On School Report

[Riley2015]

I've been put on report at school, this is one week after i was taken off it from being on it before. I thought my dads anger the first time was bad but this second time he went totally mental.

The thing was the first time my maths teacher reported i was disruptive i n her maths class so they had to move me to a different class and now its over issues in other classes.

I can't deny i have a problem at school, i just don't like school and i am bored easily and i find i need to fidget and speak. I hate to sit quiet. I think school just wants everyone to conform and be the same and a lot of teachers are bullies and on a power trip.

They say to my parents that i can't behave, but i can when i feel happy in a lesson. Not when the teachers are just a bully in a suit who thinks they can treat me like shit cos i'm a teen kid.

But it causes trouble at home and at school. How do i calm down? I can't help how i am and how i feel. I have a mind of my own and i hate being dictated to.

At my school kids get bullied for being different and i am one of the first to defend them. Other boys have tried to bully me and soon found i won't be bullied. I hate seeing when other lads get picked on and i stand up for them and i get punished for it, punished for standing up for people who are being picked on. Why is this fair?

I hate school, i really really hate it. All i see is bullying and asshole teachers and lessons that are boring and shit

But i hate the problems it causes at home when i am in trouble

[lemondrop]

I don't think that teachers bully students, usually people have good opinion on themself and they think that people who are around them are bad and etc. If u want changes u must start thinking more - things that you do, and when you are 100% sure then yeaaa you can blame on others.

[Riley2015]

I don't think that teachers bully students, usually people have good opinion on themself and they think that people who are around them are bad and etc. If u want changes u must start thinking more - things that you do, and when you are 100% sure then yeaaa you can blame on others.

Teachers can and do bully, not all but some.

My school is all boys and the thing is its rough. The boys are rough and the teachers feel they have to be rough too. It's not really a nice school. I'm not perfect or blameless, i never said i was. but i am surrounded with people i don't like. I have my mates who i love (but my closest mates are 1 boy from a different year so i only see him at lunch and outside of school, and one girl from a different school)

[lemondrop]

Teachers can and do bully, not all but some.

My school is all boys and the thing is its rough. The boys are rough and the teachers feel they have to be rough too. It's not really a nice school. I'm not perfect or blameless, i never said i was. but i am surrounded with people i don't like. I have my mates who i love (but my closest mates are 1 boy from a different year so i only see him at lunch and outside of school, and one girl from a different school)

Well just do what u must do,there are a lot of things that i don't like ,but i'm trying to behave what i'm supposed to behave. It's hard for teachers to speak in class when kids are screaming and doing stuff that is off-topic,so they must be rough.. Discipline is the thing that we all need

[Riley2015]

Well just do what u must do,there are a lot of things that i don't like ,but i'm trying to behave what i'm supposed to behave. It's hard for teachers to speak in class when kids are screaming and doing stuff that is off-topic,so they must be rough.. Discipline is the thing that we all need

i don't scream in class or anywhere else for that matter

[kev1998]

To be totally honest I hate school just like you. I realize though that everyone has to conform throughout life. In school, you have an asshole teacher, in college your going to have an asshole professor and at work I guarantee that you will have an asshole boss.

I like you was disruptive and could not focus or pay attention. My parents took me to the doctor and has me put on meds for ADHD that really helped. Not saying that is what is wrong in your case but it did work for me.

As far as being the protector of the ones that are being picked on, I would pick my battles. I agree that some people are prone to being bullied by other students but until they learn to fight back then you are gong to keep getting deeper and deeper into trouble. It is not your job to be the protector of the weaker students. That should in fact fall to the teachers if they are worth a damn.

In all honesty, if I were you, I would keep my head down, focus on my work and get through school. You will be so much happier at school and it will keep dad off your ass too.

Please don't take offense, it is just my opinion.

Kevin

[Riley2015]

To be totally honest I hate school just like you. I realize though that everyone has to conform throughout life. In school, you have an asshole teacher, in college your going to have an asshole professor and at work I guarantee that you will have an asshole boss.

I like you was disruptive and could not focus or pay attention. My parents took me to the doctor and has me put on meds for ADHD that really helped. Not saying that is what is wrong in your case but it did work for me.

As far as being the protector of the ones that are being picked on, I would pick my battles. I agree that some people are prone to being bullied by other students but until they learn to fight back then you are gong to keep getting deeper and deeper into trouble. It is not your job to be the protector of the weaker students. That should in fact fall to the teachers if they are worth a damn.

In all honesty, if I were you, I would keep my head down, focus on my work and get through school. You will be so much happier at school and it will keep dad off your ass too.

