Fake phone number?

[ZzeWatermelon]

I was with some girl friends and a guy friend, and suddenly a couple of guys walked past us. One of them talked to me. They went into a classroom (upstairs, we were outside) and then they would always scream out at us from the window stuff like: "You're too loud!" And tease us.
Then one guy came downstairs and directly towards me. And he was like: "Could you please be less loud, we have our final exams in one month... " And then he was like: "Do you have a phone number for me?" And he seemed super honest and stuff. And I gave him my phone (but I didn't know how to react in a different way, he was cute) and he typed his phone number in. All his friends was like: "Stop flirting with her! " And laughing. And he was like: "Text me as soon as you can, like now, so I can have your number too".

A friend of mine was with the bunch of guys and actually I asked him if it was a joke/prank, later on by message, and he said that YES.
And I know they're immature jerks... Even if they're seventeen. But it hurt me. Cause I don't know if it was a way of telling me I'm ugly or whatever. But it actually hurt my feelings quite a bit? What are the reasons of giving a fake number? He seemed so genuine, and all my friends were like amazed as well. Are there any precise explanations? And he was cute, so I feel like it's a thing about looks.
I feel SO STUPID now. And I know it shouldn't be so sensible but... it's harsh.

What do you think?

[Doro15]

You give out your phone number just because a foreign man is obvious "cute" or "sweet" ?
Apologies, but you're very naive.

[ZzeWatermelon]

You give out your phone number just because a foreign man is obvious "cute" or "sweet" ?
Apologies, but you're very naive.

Thanks. But that wasn't the question.

[Babs]

People can be pricks. Take pride in the fact that you would never do something like that to intentionally hurt somebody.

It's not about your looks I'm guessing. You just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Shit like that happens to everyone at some point. You know better now, and that's worth something.

[ZzeWatermelon]

People can be pricks. Take pride in the fact that you would never do something like that to intentionally hurt somebody.

It's not about your looks I'm guessing. You just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Shit like that happens to everyone at some point. You know better now, and that's worth something.


Thanks a lot, that was helpful :)
How do you know it's not looks though?

[Babs]

Thanks a lot, that was helpful :)
How do you know it's not looks though?

Just a hunch. There's not always any rhyme or reason for being an asshole.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I called that number a while ago, and a guy happened to answer and he had a similar voice. SO he might've actually given me the right phone number. He was like: Hello? Yeah? And I just hung up lolz xD
But later on I texted him, he didn't answer... :/
If that WAS HIM why would he actually give me his real phone number?

GOSH I'M SO CONFUSED xD And I feel so stupid for being so sensible

I'll just leave that story behind, whatever.

Double post merged. ~ Xander.

[Microcosm]

I think the key here is to just not let it get to you. I'd feel bad for the guy. He's probably just super obsessed with the idea that he's so better than everyone and that he therefore has the right to judge and harass others.

He'll grow up to be old and gray and look back on stuff like that with shame(hopefully).

He shouldn't have done it, though, and just because a guy is cute doesn't mean you should value their opinion. In this case, he obviously didn't really know you and was trying to make fun of you. He's at fault.

[lliam]

II feel SO STUPID now. And I know it shouldn't be so sensible but... it's harsh.

What do you think?



I guess it's normal feeling inside charred, hollowed out by betrayal and disappointment etc - after such a prank.

However, I think if these guys aren't always such jerks, they just had a good day at the expense of others.

Ok, that doesn't make it better, but I think it makes it a bit understandable why they act this way. Even ift it's just a guess.

I already experienced this as a jerk in a pack of jerks. That we may've hurt someone's feelings didn't reach my conscience this day.

Just afterwards you come to senses or such. Perhaps if your own GF points out that it wasn't right to act like we did.

[Uniquemind]

He's just an immature butt.

Pranks like these are basically the real life equivalent of online trolls, except it hurts more usually due to proximity of real life social circles and friends being part of the prank.

In truth though, not as a prank, I've given a guy a false number before just to get him off my back despite rejections. I never saw him again after that thank goodness.

Yeah it was naive, but just learn from this.

When I get a number I always run it through a background check now before using it.

But then again in super paranoid.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yeah guys, I totally agree. Thanks :)

[Body odah Man]

I was with some girl friends and a guy friend, and suddenly a couple of guys walked past us. One of them talked to me. They went into a classroom (upstairs, we were outside) and then they would always scream out at us from the window stuff like: "You're too loud!" And tease us.
Then one guy came downstairs and directly towards me. And he was like: "Could you please be less loud, we have our final exams in one month... " And then he was like: "Do you have a phone number for me?" And he seemed super honest and stuff. And I gave him my phone (but I didn't know how to react in a different way, he was cute) and he typed his phone number in. All his friends was like: "Stop flirting with her! " And laughing. And he was like: "Text me as soon as you can, like now, so I can have your number too".

A friend of mine was with the bunch of guys and actually I asked him if it was a joke/prank, later on by message, and he said that YES.
And I know they're immature jerks... Even if they're seventeen. But it hurt me. Cause I don't know if it was a way of telling me I'm ugly or whatever. But it actually hurt my feelings quite a bit? What are the reasons of giving a fake number? He seemed so genuine, and all my friends were like amazed as well. Are there any precise explanations? And he was cute, so I feel like it's a thing about looks.
I feel SO STUPID now. And I know it shouldn't be so sensible but... it's harsh.

