Torn between the two :/

[xXoblivionXx]

so in short

there's this guy that I like and he likes me and we would have a great relationship but he can't date me. but we facebook message each other and he's there for me emotionally, he genuinely care.

there's another guy who I have a bit of a history with. we have more of a friends with benefits thing- not sex, but other sexual activities. he's there for me physically and we can hang out / "chill"

point of this post is that I don't know what I should do. I obviously want a guy who is there for me emotionally and physically.

I think maybe, the answer isn't guy A or guy B but guy C. the guy I haven't met yet who will be a better fit. thing is I feel like that's obscure and I don't want to wait for a guy I don't know exists.

[Uniquemind]

Go for guy 1, he can do what guy 2 can but also connect emotionally.

Guy 3 (or C ) as you call him, might be a fairy tale ideal.

If the relationship doesn't work out, that's why breakup conversations exist.

[Microcosm]

I feel like it's better to go with the person who understands you emotionally. They're typically more suitable to be an actual partner.

[Cadanance00]

Somebody'll come along that will give you both

[Zbmrnb16]

I'd go with guy A, and give it time. If you DO find guy C though, then sure, go with him. Just do what you think is best for you and your partner.

[xXoblivionXx]

the other thing with guy A. is that I'm not sure if I genuinely have feelings for him or if I'm attracted to the fact that he likes me. I know it sounds rather consided but with a low self esteem relationships can be a bit difficult.

[Melodic]

From some personal experience, it's extremely complicated to be with someone that can't be committed to you. You'll just end up wanting more and will constantly unhappy with the relationship.


My best advice is just to wait until you find the right person.

[yeehaw]

Like a couple of the above posts, just wait for someone who can do both...

[Uniquemind]

the other thing with guy A. is that I'm not sure if I genuinely have feelings for him or if I'm attracted to the fact that he likes me. I know it sounds rather consided but with a low self esteem relationships can be a bit difficult.

That's an internal mental issue you need to work on for yourself.

I highly recommend separating the success and failure rate of one's romantic life, from their inherent worth as a person.

^if you don't do this, you are setting yourself up for unnecessary and pointless pain, because it WILL send you I to depression after the high probability that one will experience a failed relationship.

You get to enjoy life as this person with this particular body and social network once, and after that it's up to fate. Point being is depression that is caused by your standards not being met or life just getting you bummed, will cause a bad cycle of negativity and you'll probably waste time feeling bad rather than living.

[Xiao.Z]

I believe you better with complete relationship so look guy C. Good luck.

[Supermeggs12]

Choose Guy C then.