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ZzeWatermelon
April 25th, 2016, 02:33 PM
Hey guys,

So let me explain briefly. My guy friend was sitting today in class next to me, and in his notebook he was drawing things and like usually - paying no attention to the lesson. When I looked over (and he didn't notice) I saw that he wrote my name and was like drawing around it, and did like a small heart next to it. And then in like a second time, he completely tibexxed it. (I think he actually noticed I looked over). Then a few seconds later on he wrote his gf's name and did some patterns... Like the same kind of thing. And to me it's kinda meaningful, it shocked me xD
And he has liked me at the beginning of the year. He's always flirty. We're both sexually/physically attracted to each other, like normal sixteen year olds I guess, but what we have is quite strong in terms of chemistry. He always hugs me (but not friendly, like romantically, from behind my back and all) and he said I'm beautiful today. And although he has a gf he flirts with me. And he is flirty to everyone, but not the same way as to me, he's so MUCH SERIOUS with me, and does so much more...
And I start to be into him. LIKE A LOT. But he has a gf. For some infos I know, I am assured that they will not last long, but to me the thing he did today with the name writing was like: "Oh these are the two girls he likes the most, what a coincidence, it surely means something more".
Idk what to do. I like him A LOT really.
And I know that they'll be breaking up soon for a reason, like a month or two. So I surely have a shot after. But does he like me? Is he playing? Is he really only sexually interested? Cause we're good friends... Cause I would be completely for a "friends of benefits" kind of relationship, but if I can I want some serious finally to happen to me, and I DO FEEL like he has actual romantic feelings. Just the way he looks at me you know.

So what do you think? If he wrote these names is it meaningful cause my intuition was like: I'm sure it is, I have to ask someone ahah

Please help guys thanks a lot :)

Cadanance00
April 25th, 2016, 03:52 PM
He's got a crush on you, hon. He may "have a girlfriend" but I doubt it's serious or is going to last. I think he's fair game for you.

ZzeWatermelon
April 25th, 2016, 03:56 PM
Oh ok, so what he is looking for is a relationship with me?

Cadanance00
April 25th, 2016, 04:02 PM
You can't know until you get to know him. Writing your name with a little heart - that's pretty major crush.

Zbmrnb16
April 26th, 2016, 05:18 PM
Gonna be honest, he sounds like a two-faced asshole, but you know him better than I do. My advice is to ask him to break up with his girlfriend, and get with you. If he says no, don't let him flirt with you the way he has been, because you still need think about how his girlfriend feels about that. If he DOES break up with her, then all I can say is good luck!

Uniquemind
April 27th, 2016, 05:19 AM
Hey guys,

So let me explain briefly. My guy friend was sitting today in class next to me, and in his notebook he was drawing things and like usually - paying no attention to the lesson. When I looked over (and he didn't notice) I saw that he wrote my name and was like drawing around it, and did like a small heart next to it. And then in like a second time, he completely tibexxed it. (I think he actually noticed I looked over). Then a few seconds later on he wrote his gf's name and did some patterns... Like the same kind of thing. And to me it's kinda meaningful, it shocked me xD
And he has liked me at the beginning of the year. He's always flirty. We're both sexually/physically attracted to each other, like normal sixteen year olds I guess, but what we have is quite strong in terms of chemistry. He always hugs me (but not friendly, like romantically, from behind my back and all) and he said I'm beautiful today. And although he has a gf he flirts with me. And he is flirty to everyone, but not the same way as to me, he's so MUCH SERIOUS with me, and does so much more...
And I start to be into him. LIKE A LOT. But he has a gf. For some infos I know, I am assured that they will not last long, but to me the thing he did today with the name writing was like: "Oh these are the two girls he likes the most, what a coincidence, it surely means something more".
Idk what to do. I like him A LOT really.
And I know that they'll be breaking up soon for a reason, like a month or two. So I surely have a shot after. But does he like me? Is he playing? Is he really only sexually interested? Cause we're good friends... Cause I would be completely for a "friends of benefits" kind of relationship, but if I can I want some serious finally to happen to me, and I DO FEEL like he has actual romantic feelings. Just the way he looks at me you know.

So what do you think? If he wrote these names is it meaningful cause my intuition was like: I'm sure it is, I have to ask someone ahah

Please help guys thanks a lot :)



I strongly sense that this boy doesn't exactly know how to self-identify his own feelings.

It's possible he himself doesn't know the difference between lust attraction and love attraction, and friendship and that's what's going on here.


It's also possible he's just a tease and or maybe a threesome with himself, you, and your friend (his current gf) has been on his mind and potentially an issue in his relationship.

ZzeWatermelon
April 27th, 2016, 11:44 AM
Gonna be honest, he sounds like a two-faced asshole, but you know him better than I do. My advice is to ask him to break up with his girlfriend, and get with you. If he says no, don't let him flirt with you the way he has been, because you still need think about how his girlfriend feels about that. If he DOES break up with her, then all I can say is good luck!

I don't want to ruin a relationship, and I don't feel able to do such a thing to both of them. He's in love with her no matters what he does, the only problem is that she doesn't have any romantic feelings. She's dating for the pleasure of it, but she doesn't love him. So he IS going to break up, and that's when I'll probably be with him. But before he does... I'll wait :) That's the solution I came up with.

ZzeWatermelon
April 27th, 2016, 12:01 PM
I strongly sense that this boy doesn't exactly know how to self-identify his own feelings.

It's possible he himself doesn't know the difference between lust attraction and love attraction, and friendship and that's what's going on here.


It's also possible he's just a tease and or maybe a threesome with himself, you, and your friend (his current gf) has been on his mind and potentially an issue in his relationship.

A threesome lol xDDD No, for sure

Cadanance00
April 27th, 2016, 02:20 PM
It's also possible he's just a tease and or maybe a threesome with himself, you, and your friend (his current gf) has been on his mind and potentially an issue in his relationship.

No, I don't think that's what's happening. I'm a guy, and guys don't write girls' names and draw doodles around them unless they're seriously crushing.

Cangirl
April 27th, 2016, 02:54 PM
It does sound like she's really crushing on you. I know how you feel btw. But like what about his gf? I don't think you should do or try anything when he still has a gf. Is she your friend ? What happens if they break up? Can u date him or no if she's a friend?
Plus u don't want to get a rep of stealing him from her.

ZzeWatermelon
April 30th, 2016, 01:48 AM
When they break up I'll date him. Before, never :) I'm not a bitch.