crazy ?

[blaze_1327]

I don't know if I'm posting this in the proper forum anyway
every time my friends tell me they had sex amd lost their viginity or something and when I hear my cousins having sex with different people I like go into shock of something it's hard to explain but Muslim and we normally keep our viginity for marriage and I believe that too but when I find out what my close friends and family did I'm like astonished I'm not naive I k ow what happens amd stuff but why do I care so much about them . and then he idea ov them doing the deed just puts me in a funk like they've seen a vaginal or penis .
shit this is just crazy and dumb

[Uniquemind]

Multiple thoughts and feelings might be running through your mind.

I bet it's a mix of:

1. Curiousity

2. Longing or jealousy

3. The hunger for a compassionate and loving relationship

4. Betrayal and anger

5. Shame

6. Intellectual logical paradox, which is why you posted here in the first place because what you seek is reconciliation of the emotions hearing such things do


The first step is to be calm and not care and let people mind their own business and focusing on walking your own path.

[Claire Asteroid]

Well I'm a Christian and I'm a virgin too. My friend is more of a good Christian than me and she told me a few weeks ago she'd had sex for the first time. She's 17 and I'm 18. It made me feel weird too excited for her but a bit ashamed that she didn't wait like she said she would and also maybe curious to know what it was like.

[ClaraWho]

I don't know if I'm posting this in the proper forum anyway
every time my friends tell me they had sex amd lost their viginity or something and when I hear my cousins having sex with different people I like go into shock of something it's hard to explain but Muslim and we normally keep our viginity for marriage and I believe that too but when I find out what my close friends and family did I'm like astonished I'm not naive I k ow what happens amd stuff but why do I care so much about them . and then he idea ov them doing the deed just puts me in a funk like they've seen a vaginal or penis .
shit this is just crazy and dumb

You give no details of your age or theirs, but regardless. You say it is 'crazy and dumb' but that seems to be down to your personal 'beliefs' rather than how anyone else thinks. Might be worth thinking about from a different perspective, some empathy.

~ Clara

[jamie_n5]

No stick to your own beliefs and morals. Virginity is something special so find a guy you really love or care for before giving it up.

[DoodleSnap]

Everyone has different beliefs about sex, and some are ready for it earlier than others.
The important thing is that you never feel ashamed about your sexuality, or feel pressured to do certain things. Keep an open mind, and learn what you enjoy with time, experience, and a trusted person.

[SethfromMI]

since you come from a very conservative religion (and I am assuming family) I can understand where you might be shocked. but you got to understand, people are going to live the way they want to and they are not often going to meet/live up to your moral expectations of the world. that doesn't mean it won't be shocking (though this day and age I am surprised anyone is shocked over people having sex), but it is something you got to realize you will not be able to force your values on others

more importantly though, you can live your life the way you want to. If you want to wait for sex because of religious reasons or anything else, then you should do that and don't be worried what other people are going to be thinking.

[Desdemona]

Well I'm a Christian and I'm a virgin too. My friend is more of a good Christian than me and she told me a few weeks ago she'd had sex for the first time. She's 17 and I'm 18. It made me feel weird too excited for her but a bit ashamed that she didn't wait like she said she would and also maybe curious to know what it was like.

Why do you feel the need to wait? There is nothing saying you are a bad Christian if you have sex before marriage. You seem to have a lot of physical contact with boys (I don't and I am sad - a little bit envious of you) If a boy slept over at my place I would love to try sex with him. I am a virgin but I don't want to be.

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

You give no details of your age or theirs, but regardless. You say it is 'crazy and dumb' but that seems to be down to your personal 'beliefs' rather than how anyone else thinks. Might be worth thinking about from a different perspective, some empathy.

~ Clara
I agree with Clara here. You can always count on her to reply with thinly veiled aggression. In the OP's opinion, abstinence is purity, in mine, it's self-repression of your natural urges. Everybody sees the world from their own view, everybody has a right to do so.