older girl

[Xiao.Z]

There new instructor at gymnastic lesson and I begin to believe she like me maybe in intimate way. I like her to but very nervous if true. How can I discover without embarrass? I not want awkward situation.

[Uniquemind]

There is a position of power difference if you're not imagining this.

I advise against pursuing such a romantic relation with an instructor of any sort.

Keep in mind gymnastics instructors have to use touching the body in order to instruct how to do certain movements, so don't misinterpret that as flirting.

[Xiao.Z]

There is a position of power difference if you're not imagining this.

I advise against pursuing such a romantic relation with an instructor of any sort.

Keep in mind gymnastics instructors have to use touching the body in order to instruct how to do certain movements, so don't misinterpret that as flirting.

I understand touch but this more. Maybe misinterprete experience. Feel so nice to believe maybe she friend. I hope she really like me.

[SubEruanna]

she probably does like you, especially if you're a good student in her class. However even if you both were madly Disney-like in love, you wouldnt be allowed to pursure a relationship until either she stopped teaching you or you stopped taking her classes.

Look at it this way. Miss X and Miss Y are both students in Ms Abc's class. Miss X and Ms Abc are having a relationship. Both students do really well in class. The end of the year comes round and Miss X gets an A grade while Miss Y gets a B grade. Miss Y thinks her B grade is unfair and says that Ms Abc graded Miss X easier because she liked Miss X more than her and spent more time with her. Even if Ms Abc is a fair grader, she has no proof or ability to deny the accusation, and in most cases has to leaves the school.

Add to this, that, in her being your teacher, you already have to do pretty much whatever she asks (gymnastics related) and you dont have the ability to ask the same of her. It's not an even playing field. For some relationships an uneven playing field works, but for most teens, especially is you dont do your reasearch, it's a recipie for fights/resentment/disaster.

good luck

[Body odah Man]

I agree with the poster above

[Xiao.Z]

she probably does like you, especially if you're a good student in her class. However even if you both were madly Disney-like in love, you wouldnt be allowed to pursure a relationship until either she stopped teaching you or you stopped taking her classes.

Look at it this way. Miss X and Miss Y are both students in Ms Abc's class. Miss X and Ms Abc are having a relationship. Both students do really well in class. The end of the year comes round and Miss X gets an A grade while Miss Y gets a B grade. Miss Y thinks her B grade is unfair and says that Ms Abc graded Miss X easier because she liked Miss X more than her and spent more time with her. Even if Ms Abc is a fair grader, she has no proof or ability to deny the accusation, and in most cases has to leaves the school.

Add to this, that, in her being your teacher, you already have to do pretty much whatever she asks (gymnastics related) and you dont have the ability to ask the same of her. It's not an even playing field. For some relationships an uneven playing field works, but for most teens, especially is you dont do your reasearch, it's a recipie for fights/resentment/disaster.

good luck

I not sure work as school. Is private lesson. But what I want to know is how know if she like me. Many instructor hug student when do well and I experience this many time with instructor but this feel different. She kiss me top of head and also forehead. And feel tingle when hug. I not know if something I pursue or not. Just want understand if she have feeling to me. I know have special feeling her but not want embarrass if she not reciprocate feeling. Not want awkward feel happen and lose her as instructor. I know probably wrong for relationship as she older but I never have this feeling and desire know if real.

[SubEruanna]

I not sure work as school. Is private lesson. But what I want to know is how know if she like me. Many instructor hug student when do well and I experience this many time with instructor but this feel different. She kiss me top of head and also forehead. And feel tingle when hug. I not know if something I pursue or not. Just want understand if she have feeling to me. I know have special feeling her but not want embarrass if she not reciprocate feeling. Not want awkward feel happen and lose her as instructor. I know probably wrong for relationship as she older but I never have this feeling and desire know if real.

sorry hon, but whether she has feelings for you or not, the end result will probably be the same. an embarrased former student and no instructor. :(
private lessons tend to have less rules and legal stuff around them, so rules about hugging and close touching may be more relaxed.
In western cultures, (i dont know much about eastern ones), hugging depends on a huge amount of things. this results in many awkward hugs when not appropriate, and many refusals of hugs when they are apporpriate.
one example is my best friend. she is christian, and when she goes away on her christian youth camp (where it it appropriate for everyone to hug anyone as a standard greeting) she comes back wanting to hug everyone around her.
but when she comes back, she's no longer in an enviroment where hugging is the standard greeting, so she seems awkward and overly-"touchy-feely" until she gets the hug on when/when not to hug.

for you hugging may seem like something only done between couples (or potential couples), but for her it may not seem this way.

