Unsecure about girls

[Stele]

So this is my first post to this site, I hope it goes well. The thing is that I am 16, never kissed a girl, never had a gf or anything. I have always been fat but throughout the last 2 years I have become way fitter than I have ever been. I have seen girls starting to get interested on me but I feel so weird about it because I am not used to people liking me. Also I am very afraid that when I have my first kiss or sex, I won't know what to do and just loose the opportunity.
Any suggestions about it?

[Zachary G]

Just put yourself out there and take some chances. Its never going to be perfect the first time around, but thats how you learn, by making mistakes. Stop worrying about your looks so much, people you want will be interested in you because of the person you are, not because of what you look like. Have some faith and go for it.

[NZPerson]

Hey bro, its always good to be the guy that "became hot" you know you worked for it and its amazing so good on you. On the first kiss part i know its kinda rude or mean but generally you have your first girlfriend as a 'throw away' where you just pratoce being in a relationship and learning from your mistakes but honestly having that experience improves your other ones soo much. Thats my advice. Good luck bro

[ska8er]

First try to forget the way u think u look-strike up
a conversation with a girl-just smile and say Hi-ask
her a silly question or if u cant just nod ur head and
just B Urself. Usually a smile breaks some ice-if she
is interested she will acknowledge u-if not try another.

[Microcosm]

Stele,

As it turns out, most of the "desirable" girls seem to want preppy dudes and ass holes. It's a universal fact in most cases. That being said, I think you should reach out to people who you know you can lift up. There is definitely someone out there that you can make happy. If you see someone that you like that's not a preppy girl, chat her up and see what happens. Don't expect anything too fast, but just wait until you've developed a healthy friendship first.

Also, it does help to lose weight. I don't mean to put you down or anything. I'm just trying to be honest and constructively critical. By trying to lose weight, you will feel better about yourself. Also, girls notice that focus and dedication for self-improvement. Again, definitely don't mean to put you down in any way. I'm just saying that girls will naturally, subconsciously even, find a guy who is at a healthy weight attractive and it will make you feel better about yourself. It's a win-win.

Hope I helped you, bro. Best of luck.

[Zbmrnb16]

Just live in the moment, and do whatever feels right.

[ImCoolBeans]

P101 :arrow: Relationships and Dating
I think this question is more relevant in this section.

Just put yourself out there and take some chances. Its never going to be perfect the first time around, but thats how you learn, by making mistakes. Stop worrying about your looks so much, people you want will be interested in you because of the person you are, not because of what you look like. Have some faith and go for it.

I think this is pretty good advice. It might not be easy to do at first, but you really just have to put yourself out there and take a chance. Also, many, many people aren't great kissers on their first try, but to be honest after a few seconds you'll figure it out. It's not as scary as it seems before you do it for the first time.