Irrational, Ignorant Dad

[Binzhou5]

I am so annoyed by my dad. He does nothing but sit around and play computer games 24/7 and he's not even willing to find a job. He keeps saying that it's because of the economy and how jobs relating to oil are hard to come by. Odd thing is that he never even searches for a job and 5 friends of mine recently got jobs on the rigs and oil fields. He's ruining my life by not getting a job. I've wanted to do several things such as piano lessons, tae kwon do or Kendo, intensive Mandarin lessons, etc., but without him having a job, my family so poor, it barely gets enough to pay for food and rent for the month.

He seems to be wanting to bring me down. He's been telling me to get rid of all of my Muslim friends because they'll chop off my head, get rid of any friend that isn't a white or black male, tells me to stop going to church because it's all brainwashing, and always interrupts for hours on end when I'm trying to study. I've also been planning on going on a trip to China as an exchange student for a year, but he basically wouldn't let me go because he was scared of World War III.

This man's been leaving me with roadblocks. I've lost a lot of my friends, losing good connections with others, my marks are dropping and he wonders why), and all the doors for possibilities have been closed. What should I do? He's nothing but a brick wall and takes everything I say as "a phase", a lie, or complete nonsense. I'm running out of options.

[Xiao.Z]

Mandarin good for learn but maybe difficult. What area China you wish visit? Jingjinji region?

[Binzhou5]

山东省，滨州市. I am a bit jealous of you 哈哈。

[Xiao.Z]

山东省，滨州市. I am a bit jealous of you 哈哈。

你不必嫉妒我.

I should understand from name but I not good with transliterate my apology. Why interest 滨州市? Culture attraction only Wei's Manor and Garden of Sunzi. You interest art of war? If visit you make opportunity for Beijing and not have disappoint. Much for see. If fly you maybe come Beijing for arrive and depart.

[Jane Eyre]

I am so annoyed by my dad. He does nothing but sit around and play computer games 24/7 and he's not even willing to find a job. He keeps saying that it's because of the economy and how jobs relating to oil are hard to come by. Odd thing is that he never even searches for a job and 5 friends of mine recently got jobs on the rigs and oil fields. He's ruining my life by not getting a job. I've wanted to do several things such as piano lessons, tae kwon do or Kendo, intensive Mandarin lessons, etc., but without him having a job, my family so poor, it barely gets enough to pay for food and rent for the month.

He seems to be wanting to bring me down. He's been telling me to get rid of all of my Muslim friends because they'll chop off my head, get rid of any friend that isn't a white or black male, tells me to stop going to church because it's all brainwashing, and always interrupts for hours on end when I'm trying to study. I've also been planning on going on a trip to China as an exchange student for a year, but he basically wouldn't let me go because he was scared of World War III.

This man's been leaving me with roadblocks. I've lost a lot of my friends, losing good connections with others, my marks are dropping and he wonders why), and all the doors for possibilities have been closed. What should I do? He's nothing but a brick wall and takes everything I say as "a phase", a lie, or complete nonsense. I'm running out of options.

leave your house... that's the only option you have... it may be difficult initially but bearing a few days of unpleasantness is better than letting your whole life be destroyed.... try to get a part time job and a place to stay... by the way, why don't you complain about it to your mom? maybe she can help... don't get me wrong but your dad seems somewhat weird...

[Supermeggs12]

Just leave.

[Uniquemind]

This just screams bi-polar or some form of mental depression from your dad.

Something is really sick in the head with him, but a medical diagnosis is required.

Live elsewhere and appeal to your resources at school like a counselor and really explain all of this to your friends.

Get your siblings and mom on your side.

You can also passively rebel since as your parent he's used up all his threats and really has les leverage over you now.

He can't provide you with bribes cuz he's poor.

He's indirectly already cost you friends, so grounding does nothing.