teen years are a time when we're supposed to figure out these sorts of things, and this is one of the trickier parts of society to figure out. even some fully grown/developed adults get it wrong time and time again.

in short, she might like you, she might not, but either way she's not on the market. she's untouchable, unreachable, zip, nadda.
Until the classes stop anyway.
if the classes stop you can choose to risk your heart by asking, or play it safe and always wonder.
but until they do, your best bet is to pretend she doesnt like you and focus on your gymnastics. regardless

stay safe okay?
Eruanna

[Xiao.Z]

sorry hon, but whether she has feelings for you or not, the end result will probably be the same. an embarrased former student and no instructor. :(
private lessons tend to have less rules and legal stuff around them, so rules about hugging and close touching may be more relaxed.
In western cultures, (i dont know much about eastern ones), hugging depends on a huge amount of things. this results in many awkward hugs when not appropriate, and many refusals of hugs when they are apporpriate.
one example is my best friend. she is christian, and when she goes away on her christian youth camp (where it it appropriate for everyone to hug anyone as a standard greeting) she comes back wanting to hug everyone around her.
but when she comes back, she's no longer in an enviroment where hugging is the standard greeting, so she seems awkward and overly-"touchy-feely" until she gets the hug on when/when not to hug.

for you hugging may seem like something only done between couples (or potential couples), but for her it may not seem this way.

teen years are a time when we're supposed to figure out these sorts of things, and this is one of the trickier parts of society to figure out. even some fully grown/developed adults get it wrong time and time again.

in short, she might like you, she might not, but either way she's not on the market. she's untouchable, unreachable, zip, nadda.
Until the classes stop anyway.
if the classes stop you can choose to risk your heart by asking, or play it safe and always wonder.
but until they do, your best bet is to pretend she doesnt like you and focus on your gymnastics. regardless

stay safe okay?
Eruanna

I know hug and other contact accept in gymnastic lesson. Bond between student and instructor can be close. I not know if this all that happen or if more. As I say not know if something I pursue just want to understand situation. I know relationship consider inappropriate. I never feel this emotion about any one so very curious if she like me as more than good student. How can I discover truth without embarrass?

[SubEruanna]

I know hug and other contact accept in gymnastic lesson. Bond between student and instructor can be close. I not know if this all that happen or if more. As I say not know if something I pursue just want to understand situation. I know relationship consider inappropriate. I never feel this emotion about any one so very curious if she like me as more than good student. How can I discover truth without embarrass?

legally speaking, that's all that can happen. from a lawyers point of view, a student and a teacher couldnt be any closer than you are now.

and unfortunatly you cant find out without being embarrased. even if you got someone else to ask her, she's not allowed to say "yes i have a crush on my student" even if she does have feelings for you she has to deny them. even if you asked her outright, without any fear of embarassment, she would have to say "no i dont have feelings for you" even if that would be lying.

so either way you wouldnt get a true answer.

It's the famous liars paradox, if a person says "I am lying", are they a Liar?
like with your problem, there is no solution.

your best option would be to wait until she is no longer your teacher. when that happens, you and her are equals, and there wont be any embarrasssment about asking if she likes you too.

[Xiao.Z]

legally speaking, that's all that can happen. from a lawyers point of view, a student and a teacher couldnt be any closer than you are now.

and unfortunatly you cant find out without being embarrased. even if you got someone else to ask her, she's not allowed to say "yes i have a crush on my student" even if she does have feelings for you she has to deny them. even if you asked her outright, without any fear of embarassment, she would have to say "no i dont have feelings for you" even if that would be lying.

so either way you wouldnt get a true answer.

It's the famous liars paradox, if a person says "I am lying", are they a Liar?
like with your problem, there is no solution.

your best option would be to wait until she is no longer your teacher. when that happens, you and her are equals, and there wont be any embarrasssment about asking if she likes you too.

I not understand about lawyer. Why that is important?

[Uniquemind]

I not understand about lawyer. Why that is important?

It's a translation misunderstanding on your part since English isn't your first language.

Basically the post you are referring to, is asking you to consider how the law would see the situation, and how a lawyer would attempt to prosecute you or the other person before a judge in court for the actions suggested about a relationship between a student and instructor.

[Supermeggs12]

You just have to tell her :) You won't lose anything:

[Xiao.Z]

It's a translation misunderstanding on your part since English isn't your first language.

Basically the post you are referring to, is asking you to consider how the law would see the situation, and how a lawyer would attempt to prosecute you or the other person before a judge in court for the actions suggested about a relationship between a student and instructor.

Thank you clarify. I not think action against law but not know.

You just have to tell her :) You won't lose anything:

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