Does Bi mean Gay in the long run?

[Zoom]

Someone asked me that when I said I was bi. Do you think bi is just a transition for some gay guys?

[jdhud024]

It was for me. So maybe. Depends on the person IMO.

Edit: Because others have said it is an actual orientation, which it is, when I say that it was a transition for me, I mean that at first I thought I was bi, but after awhile I kind of slowly realized that I wasn't bi, I was gay. Basically, I thought I was bi, but as time went on I started realizing that I just didn't find females as attractive as guys. It took like a little over six months for me to realize that. But IMO, I do think that for some guys it could be and is a "transition phase", where, like me, they think they're bi but slowly realize they're gay.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

To me BI means you like both females and males.
Being GAY usually means go for people the same sex as yourself.

[NZPerson]

Nope, its about atraction so you can love both or love one theres not an inbetween besides confusion. You may be triciking yourself making you think you like girls because everyone else does and then realise later on however it is certinly a viable orientation.

[Elysium]

Bisexuality is a real sexual orientation. To say it's just a gateway to identifying as gay is to invalidate it as a legitimate identity. For some people, maybe it's easier to deal with than being gay, but that doesn't make bisexuality in and of itself just a transitional phase.

Oh, also, whoops, I didn't see the section.
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[ClaraWho]

Just to further add to the discussion that even those who are bisexual, may have a preference/leaning towards one gender more than another. Really labelling isn't relevant except when demanding rights/recognition. On a personal level, you're interesting in/fall for whatever it is you do, and nobody needs to know unless they want to date/be sexual with you (and hopefully vice versa). People really overthink this subject.

~ Clara

[ska8er]

I'm confused most of the time and reading all
of this is confusing me more but it is interesting.
I know that I'm not labeling myself just to b a
closet case.

[Babs]

Bi means bi and gay means gay. People who once thought they were bi may realize they're gay later on, and vise versa. But the fact remains that they're two separate and equally legitimate things.

[Abhorrence]

You like guys and girls, yea you're gay.

Both terms mean like almost the same fucking thing, people r dumb for saying otherwise.

Well if you like guys and girls, you're bisexual. Not gay...

Both terms do not 'mean like almost the same fucking thing', people are not dumb for using the terms with the correct definition.

Bisexual means that a person is attracted to both the same sex and the opposite sex.

Homosexual (or gay) means that a person is attracted solely to the same sex.

I hope this clears things up for you. :)

[everlong]

Maybe to some, but I believe they're two different things.

[Hermes]

You like guys and girls, yea you're gay.

Both terms mean like almost the same fucking thing, people r dumb for saying otherwise.

As misinformed as the point of view I have quoted above is I think I know where it comes from.

Straight, by which I mean either being exclusively attracted to the opposite sex or where that attraction is sufficiently greater that the attraction to the same sex that a person can be sure any potential partner will be of the oppoiste sex, is the majority orientation. People who are straight by this definition do not have to "come out" or manage the expectations of others in any way because they follow the conventional path. They also don't have to worry about their choice of partner causing offense of causing them to be discrimated against.

Other orientations do have to concern themselves with those things and, as such, may find both community and support services are shared between these other orientations, i.e. bi, gay, lesbian, trans, etc.

Despite that binary split, though, it is worth knowing that there are many variations to sexuality. The Kinsey Scale (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale) goes further than the labels of straight, bi and gay and ackowledges the whole spectrum of people who have some level of attraction to both sexes but where it might be rather uneven, i.e. maybe liking girls a bit more than boys or vice versa. So maybe someone who initially labels himself as bi and then later adopts the label of gay may have been a 4 or a 5 on the scale all along and the change of label reflects the persons views of who he is actively seeking as a potential partner. Someone who is a 3 on the scale would almost certainly stick with the label bi, though.

[SethfromMI]

Bisexuality is a real sexual orientation. To say it's just a gateway to identifying as gay is to invalidate it as a legitimate identity. For some people, maybe it's easier to deal with than being gay, but that doesn't make bisexuality in and of itself just a transitional phase.

Oh, also, whoops, I didn't see the section.
Puberty for All :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender

I know I am sexually attracted to girls and guys, been so for years. it is true, I think some use bi as a cover, but I know it is not the case for me at all

[eric2001]

So if you think you're bi say when you're young like me maybe 14, how do you know if you're really gay exactly?

[Abhorrence]

Uh-Huh.. ^^

So fucking a dude in the ass means you don't do gay shit.. CAUSE you also like girls. Lmfao, what.

Oh well, to each their own @ Abhorrence

Well if you have sex with the same sex it is technically a homosexual act but the same person could have heterosexual sex also - an act does not make the person. Sexuality is part of psychology, it isn't measured by physical acts.

[Bull]

I am neither heterosexual or homosexual, I am a sexual being. I date both girls (hetero) and guys (homo). I do not have a preference, however I have dated far more girls than guys. I enjoy being with both. I have only dated two guys. I am currently dating a guy to the exclusion of all others. We comfortable with each other for the time being. Our emotional and sexual needs are met which works well for us in our busy university life and both working.

[Zachary G]

i think being bi is just a gateway for people to figure out who they truly are and what they truly want in life

[KingWavy]

I don't believe bi means gay. People may be confused or being sexually attracted to one but emotionally attracted to the other.

[DoodleSnap]

It can do, but don't discount it as a legitimate sexual orientation.

[Miss Ophelia]

I have been with guys and girls. But I prefer being with girls a lot more and find myself being less interested in guys now.