Please don't take offense, it is just my opinion.

Kevin

Thanks, no offence taken at all

Yes, i guess i should think about keeping my head down. I do get punished loads and after a while the punishments start to get really annoying and yeah i know i bring them on myself and if i kept my head down more i would attract punishment less often.

[kev1998]

Thanks, no offence taken at all

Yes, i guess i should think about keeping my head down. I do get punished loads and after a while the punishments start to get really annoying and yeah i know i bring them on myself and if i kept my head down more i would attract punishment less often.

Sometime we just have to take a kick straight to the nuts and keep going. Don't let those teachers get in your head.

Let me know if you need to talk about it.

Kevin

[Riley2015]

Sometime we just have to take a kick straight to the nuts and keep going. Don't let those teachers get in your head.

Let me know if you need to talk about it.

Kevin

It's not just at school, at home also i get punished. As a result of being on school report my dad last night grounded me for 12 weeks

Thanks thats a really nice offer. Sometimes i want to talk about it :yes::)

[kev1998]

Wow. 12 weeks is a long ass time. Maybe he will soften up if he sees you are making a concerted effort to improve.

[Riley2015]

Wow. 12 weeks is a long ass time. Maybe he will soften up if he sees you are making a concerted effort to improve.

Nah he never shortens the length of a grounding once he has set it, but he does add more time if he feels i deserve it.All i can do is be good so that i don't get even longer grounded

[kev1998]

Nah he never shortens the length of a grounding once he has set it, but he does add more time if he feels i deserve it.All i can do is be good so that i don't get even longer grounded

My dad was never that strict. He would set a punishment and if I followed the rules he would shorten the time. I think that is something that I am going to use on my own kid one day. It gives them a reason to adhere to the rules and lessens the drudgery of punishment. After all, isn't punishment mean to be constructive and give you a reason to follow the rules?

[Riley2015]

My dad was never that strict. He would set a punishment and if I followed the rules he would shorten the time. I think that is something that I am going to use on my own kid one day. It gives them a reason to adhere to the rules and lessens the drudgery of punishment. After all, isn't punishment mean to be constructive and give you a reason to follow the rules?

His view is that my reason to adhere to the rules is to avoid getting longer. 12 weeks will turn into 16 then 20 and so on. He could keep that up forever if i angered him enough.

He has never been one for constructive punishment. He just punish to inflict difficult times on me and make me suffer for making him angry.

[kev1998]

His view is that my reason to adhere to the rules is to avoid getting longer. 12 weeks will turn into 16 or 20 and so on.

He has never been one for constructive punishment. He just punish to inflict difficult times on me and make me suffer for making him angry.

I have been taught that punishment when that severe brings about resentment more than it brings about positive outcomes. I can understand why you have pent up rage and hostility the more we talk. I feel bad for you.

Even inmates here in the US are eligible for parole or time off for good behavior. That gives them an incentive to adhere to the rules and be model inmates or student in your case in lieu of tearing hell out of the jail and beating the shit out of the guards. My dad is a warden of a state prison. That is how I have learned about that system.

[Riley2015]

I have been taught that punishment when that severe brings about resentment more than it brings about positive outcomes. I can understand why you have pent up rage and hostility the more we talk. I feel bad for you.

Even inmates here in the US are eligible for parole or time off for good behavior. That gives them an incentive to adhere to the rules and be model inmates or student in your case in lieu of tearing hell out of the jail and beating the shit out of the guards. My dad is a warden of a state prison. That is how I have learned about that system.

Thanks for understanding. Being a boy never helped me. He thinks boys need harsh discipline and does not think boys deserve leniency. He says the worst thing that ever happened in UK schools was when they banned the cane and birch for boys. My sisters on the other hand can do as they like and get away with it as he is soft on them and always favours them.

[Xiao.Z]

I do not enjoy school. I stay quiet then teacher ignore me. I have average grade so family unhappy with me. I do good grade in physical education class only.

[hesaidhesaid]

Thanks for understanding. Being a boy never helped me. He thinks boys need harsh discipline and does not think boys deserve leniency. He says the worst thing that ever happened in UK schools was when they banned the cane and birch for boys. My sisters on the other hand can do as they like and get away with it as he is soft on them and always favours them.

I genuinely have to agree with half of what your Dad has said here. Discipline is the key to a successful, mature human being (and in my case, TOO mature). Having said that- your sisters have to get the same treatment and discipline as you do. I'm not surprised he reacted like this and yet in the same way, what he does is very old-fashioned.

NB: I am not inferring that discipline needs to be physical. Physical discipline does not solve all problems- although to some people, it apparently does.