Slut

[Zbmrnb16]

I know this might get removed, but I couldn't think of another place to put it. Anyway, with getting older comes sex, and with sex comes backlash. I'm sure anyone who's reading this at least knows somebody who's been called a slut, or someone who they feel is a "slut". While it's not directly related to puberty, I feel like it's something we all deal with the most in this stage of our lives. I'm here to ask you how you feel about the word "slut", if you're okay with people being called sluts, how offensive you think the term is, and what makes someone a "slut".

[jdhud024]

Meh. The term doesn't bother me. I've never been called one personally as its been forever since I've even dated someone lol, but its used as a joke/ when being sarcastic and everyone I know thinks of it like that too.

[sweettayla]

I think it's far more applicable to girls rather than boys, l don't recall any boys l know being called a slut though the same cant be said for girls including myself. l do find it offensive since l don't think l am but l've been called worse things than that too.

[PinkFloyd]

If it's in good fun, and no one is offended, then it's fine in my opinion; BUT, if it's used in a way to demean and hurt someone, then it's awful.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

No girl or even a boy should be called a slut it's a very derogatory name to call anyone,

[Ashwells9991]

the word doesn't bother me at all, i don't find it offensive really

[ska8er]

No one should b called one cause frequently
it ends in bullying-too harsh of a typecast-if
another word could describe-would b "easy".

[Laibachd]

I don´t really care for it, if am called a slut it probably means i am having more sex than that person and they are jelly :P

[Doro15]

I don´t really care for it, if am called a slut it probably means i am having more sex than that person and they are jelly :P

I am of the same opinion as Laibachd.

[Taryn98]

Words and names don't bother me. I'm not someone who's easily offended. That's a terrible quality to have.

[playfull-qt]

I have no problem with the word "slut". What I have a problem with is that if someone who uses the word is passing judgment on someone implying that they are better then that person or that the other person has done something wrong.

[Sarah16]

I was considered the school or class slut. This was after my nudes I sent to a boy were shared among the whole class

[Flapjack]

I think slut shaming is stupid and harmful.

[Skylark]

I don't really care if someone else or I get called a slut for some reason (which, I might add, doesn't apply to someone who's been with 2 guys) in like a joking way, but if you're serious about it, not ok.

[ClaraWho]

On one hand I do feel it is important to have a negative deterrent for casual sexual promiscuity, based on the facts that it causes psychological and often biological harm, not to mention has the potential to negatively impact any produced off-springs wellbeing.

If the term is going to be used, it must be changed to not be gender specific in its condemnation. It takes 2 (or more, I guess...) to 'tango'. Therefore everyone involved is equally irresponsible and to blame.

On the other hand, if everyone involved is consenting (read not vulnerable) and there aren't the same biological health risks, I.e. A lesbian relationship, then surely that is their own business? Everyone has the right to screw up their own life in that way I guess (with casual sex).

'Slut shaming' is an issue because;
A) Often occurrs without actual proof or evidence that the individual has even been sexual with anyone.
B) Based on choice of clothing.
C) Nearly exclusively directed towards women.
D) Is closely correlated with male's who are insecure and sexually aggressive/sexist, or other women who feel threatened.
E) Some religious nonsense that should have died out 2000 years ago.

I just watched a video where a girl discussed philosophy and wore a bikini top indoors as an example. The amount of sexual harassment she received was horrific, including being referred to as a 'slut'. This is commonplace rather than the exception and ticks every box I outlined above.

Hopefully this post illustrates the non black/white nature of this discussion, and thank you for raising the topic. What is your opinion on it?

~ Clara

[Jinglebottom]

What Clara said.

[Flapjack]

On one hand I do feel it is important to have a negative deterrent for casual sexual promiscuity, based on the facts that it causes psychological and often biological harm, not to mention has the potential to negatively impact any produced off-springs wellbeing.

Why do people need a deterrent for casual sexual promiscuity? This isn't the 1800s and bulling people for expressing their sexuality is horrible.What facts that it causes psychological and biological harm?

[Phosphene]

I've never been called a slut but I have a friend who has. Like PinkFloyd said if it's not meant as an insult, it wouldn't be that offensive. But in my friend's case it was, she was bullied and the term was tossed around quite a bit, that is definitely not ok.

[Emerald Dream]

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