What do you think?

Wow. I've experienced girls giving me a fake number, but never the other way around. I think the guy was just messing with you I'm afraid, but that he wasn't doing it to insult you.

[Tesserax]

I'm unsure, but it sounds like you're in a younger year level than him, and he's in his final year. He was probably just being a dick and fucking with you, people in higher year levels sometimes like to mess with younger kids. Don't overthink it

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yeah I'm a year younger than him. :)
Why would he give me his real phone number though?

[Tesserax]

Yeah I'm a year younger than him. :)
Why would he give me his real phone number though?

Extra "Fuck with you" points. He probably didn't know how to make up a fake one that would seem real, so he just gave you his or something. Relax, don't overthink it, they probably respect you more than you know (people don't mess with people they don't respect, they bully instead)

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yeah that's what I thought as well. Why did he mess with me though and not the other people I was with? Was it intentional from the beginning?
Thanks :)

[Uniquemind]

Yeah that's what I thought as well. Why did he mess with me though and not the other people I was with? Was it intentional from the beginning?
Thanks :)

Maybe...no offense but if you're giving off the vibe of "I'm desperate for a relationship/ romantic partner), it's cruel, but people tend to see that as a ripe opportunity to toy with them.

That's just what I've noticed.

Kids are mean and manipulative and are intensely judgemental to their peers.

[ClaraWho]

I'm going to take a different view to everyone else who has commented here. I don't really see how it would have been funny even as a prank. For a start his friends were teasing him for asking for your number in the first place, not going along with some prank. 2nd he gave you his real number. 3rd he may be a year older but that doesn't mean he might not have the same awkward worries as others about being rejected. That isn't to say he won't turn out to be a jerk, but he hasn't really done anything to earn that title thus far.

So his friend were dismissive of all of you and rude about keeping the noise down. He intervened by politely giving you a genuine reason they needed peace, which goes along with not wanting to be a jerk to you. If he had asked you out and then stood you up, yeah big difference, or laughed in your face. Either he has no idea how to pull a prank or everyone else is reading into this all wrong.

Here's what would appear to me to constitute the sensible, dare I say adult thing to do. Phone him. And don't hang up the phone. What's the worst that talking can do? You find out he's not worth your time if he laughs at you. None of his mates are likely to be hanging around listening so not very funny. Or he likes you are you start talking.

On that note the best piece of advice I can give you is to only date best friends. That's whom your partner should be, first and foremost. That way you know they have your best interests at heart, you care for each other a great deal already and things should naturally have progressed to feelings deeper than that; if it is meant to be. So don't rush into anything, just make lots of dependable, 'I'll always be here for you' type friends.

Let me know how it goes,

~ Clara

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yeah I'm actually dying to phone him... But I think it sucks he didn't phone me back.
I'm super scared to do so. I don't even know why...
And I feel stupid for giving him my number so straight away (not terribly stupid but it's awkward you know) so I wouldn't know what to talk to him about. It stresses me out SO MUCH.
But then I'm like: for a reason he gave you his real number. Maybe he actually wanted to. Idk..

[ClaraWho]

Yeah I'm actually dying to phone him... But I think it sucks he didn't phone me back.
I'm super scared to do so. I don't even know why...
And I feel stupid for giving him my number so straight away (not terribly stupid but it's awkward you know) so I wouldn't know what to talk to him about. It stresses me out SO MUCH.
But then I'm like: for a reason he gave you his real number. Maybe he actually wanted to. Idk..

May I ask what age you are? This does seem all a bit over dramatic.....

'Hey, it's Ze Watermelon (insert real name), you gave me your number the other day?'

If he just says 'yeah', ask 'was there a reason?'

If he laughs and says he wasn't serious, ask why he gave his real number (because that makes no logical sense).

You always have the 'I bet my friends £10 you were a just a jerk, guess I win'. But I mean, if you're above the age of 15 that shouldn't really come up. Although some people mature faster than others... And some never do! :what::D

~ Clara

N.B. you're making this all a much bigger deal than it is.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I guess just hang out with him like in lunch or smt & see what type of vibes he's giving out towards you. He might think you're cool, or he might think you're annoying.

I think you should do that, what's the worst that could happen.

EDIT: I read Clara's post after making mine lol.. no lie.


I can't hang out with him, I don't know him... He's not in my social circle. And in the school we're like 2000 so it's hard to come accross him... :/

[ClaraWho]

I guess just hang out with him like in lunch or smt & see what type of vibes he's giving out towards you. He might think you're cool, or he might think you're annoying.

I think you should do that, what's the worst that could happen.

EDIT: I read Clara's post after making mine lol.. no lie.

Let it gooo, Let it gooo! (sorry I noticed you're Frozen :D )

Lies!! :P

I can't hang out with him, I don't know him... He's not in my social circle. And in the school we're like 2000 so it's hard to come accross him... :/

I think the message here is 'read Clara's post' :whoops::P

Seriously though, the longer you leave it, the more awkward it will be. Either find some courage or let it go and move on. Simples!

~ Clara

[ZzeWatermelon]

I let it go it's fine. is there anyw ay I can close this topic?