at the full level for whatever that particular males full level is. Larger testicles will have a larger maximum amount. I asked him the name of the supplements and he said "Arginine". A few sites said that can increase sperm count from 74% to 215% increase depending on how much you take! Can that be right?!

[sweettayla]

I did a little research when I got home. Supposedly volume does increase if a guy is not ejaculating every few days however after roughly 2 weeks the volume stops Increasing and stays at the full level for whatever that particular males full level is. Larger testicles will have a larger maximum amount. I asked him the name of the supplements and he said "Arginine". A few sites said that can increase sperm count from 74% to 215% increase depending on how much you take! Can that be right?!

Sounds like a rather optimistic claim but that's pretty common for any company selling diet supplements.
Are you going to do it and see what happens?

[KellyNC]

What's above about sperm count is correct, semen (released at orgasm) carries sperm (the male reproductive cell) and those supplements he's taking to increase his sperm count are made to increase fertility, not volume. In fact men who are infertile or have had vasectomies do ejaculate, the difference being that their semen has no sperm in it. The volume of semen produced does increase after longer periods of abstinence, but I'm not sure exactly his reason for wanting to 'save up' is.

[Carrie17]

I talked to a friend of mine last night. She recently had a baby and she said that during the last few months of her pregnancy she mostly just gave bj's because sex was uncomfortable and that her boyfriend would sometimes ask if he could let it build up for a week or even 2 sometimes. She said that when he would do that it would be a really large amount and would gag her. :( I wanna do it for my boyfriend but I just don't want to gag on that stuff.

[sweettayla]

I talked to a friend of mine last night. She recently had a baby and she said that during the last few months of her pregnancy she mostly just gave bj's because sex was uncomfortable and that her boyfriend would sometimes ask if he could let it build up for a week or even 2 sometimes. She said that when he would do that it would be a really large amount and would gag her. :( I wanna do it for my boyfriend but I just don't want to gag on that stuff.

What makes you think you're going to gag? You're already expecting a bigger amount than you'd usually get.

[Carrie17]

Well it's often times a natural reaction when you try to swallow alot of something that seems gross. Plus since my friend said she gagged. Maybe she was a little more sensitive though since she was very pregnant at the time?

[Carrie17]

Well, I went through with it the other night! I don't want to get in trouble for being too graphic so I'm just going to say I'm not going to let him "save up" like that very often! :0

[sweettayla]

Well, I went through with it the other night! I don't want to get in trouble for being too graphic so I'm just going to say I'm not going to let him "save up" like that very often! :0
So how long did he actually go without masturbating?

[Carrie17]

I asked him tayla and he said 12 days.

[SkyClad33605]

This seems ridiculous but if that's what feels better for him, maybe he should stop masturbating all together. I don't think you can give a several day warning. That ruins the spontaneity of sex.

This.

I've never been a fan of planning intimacy because that leads to quid pro quo intimacy. Like, "I did this so that means you have to do that." Which is just messed up.

Also, this whole thing just seems a bit odd. Is more volume really that much more enjoyable?

[indoxyl]

Honestly I think planned sex can be just as great as unplanned sex. You're both still enjoying yourself but you just know what you want to do. Plus even if you're telling your partner "I want to do this exact thing" there's still bound to be some improvisation during it.

Personally I I find it more fun to have planned sex because when I know what my boyfriend wants to do several hours before we can do it, it gets me pretty hot.

[sweettayla]

I asked him tayla and he said 12 days.
Thanks, l didn't realize he'd already started saving up.

[Carrie17]

I totally agree with you Indoxyl. By the time I did it for him he was soo turned on. sweettayla, the only bad thing with the saving up part was it really made it alot and gagged me a little. I told him I'm only letting him do that once in a while or for a special occasion.

[sweettayla]

I totally agree with you Indoxyl. By the time I did it for him he was soo turned on. sweettayla, the only bad thing with the saving up part was it really made it alot and gagged me a little. I told him I'm only letting him do that once in a while or for a special occasion.

At least now you have an idea what to expect next time you do it.

[Doro15]

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Personally I I find it more fun to have planned sex because when I know what my boyfriend wants to do several hours before we can do it, it gets me pretty hot.

I agree, especially if it is the first time sex. Then everything should be correct and perfect - day, time, music, mood ....

[Carrie17]

That's for sure Tayla. I agree Doro. We haven't had sex but I do want it planned when I decide to take things to that next level. That's why I try to make bj's really good for him. Because I don't want to have full sex yet.

[PandaLeah]

I have "tried" this once abstaining from orgasm but it never works out lol ;p

[Atlantis]

I have "tried" this once abstaining from orgasm but it never works out lol ;p

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