She doesn't give head! What to do!

[Cyclin]

Hi all,

I've been dating a girl a month now. We talked over many things and we've decided to get romantiacally and physically involved. The problem is she told me NO oral sex and she get bored and anexiety from it and causes Urinary infections. I don't know what to do or say to her. Oral sex is corner stone for me. Thanks

[ska8er]

I guess over time if u make her feel really good
she may reciprocate and give in but if No is No
and its a corner stone for u-u should look for
someone else.

[Carlyj]

I have a few friends who are against giving head to. I prefer to give head since can't get pregnant. Sorry to say it most likely won't change and you need a girl more aligned with your needs.

[everlong]

That's her choice. You can't really do much. Maybe she'll think differently in the future.

[Xiao.Z]

Hi all,

I've been dating a girl a month now. We talked over many things and we've decided to get romantiacally and physically involved. The problem is she told me NO oral sex and she get bored and anexiety from it and causes Urinary infections. I don't know what to do or say to her. Oral sex is corner stone for me. Thanks

Oral sex not for everyone. Many boy do not do for girl.

[Elysium]

Puberty for All :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Goat69]

Just respect and compromise

[StoppingTom]

1) Respect her choice????
2) It doesn't cause UTI's, or I'm misreading this
3) R e s p e c t h e r c h o i c e

[Uniquemind]

1) Respect her choice????
2) It doesn't cause UTI's, or I'm misreading this
3) R e s p e c t h e r c h o i c e

Some sexual activity can cause UTI's in some females.

For instance they run in my family. Nobody knows what causes it, but it's just some people are more sensitive than others.

Yes to number 3 by the way!

[mattsmith48]

like the others said respect her choice eventually she might change her mind until then respect her choice

[Straya]

Hi all,

I've been dating a girl a month now. We talked over many things and we've decided to get romantiacally and physically involved. The problem is she told me NO oral sex and she get bored and anexiety from it and causes Urinary infections. I don't know what to do or say to her. Oral sex is corner stone for me. Thanks

you cant force her and if its that important to her its time to leave her and move on

[Croconaw]

Respect her decision. Don't try to change her. If you truly love her, you would respect her. She does not deserve someone who wants her to change.

[Zachary G]

#Respect your partners wishes
#Find a middle ground
#Compromise

[Cadanance00]

Some girls don't. Just the way it is. Doesn't mean the sex won't be awsome.

[Babs]

Get over it because it's not a big deal, and you should respect the boundaries of others.

[Supermeggs12]

Well, it's her choice.

[Typhlosion]

Really, if it's a cornerstone for you, than the right option is breaking up. If neither one of you want to change, you two are simply sexually incompatible.

[Just JT]

Seems like getting a blowjob from your girlfriend is more Important than her personal likes preferences and moral standard. Not saying anything is wrong with giving head or not giving head, it's a personal choice between 2 people, and if that's a cornerstone for you, then I feel bad for both of you, her for wasting her time, and you for being so shallow

[Typhlosion]

Seems like getting a blowjob from your girlfriend is more Important than her personal likes preferences and moral standard. Not saying anything is wrong with giving head or not giving head, it's a personal choice between 2 people, and if that's a cornerstone for you, then I feel bad for both of you, her for wasting her time, and you for being so shallow

You know what, I was reading /r/relationships and a lot of (sexual) compatibility issues appeared. Note that /r/ is populated be much older folk, and they say that, in the end, sexual frustration can be a big thing among couples. Don't underplay the guy like that...

[Just JT]

You know what, I was reading /r/relationships and a lot of (sexual) compatibility issues appeared. Note that /r/ is populated be much older folk, and they say that, in the end, sexual frustration can be a big thing among couples. Don't underplay the guy like that...

Yup, that did come out as a bit of an asshole, not how I intended it to be at all. Was more thinking that if it's an issue, then maybe there are other issues in the relationship than meets the eye

My bad...

[Uniquemind]

Yup, that did come out as a bit of an asshole, not how I intended it to be at all. Was more thinking that if it's an issue, then maybe there are other issues in the relationship than meets the eye

My bad...

I believe this to be true too.

But sexual satisfaction is like a third of what makes a relationship work.

Sure people shouldn't change each other, but there really is no compromise in a black and white situation, because the reality is that either the act will or won't be performed.

She has every right to take the stance that she'd rather breakup than compromise and do it act for the sake of her partner.

He has every right to get his need met, and if that physical need outweighs the other valuable aspects of the relationship then...oh well.

It means the relationship is toxic or the timing is bad (life stages or development of an individual that's causing the two or more people to be out of sync).

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: