Unhappy with my appearance

[Jackr117]

For a while now I've been unhappy with my appearance, I'm 230+lbs, I have a jawline but my face is quite round you know? I have a belly and man boobs and also some stress marks. I'm exercising to help this but it's not just my weight, my looks, I hate taking pictures of myself :/ I'm meeting this girl and her friends soon and I'm scared I'll be judged :(. I see all these other guys who girls drool over and it kills me, I do love myself but at the same time I'm generally unhappy. Anyone have any idea what I should do? Because I've had girlfriends in the past but If I had to rate myself out of 10 I would give myself a 5-6 :(




(BTW I'm sorry if I posted this on the wrong forum)

[Uniquemind]

Friend some friends to workout or do physical activity with.

That's really the best piece of advice.

I have friends who are really into dance and everytime we hangout I'm burning calories and having a nice time with my friends too.

Cut out sugars from your diet except those from natural fruits, and exercise for 20 min a day and increase it gradually to 30 min a day and then 1 hour.

[Zbmrnb16]

Good eating never hurts, but as for the rest of your appearance, it's nothing you can control. The more content you are with your body, the more attractive you'll seem. It may not seem like it, but there are plenty of people out there who don't give a damn what you look like, and would gladly take you for who you are.

[SethfromMI]

working out and eating right will help some what, but some of your looks are just genetic. having confidence in yourself though will make you more attractable to others

[PinkFloyd]

The key is working out and having a good diet. I'm not overweight because I have an ungodly fast metabolism, but I will openly admit that I have a very bad diet and exercise only on occasion. My diet is lots of fast food, frozen dinners, and Redbull of course... So yeah, terrible. Anyways, I've been trying to change that lately and my efforts are working. It helps to look up healthy recipes online if you still want to eat good food, but still be healthy. green vegetables like Broccoli in pasta is one of my favorites; anyways, good luck, man. I'm here if you want someone to talk to.

[Xiao.Z]

Keep working out. What your workout?

[ashdyn]

Use that as motivation to work bro. I had a bunch of baby fat until I was like 14 and I was kinda like you...I loved myself but was generally unhappy. Plus playing a bunch of sports I was always exposed to other guys that developed quicker than me and where in just better shape. So I used that jealousy to motivate myself to be better at sports and to actually hit the gym. Being out of organized sports now I realized how hard it is to actually stay active so the gym actually became pretty important. Other than the gym tho...get out and do stuff. I recently caught the hiking bug and I'm all about it. So find fun activities you can do to kind of break the boring gym routine.

Also....fuck what other people think. Do you. Work on bettering yourself but love who you are in the moment.

[halseymm]

Stay healthy and keep working out. As previous comments have mentioned, motivate yourself. I don't believe anyone can reach a certain point where they can say, "I'm happy with how I look," or "I've reached my goal." There will always be someone better looking than you and always someone with less good looks than you. You shouldn't compare yourself to others but if it encourages you to keep working hard, then do it in whatever way that benefits you but doesn't put down others. I don't think plastic surgery is an option at all, don't turn to it.
All in all, accept yourself as you are because at the end of the day, there will be that one person who will love you for who you are. I mean, to be realistic, good looks fade away and age takes over so that gives you a reason to find someone who truly loves you, for you.

[ShineintheDark]

Everyopne is nervoud aboutn their appearance. Just be content that you're doing your best to have a good appearance and try and change whatever you're really uncomfrtable. For example, if you can truy and fit in exercise to lose some weight and try amending your diet to be more healthy

[NerdSquared]

In the end, looks are only a slight factor in finding someone. You'll be fine. Just be confident in yourself.

[spartucus48]

actually, looks are a lot for most girls, but not for EVERY girl. my girlfriend now says she likes me for who I am instead of what I look like. so keep your head up. you'll fine somebody soon. :)

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

For a while now I've been unhappy with my appearance, I'm 230+lbs, I have a jawline but my face is quite round you know? I have a belly and man boobs and also some stress marks. I'm exercising to help this but it's not just my weight, my looks, I hate taking pictures of myself :/ I'm meeting this girl and her friends soon and I'm scared I'll be judged :(. I see all these other guys who girls drool over and it kills me, I do love myself but at the same time I'm generally unhappy. Anyone have any idea what I should do? Because I've had girlfriends in the past but If I had to rate myself out of 10 I would give myself a 5-6 :(




(BTW I'm sorry if I posted this on the wrong forum)

Friend some friends to workout or do physical activity with.

That's really the best piece of advice.

I have friends who are really into dance and everytime we hangout I'm burning calories and having a nice time with my friends too.

Cut out sugars from your diet except those from natural fruits, and exercise for 20 min a day and increase it gradually to 30 min a day and then 1 hour.
Yeah, working out with other people is one of the best ways to do it, it takes SO MUCH pressure off of you.
Other thoughts, just as important (if not more so) as being fit is being confident in yourself. People of either sex are attracted to someone who is confident in themselves, and those who are trying to become more comfortable in their own skin.