Few true friends

[Tesserax]

I've just realized how disliked I actually am. I'm that one guy that's a good guy, but my somewhat immaturely brash nature appears to be obnoxious to others, and while I try to tone it back it does seem like people have had enough.

I've come to realize recently that people just prefer to do things without me; I'm that one guy in high school that gets left out of practicallly everything now. I don't know what happened or where I went wrong, but I feel so damn alone it hurts. I feel like most of these people are only "friends" because I see them five days a week, but I wouldn't doubt that the moment we finish high school I'll be on my own again, just as I've always been.

I don't know what I can do, should I confront them about it? I think I should just talk to one of them about it, and I was thinking of asking one of my most trusted teachers about it too. But I just don't know what to say. I always have a solution, I'm a problem solver you see, but at the moment I'm lost. I just can't deal with this.

[lemondrop]

Maybe you became bitchy? Arrogant? Jealous? Harsh to others? Or very self-centered? This might be one of the reasons why they left you in the background. Well we did the same to one classmate/friend he became very jealous and liked to insult others but if you say smth back to him he would walk away and etc. (bitchy). So we left him behind, he thought that we can't live without him close to us(not at all :D) Even now he don't see where he went wrong

[Andyyy95]

In contrary to the above poster (which he does express a valid point), the only way to know if you feel you've done something wrong would be to ask them. Talk to them about the situation and how you feel - it's likely to turn out better than you think. Ask them over a coffee or lunch or something.

[Microcosm]

Typical beta male.

That's actually not a bad thing, per say.

I'm sure you must feel very superior.

Yan Hearn,

Anyways, I think imitation is helpful if you want to be a more likable person. I used to be very devoid of a real social presence and personality. I started observing the methods that "naturals," people who are naturally social and have a naturally fun personality, use. I employed these methods with my own tinge on it. For instance, there is a good way to tell a story. I would've told a story in a very boring and monotone way before, but after observing how others do it, I know how to make myself sound really entertaining, and it works. People like to hear what you have to say, but you just have to figure out how to say it. And I think the best way to learn how to say things is to see how others who are good at speaking to others say them.

I hope that makes sense. If you want to chat about social dynamics, I'm actually really interested in thinking about that subject. I don't formally study it or anything, but I like to think I know about it to some degree.

Remember, you're gonna fuck up every now and then when you're trying to master this. I remember once in my developmental stages of the whole "social observation" ordeal, I told a really fucking stupid joke to this girl who I didn't know and she looked at me like I was crazy. Haven't talked to her since.

That sort of stuff will probably happen, but it's part of the learning process. You can't please everyone, after all.

Hope I could help you, dude bro. Best of luck.